i was wondering do you think that 14 y/o is too young for a boy to start dating? like on t.v they show it is like with already kissing girls at 13. but in real life do you think at 14 there mature enough to start dating?
im asking this cause my son is giving me signs he wants to start without just saying it. should i tell him its ok and i support him or should i tell him to wait?
i think he is also about normal maturity for his age if it helps.
2007-02-22 14:05:19 · 27 answers · asked by King Drew 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes. I am only in middle school...there are girls who have already had 1-2 boyfriends...but then again those are mostly the girls who are rich and preppy. i think its perfectly fine...if he wants to start u should let him...but he needs to assure u he wont be doing anything stupid and that hes mature enough. dont hold him back...my parents have never mentioned anything to me really about dating...so i would guess i could start when i wanted...but also my parents trust me. im not saying u dont trust ur son....im saying the opposite...u r actually thinking about letting him do it...which shows that u trust him...but ur concerned whether hes ready. u will never know until u let him try...dont try to smother him if he does start dating...but watch for him so you know what is going on.
i dont think any age is too young to start dating...i think its a learning process and as u go u will figure out if ur ready. sometimes kids have to find out for themselves...u cant stop them because YOU think they aren't or because u think they r too young...u don't really know. Kids can surprise u...but later on though...kids will also see what a relationship takes and they will find out for themselves. thats one of those things where u cant make the choice for them...the kids must see themselves.
2007-02-22 14:14:43 · answer #1 · answered by Teenager 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my parents are good parents and they don't mind at all. I dated when I was 12. That only lasted for a little while because I wasn't ready for a girlfriend yet. As long as I don't do anything too mature with a girl, I'm fine. Let your son date, it will add on nicely to his social skills and such. Just keep an eye on him that he won't boing- boing behind your back, if you know what I mean. Not that he will for sure. If he wants to date, I think you should give him a chance.
2007-02-22 14:09:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do believe 14 is too young. But the reality of it is that 14 yr olds are dating. I would talk to him and find out if he wants to date. If he does, find out if he knows why he wants to date. Talk about what it could lead to. Whether or not you give him permission, most kids will do it anyway. Make sure your lines of communication are open, that he knows how you feel and do it without making him feel you're judging him. Good Luck. I'm also in the same position.
2007-02-22 14:11:42 · answer #3 · answered by Try You 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any sort of 'dating' at this age is really pretend. They probably are not emotionally mature enough to have an actual adult commitment.
I would say its fine to let your son try it out and ease into it, but with so much information out there, you run the risk of him getting very sexual with his 'girlfriend'.
I can tell from experience when I was in middle school my 'boyfriend' and I were doing things we probably shouldn't have been doing.
Talk to your son about respect and self respect and doing the right thing if you're going to let him "date".
2007-02-22 14:11:13 · answer #4 · answered by kaye t 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think 14 is too young to start dating. actually, from my point of view, 14 is a good age to start dating. And yes u should support him with this cause if u dont he might not trust u with anything, i have seen this happen before. tell him that u have to meet the girl first before he can go out with her. its the best way. it works and if he is happy, thats the best thing! Good luck to u and ur son.
2007-02-22 14:11:06 · answer #5 · answered by smarthotchick 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WAIT. 14 is too young - playful flirting at school, fine - but anything else, no way. At that age, you give them an inch, they'll take a mile.
Kids just want to be grown up too fast... see all these shows on TV like dating is fun and whatnot but they don't see the flip side, how hard relationships are to maintain, break-ups.... I say slow down.
2007-02-22 14:12:37 · answer #6 · answered by luckyduckytwo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
14 is an ok age for group dating like asking a girl out and going to the movies as a group.
As a mother of 3 girls I would not let my girls single date until 16.
2007-02-22 14:11:35 · answer #7 · answered by jeeccentricx2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Group dating is OK at that age, but for the one on one dating I think he should wait. I try to keep my girls out of the dating scene until they are 15-16 by telling them I can't stand the thought of some thoughtless man-child breaking their hearts yet. GOOD LUCK!!
2007-02-22 14:10:14 · answer #8 · answered by tiki/more 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea 14 is an ok age if it would be 11 or 12 id say to wait but try to just make sure he doesnt get too serious because then he will miss whats left of his childhood and whats to come for his highschool years.
2007-02-22 14:42:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No 14 is not to young at all ,I'm a girl who is looking for a date to a 6Th grade dance and I'm 13.
2007-02-22 14:10:31 · answer #10 · answered by Mexican Gangsta 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋