Please help?

Question

I know that this is probably THE most common situation ever, but at least some were lucky enough to be with him/her even if it didnt last..the thing is that Ive never went out with this person or anything. This girl, I always had feelings for her for such a long time, and when I fiiinally admitted to myself that I was more than in "like" with her, I freaked and just started acting weird around her. God, she just makes me feel so, I dont think there's any words, Im actually bad at that. Anyway, knowing that I really do not have a chance with her at all, the best was to move on, b/c I dont see myself getting over her anytime soon, I just wanna know how to deal with it. How can I do that? Im just sooo damn tired of having to put up w/ these feelings, and not be able to do anything about it. Thanks.

I know that this is probably THE most common situation ever, but at least some were lucky enough to be with him/her even if it didnt last..the thing is that I've never went out with this person or anything. This girl, I always had feelings for her for such a long time, and when I fiiinally admitted to myself that I was more than in "like" with her, I freaked and just started acting weird around her. God, she just makes me feel so.. I dont think there's any words, Im actually bad at that. Anyway, knowing that I really do not have a chance with her at all, the best was to move on, b/c I dont see myself getting over her anytime soon, I just wanna know how to deal with it. How can I do that? Im just sooo damn tired of having to put up w/ these feelings, and not be able to do anything about it. Thanks.

Answer 1

This is one of those really difficult parts of life and yes it happens to everyone. I was just head over heels in love with this boy for 3 years but he didn't feel the same about me. I worked with him and it was so hard to be around him everyday feeling what I felt but not being able to act on those feelings because I couldn't make them go away. If I think about it to much even now I can still get those old feelings going again to. It's horrible. My only advice is to stop being around that person all together. and when she pops into your head push her away as fast as you can. That's the only thing that got me over him, that and finding someone new.

Answer 2

time will help. i know exactly how you feel. someone to talk to is good, but they can be hard to find. know that the person you talk to about it is a true friend. dealing with these feelings will be a pain, but it will pass. concerning the one i felt like that about, i never told her or anyone what i felt or thought. after having been away for a few years, i saw her again and told her how i had felt. she had felt the same way. we are still friends, but i don't think we will ever be the way i thought we would. hope this makes some sense.

Answer 3

do some things you like doing with your close friends. be active. do something fun. that can get your mind off of relationships. many people go through this spot. it sucks. really really does. but the best advice i can give you is that you should try to meet some new friends, like females. you know. the great quote goes "there is always more fish in the sea." but good luck and i hope this helped you at least in a little way.

Answer 4

Maybe you should just tell her how you feel, if she dosen't feel the same then owe well atleast you tried. You said you feel weird around her now so what will change if you go for it. However, if you truly want to move on you need to seperate yourself from this person completly to get rid of the feelings. You could also try to just get a crush on a different girl, then your feelings for this current girl may go away

Answer 5

It does happen to us all..... but I always recommend that LOVE be told ...... No matter what I feel in my own heart that anyone who does love should just say so.... It may not be returned, but how will you know if you do not take that chance and speak up ??? If you are shot down, you greive, sigh, sing a sad song, and move on.......there is NO easy way to go on, you just do or dont...... but if you dont, you may never find that ONE true love that is waiting out there........ God bless

Answer 6

first of all, try to get those bunched up feelings out! writing a letter to the girl is the best way! but every time you write, have the comfort of knowing you don't have to let anyone see it and you don't have to send it. then, if you want to tell her, practice in front of a mirror. if you wish to ask her out, get her in a romantical spot away from her friends... or even get help from her friends so it isn't that awkward.

Answer 7

im sorry that you are so frustrated..but are you positive that you cant get with her?...i mean for all you know she just never thought about it. there might be a possibiblity there. and your asking how to deal with your feelings i have no idea...all i can tell you is find something to occupy your time untill your over her...

Answer 8

have tryed exspressing you feeling to her. if you have done that and she is not intrested then i guess the only other thing to do is move on. mabey get together with some friends and go out. keeping your self bussy ushally helps. but i sugest talking with her first.

Answer 9

hey hearing your story,i sympathise with you..i understand how you feel..i ve been in your situation before..you alwaes think about that person everytime n you get frustrated..but by thinking about that person actually help you to forget her..but remember! dun ever avoid her..just be cool with her..aniwaes all the best to you! :) dun ever get depressed k? :)

Answer 10

Gather some good friends around you, relationships with friends will help you forget about her and help to balance you out and see that there is great value in your friends.