idk what to do.i am a sophomre in hs and dating a senior.I love him and our relationship just some stuff isnt as good as it should and can be.Hell sometimes touch my stomach and stuff even though i HATe it.im really self concious and it bugs me but he says he cant keep his hands off me.also...hes not the most attractive guy ive ever seen.hes so cute to me but sometimes ill walk down the hall in school and hell want to hold my hand but im not so huge on the pda sometimes i dont mind it but other times i do.but if i pull away he makes a comment like oh you wont hold me cause your friend is there or soemthing(my friends HATE pda) and i hear people make fun of him and ask why im giong out with him but they dont even know him and they make fun of him for going out with me-not his friends,they like me but other people in his grade.they call me a kindergartener and some say im ugly but others say im hott but when i hear im ugly it gets to me-bad.what do i do to make this relationship better?
2007-02-22 13:03:49 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay to clear some stuff up im 16 and hes 18. i will kiss him in the hall(not make out) and give him hugs and hold his hand but its weird at school cause my friends get mad at me cause they dont have boyfriends and they think pda is gross...especially since hes my best friends older brother(weve been tgoether a year) idk..its just weird when he tries to hold my hand in the class we have together especially.
2007-02-22 13:17:48 · update #1
so someone told me to tell him what i told you and guess what?!!? he wont talk to me...great
2007-02-23 09:00:52 · update #2
Being in high school is hard enough, hell being a teenager is hard. I'm 31 yrs old and I've learned that you need to forget about what anyone else says and do what you think is right and what makes YOU happy. As for pda, nothing is wrong with that. If you're uncomfortable with it, explain that to your bf, but don't avoid pda cuz YOUR FRIENDS don't like it. That sounds like you're being a follower. It's kind of like not liking someone cuz your friends don't. And your friends shouldn't dictate your personality, I mean that's what it sounds like. DAMN that peer pressure.
Bottom line, you shouldn't worry about what other people think or what they say. If you're happy with him so let it be. Once you're out of high school and you're my age, you'll think to yourself how dumb you were for not doing things differently. Why do you need to make this relationship better? It sounds to me like it's not a good relationship to you cuz your peers think it's not. Why are you letting others dictate your relationship?
As for your self consciousness about your tummy. If he loves it then that's all that should matter.
2007-02-22 13:13:35 · answer #1 · answered by glittereyedg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hs can be one of the most horrible places for people to have a relationship because every1 ahs an opinion and it can be a bad one or a good one i say just ignore all the bad things that come out of peoples mouths sometimes they can b straight up mean tell ur bf how you feel and then try not to be so scared of what people will think of you 2 b proud to be with him.
2007-02-22 21:15:18 · answer #2 · answered by ~Jessy~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you just don't like him touching you, it makes you feel uncomfortable. If you're embarrassed to hold your boyfriend's hand why the hell are you dating him? It doesn't matter what other people think about you guys. If you liked each other enough you'd stick together and find a way to make it work.
2007-02-22 21:08:33 · answer #3 · answered by KiSSme&beINt0xiCaTeD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should be searching for how to make this relationship better...it seems like you are stressing out about this situation more than you need to be.
From a girl who was in your situation, just end the relationship, focus on school, because in 10 years you won't even remember this guy's name! Good luck, you sound like a sweetheart!
2007-02-22 21:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the only thing that could make u'r relationship better is to focus on u'r relationship and not what others think....If you love him then who cares......if the others see how into eachother u 2 are then maybe they will take that into concideration and be more respectful about the kind of comments they make
2007-02-22 21:12:24 · answer #5 · answered by adamsgrl1123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, seriously, high school is such a drama fest. Just focus on your relationship and what you're feeling. It really doesn't matter what other people think of either of you or your relationship because they have no say in anything. Besides, when he graduates it'll be different too.
2007-02-22 21:09:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
holding hands is not a pda. making out in the hall is a pda. Your a sophomore, im in 8th grade and im not afraid to hold a guys hand.....can i say mayb thats why they are calling you a kindergartner
2007-02-22 21:08:21 · answer #7 · answered by swimchicka2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you are comfortable in your relationship then you should be fine with holding hands in public. Who cares what other people say and think. Are you going to let other people dictate your life for you? And if either one of your friends are involved with this taunting then they are not your true friends.
2007-02-22 21:08:16 · answer #8 · answered by dolphinnut798 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay first clear out the things between you and your boyfriend if he still tries to touch you then it is really a time to dump him ... after all he got a bad reputation and it got your bad too now
2007-02-22 21:09:32 · answer #9 · answered by Ritu m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how old are you and him. Are you a conservative gal?? Why does these gossipping hurt you that much. Just ignore all these gossipping.
Next bout your horny hand BF, just let him know how you feel and ask him to respect you. If that does not conclude anything... *sigh..... smack him on the face to get his attention.
2007-02-22 21:12:59 · answer #10 · answered by Med 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋