there is a woman I work with who is 33 and has four children...her husband ( only by common law, they never married) is a complete jerk and has treated her as such for about 15 years. she says she doesn't love him and that she will never marry him...so with that in mind I told her how I felt about her...she was responsive saying I was "generous", "very handsome" "mature" and that she was honored that I felt deeply for her...but she tells me that I am too young for her (im 24) and that I could find much better than her. She also told me that I wouldnt want her after she loses her looks....i know she feels for me also...but I think she's scared...how can I make her feel at ease about this? Should I give her time, tell her how much she means to me, constantly reassure her of my intentions etc....hopefully some of you can give me a little help...thanks
2007-02-22 12:59:40 · 6 answers · asked by joemoe23 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was a loser till i seen the error of my ways thanks to the woman i am with now and LOVE
2007-02-22 13:07:00 · answer #1 · answered by colin050659 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about some good news? There is a chemistry which happens between two people in this lifetime. If it is there, there is nothing you can do to destroy it. If it is not there, there is nothing you can do to create it. If there is natural chemistry between the two of you, you no longer have to jump through hoops of fire, nor say any magic words, and she will be able to relax, and just enjoy being who she is when she is with you. In other words, if you both will be natural and genuine with one another, you will doubtless be drawn closer and closer. You do not have to figure this all out beforehand, and you do not have to hunt for the right words. That wonderful, beautiful chemistry will figure it all for both of you. And the two of you can come along for the ride...
2007-02-22 13:10:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women stay with losers because they don't think that they deserve anything better or can get/keep anyone better. Self esteem issues...unfortunately a very common thing for most women these days. She needs to fix herself before she can ever be in a healthy relationship.
2007-02-22 13:21:58 · answer #3 · answered by autumn0253 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
uuuum she needs counsleing if she is stayng with this loser--she needs to grow some balls and tell him to kick rocks and pound pavement.....Why she puts up with im is beyound me...Maybe she feels like she cant do any better....maybe its just for the convience of his fiancel help...maybe maybe maybe..... You need to come right out and ASK her why she is with him if he treats her like crap and she doesnt love him and never marry him.....Could be for the sake of their kids so they have both parents together---maybe she is trying to teach them to try to work things out before giving up so easily...she seriously sounds in need of counseling though...... as for her saying your too young thats a crock of crap..... she sounds too afraid to get involved with you for fear of what her peers/family/friends will say to her..... society can be harsh.... but your not too young..... she doesnt deserve you.... just remain her friend thats all you can do since you have already told her how you felt.....If you want to know how she honestly feels about you you need to ask her and dont be afraid..... if you dont like her answer then oh well....move on...theres someone out there for you......Good luck
2007-02-22 13:10:51 · answer #4 · answered by Tbrat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Colin0506 - Super. This is the coolest answer I have read here.
Yes my gf helps me a lot . She stands by me, when times were hard. I give her all back. Paid in LOVE
2007-02-22 13:49:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she stays because she has low self esteem and if I were you I would move on
2007-02-22 13:15:48 · answer #6 · answered by jeff b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋