is it possible to have feelings for the guy that raped you when you were a kid
2007-02-22 12:48:17 · 23 answers · asked by confused emo gurl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i guess, kind of weird, dont you just want to hate him. i mean he caused you pain, but whose love dosnt cause them pain.
2007-02-22 12:52:33 · answer #1 · answered by azehriad 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it's possible. It's called post tramatic stress disorder, or PTSD. 31% of rape and molestation victims develop PTSD. If you are having feelings for your molester/rapist, you really should contact the Rape and Incest National Network for help. You can call the National Sexual Assault Hotline, operated by RAINN, 24 hours a day at 1-800-656-HOPE (4673). You can search for the Rape Crisis Center in your community at the link listed in sources below. All you have to do is enter your zip code in the box on their webpage.
The MOST IMPORTANT THING for you to remember is that the rape/molestation was NOT your fault, not in any way. Contrary to what the two people above said, a child can not consent to sex. Rapists and molesters choose their victims to find ones that they think won't tell. They spend time cultivating victims, so that the victim does feel for the molester. That is not a character flaw about you...it shows how manipulative and evil molesters are. You were a child, and you were not responsible for the harm that came to you--only the molester is responsible for that. One of the side effects of being molested/raped is the very feelings you are having right now. Please get help from RAINN. They care about you and will refer you to the appropriate people to help you through this.
((((hugs))))
2007-02-22 21:02:25 · answer #2 · answered by Texasippi Girl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Was he a boyfriend, or a family member? I doubt u would love him if he was just a complete stranger who jumped out of the bushes and raped you, I'm assuming he's someone you know, even as an aquaintance. You my want to elaborate your answer. I don't think your crazy or weird to have feelings for this person BUT I do think there's a reason behind it. Maybe you should talk to someone about it. I wish I could help more.
Good luck:)
2007-02-22 20:53:26 · answer #3 · answered by sweet kisses 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was raped when I was young my my mother's ex-boyfriend. I had to go to therapy for a month or two when I was like, 9-years-old. My therapist told me that most kids who were molested as children grow up with issues. He told me that once you hit puberty, the thing that traumatized you as a child would be attractive. It never happened to me, but that's probably what's happening with you. You need to get immediate professional help. Good luck.
Love always-- Summer Hampton*
2007-02-22 20:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by Summer Hampton 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
no never can and never happen and obviously u got some serious issues maybe some religion beliefs or christians who have had u come to believe u should marry and be with one who raped and molested u but no u shouldnt bother with person and have remorse hate for him and if u bother and have feelings ur looking for what ever comes out of it and u should bring it on yourself cause he could rape molest u again or younger people a part of ur life if u were to have a long term realtionship with him.
2007-02-22 20:55:25 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it is possible I dont know who would even want to look at the person who raped them when they were younger but it is possible to having feelings for anyone.
2007-02-22 20:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps you wanted sex with him and too shy to tell it and when he forced you, you enjoyed it the physical contact with him (as you claimed you were raped) and now you are not sure if you are in love with him. Whatever way you think, its your life. You ought to make the final decision. Take care.
2007-02-22 20:53:36 · answer #7 · answered by sweet_gal 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Talk to a counselor at your local mental health agency. It is normal to be confused and your attacker to try to manipulate your feelings.
Stay away from this person, he is not healthy for you to be around or have a relationship with. good luck.
2007-02-22 20:54:53 · answer #8 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Anything is possible, if you say you do, then you do.
Now I know this wasn't your question, but please, please, please, get some professional help if you haven't already. Feelings are not right or wrong, but they can lead to actions you will regret later. There may be all sorts of reasons you would be attracted to someone that violated you, a therapist will explain it, but you MUST recognize this person for who and what he is.
2007-02-22 20:53:51 · answer #9 · answered by clueless_nerd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible, but it's probably best that you forget about him if he raped you.
2007-02-22 20:55:57 · answer #10 · answered by latios05 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would KILL the guy who raped me if I saw him
2007-02-22 20:52:39 · answer #11 · answered by Catcanscratch 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋