my friend loves me but i love his FRIEND what should i do? help!!!?

Question

i wont say my age but im between the ages 13-15 (and i could be 13 or 15) any ways im home schooled and my friend goes to a private school and he told me he loved me and he had a crush on me about 3 months ago then about a week ago his friend from his school came over and we became friends and i really love his friend but im afraid if i date his friend he will hate me


what should i do???

HELP!

Answer 1

Tell ur friend u love him but only as a friend. If he's a true friend he will understand.

Answer 2

just tell the guy who told you he loves you that you only like him as a friend and that you do not want to hurt his feelings.for the other guy you should get to know him better to see if he is your type not just a pretty face.

Answer 3

Just go with your feelings. Tell boy one that you think he is really nice and you would like him to stay your friend. However, you must also tell him that you like his friend very much and that you will go out with him.

Answer 4

Could you possibly be confusing having the feeling of being "in love" and true love?

Here's some information about love from the books Straight Talk About Teen Dating, Straight Talk About Dating, and True Love Lasts:

“Unfortunately, lots of people don’t know what true love is and that’s a big reason why a large number of marriage relationships are unhappy. Many people think that true love is just a feeling. You know, the wonderful head spinning feeling of being “in love.”

If true love is just a feeling, feelings come and go. But true love doesn't come and go. True love is patient and kind. It isn’t jealous, rude, selfish, controlling, or easily angered. It forgives. It’s supportive, loyal, hopeful, and trusting.

Unlike the feeling of being “in love” which is relatively easy to get especially during dating, true love usually develops slowly over a significant period of time (often years). True love is so much more than just the feeling of being “in love” - it’s supposed to be a mutual lifelong commitment. When you say that you love your significant other, you’re saying that you’re committed to loving them for the rest of your life - for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, from this day forward, until death do you part. True love lasts - it almost never fails.

Think of it this way, if a person has true love for another person, it’s like the sun - it’s always there no matter what (remember that even at night, the sun is still there, it’s just shining on the other side of the earth - and when it’s cloudy outside the sun is also still there, it’s just behind the clouds).

On the other hand, the feeling of being “in love” is like sunshine - even though we’d like it to be sunny every day, the truth is that the amount of sunshine changes regularly. Some days it’s nice and sunny and the feeling of being “in love” is strong, on others it’s partly cloudy and the feeling of being “in love” is there but it’s not very strong, and on other days it’s cloudy and the feeling of being “in love” is barely there at all. I’m hoping that this explanation is helping you to see that it’s possible for a person to have true love for another person and not have a strong intense feeling of being “in love” with that person at a particular moment. (If you talk with married couples, I think they’ll tell you that the strength of their feelings of being “in love” changes regularly.)

So when you hear someone say, “I don't love him or her anymore” - take it for what it usually is. It’s usually someone saying that they’ve lost the feeling of being “in love”, that they don’t know how or they’re not willing to make the effort required to get the feeling back, and that they probably never had true love for their significant other to begin with because true love almost never fails.

Many times I’ve heard young women say, “my boyfriend loves me.” Unfortunately, most of these women have been fooled. How could their boyfriend possibly have true love for them if their boyfriend doesn’t even know what true love is? Sadly many people marry when one or both people don't have true love for the other.

My first suggestion is that you put in the effort necessary to become a strong person (if you’re not already). A strong person has good character (honesty, integrity, trustworthiness), a positive attitude (cheerful, caring, friendly, forgiving, helpful, and respectful), fulfills their responsibilities (for handling pains in a positive way, for always trying to make a good choice, for taking care of themselves, for serving others), puts forth their best effort, and displays self-control (of their body, anger, tongue and money).

It’s going to be tough, but my second suggestion is that you forget about this guy unless he’s a strong person, and eventually look for this type of guy (otherwise you are setting yourself up for a broken heart). Unfortunately this type of man is difficult to find – but save yourself the heartache and don’t settle for less.

(Please remember that you eventually want a 40, 50, or 60 year marriage - not a 5 or 10 year marriage.)

Hope this helps!

Answer 5

honesty is the best policy
friendship is a rare gift....and so is love....you have to make a mature decision...be honest, tell the truth to both of them and let fate decide what happens next....

Answer 6

decide which one you like! if you love his friend than love is worth risking everything for.... all im gunna say is that guys come and go and friends are forever.... honestly do what you feel! but i think friends are more important!

Answer 7

Date both of them

Answer 8

be honest with both guys about how you feel and dont throw the word "love" around so much.

good luck.

Answer 9

you should go out with the kid that you like if he likes you. your friend, if he really is a friend should understand the situation.

Answer 10

AS I GUY I WOULD OF BEEN REALLY JELOUS IF THAT HAPPENED TOO ME AND MAYBE HE WOULDNT TALK TO YOU BUT TRY IT OUT GO OUT WITH HIS FRIEND