Ok so i like this guy, a lot, because he's really nice, hes a total gentleman, and he's totally cute. But.....He's a troublemaker. BIG TIME! some of my friends say go for it, other's say move on. I just don't know wat to do. I'm a christian girl, not the type of person to like a troublemaker. But wen u get to know him, he's really sweet. He is a good person who makes very bad choices. wat should i do?
2007-02-22 12:34:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well... what i always tell myself... i shouldnt like some one... if that some one dont like me back in return... so find out if he really likes you back... and if he cares... he'll do things that would make you happy... and take to him... what you like and dont like... there needs to be a solid communication... if there isnt... people just go on doing there own thing... and then the next thing you know... some one gets hurt... its all up to you... no one can choose who you could and could not go out with... its your life... but make sure its right in GODs' eyes... because he's always watching over us...
2007-02-22 12:44:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is between the ages of 16 and 21 I say hes got somewhat of an excuse as to the bad choices. If he is older, then I say you will be taking a big risk. Don't you want a mature man? One that thinks before he acts. Not one you will have bring up. Who is always suffering the negitive consequences of his bad decisions? Its time for him to grow up. You can still have fun without living on the edge of trouble all of the time. I would give getting involved with this guy some serious thought.
2007-02-22 20:44:54 · answer #2 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much of a "troublemaker" are we talking about here? Does this mean he likes to cut up in school, or are we talking about "trouble" with the law?
If it's the latter, leave him alone. What he's done could follow him for the rest of his life. We ARE the company we keep, Sweetie.
2007-02-22 20:43:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to be a troublemaker, don't hand out with one, because even if you don't DO anything people will judge you.
Keep the relationship casual but friendly. No need to blow him off! Just make certain there is a certain amount of distance.
2007-02-22 20:39:20 · answer #4 · answered by blimey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can a troublemaker consider a gentlemen??
If that is his attitude or way of living, it is hard for you to do anything as you're nothing to him but just a friend.
Therefore as a friend, you can only advise him and not annoy him.
2007-02-22 20:39:59 · answer #5 · answered by Med 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you what WOULD happen if you two got together: You would be trying to change him and he would get aggrivated by that, then you would get upset because you can't change him then all hell will break loose. Unless you can learn to be happy with what and who he is then it will never work. Just cause you are a Christian does not mean the people you date have to be. Don't let your religion keep you from enjoying life, they are the ties that bind... you to the ground and let life pass you by.
Jonesy
2007-02-22 20:40:57 · answer #6 · answered by Jonesy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this can go either way... you could make him go good or he'll make you go bad. chances are he'll make you go bad. as it is easier and more fun than being good. you need to explain to him he cant mess around and if he does then you wont be able to be with him. if he's into you he will out the effort in and prove that he can be good. but dont forget you have to remain in teh middle, dont start taking sides and if you have to then pick your family and that as they will always be there and he wont. but give the guy a chance to prove himself. he might show you a whole other side of him. plus it wouldnt hurt for you to have a bit of fun with him! good luck babe
2007-02-22 20:40:56 · answer #7 · answered by young, hot, and Aussie! (chick) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you're looking for a little excitement. Which can be fun but can get old and boring and could lead to trouble. Decision time. Up to you. Good Luck.
2007-02-22 20:39:31 · answer #8 · answered by Smarty Pants™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself how much trouble you think you can handle. If someone repeatedly makes bad choices, you have to wonder about why you'd want to be with him in the first place. (Don't get any great ideas about "changing" him or "saving" him. It doesn't work that way.)
2007-02-22 20:38:56 · answer #9 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im all that but not a troublemaker a real cool guy lol
2007-02-22 20:40:03 · answer #10 · answered by $$$$$$$$ice man$$$$$$$$ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋