Theres this guy at my high school who is really nice and funny and (in my opinion) good looking. He is in three of my classes. In the first one, he practically ignores me, is a bit more interested in the second one but gives me a lot of attention in the last one, woodshop. There are only three girls in this last class, including myself. He helps me out and gave me a hug when I was scared to use one of the big saws. He seems to bump into me a lot, but it always seeme like an accident. He sometimes stares at certain body parts of mine, but we have really great conversations too. He's nice, smart and funny and I would consider going out with him. Does it sound likes he's being friendly, or perverted?
2007-02-22 12:32:07 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think he's friendly, and really likes you, but sometimes he can't help himself and shows some of his "covets". It isn't sexual harassment unless you feel really uncomfortable when he does something.
2007-02-22 12:36:04 · answer #1 · answered by julia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is sexual harrassment when you have to ask a question like this.
Seriously, if you are uncomfortable, then it has stopped being friendly.
To me, it doesn't sound like he is that different from a "normal" boy at his age. In the other classes, there really isn't that much for him to do (most boys like to be active instead of sitting in a class), but in woodshop, he is free to move around and help out. Maybe, he doesn't know what else to say to you in the other classes, but in this one he is in his element and therefor more secure.
Honestly, from what you have said, he does not sound like a bad guy. Give him a chance, and maybe ask him out to lunch and see where it could go.
Have fun, but if someone is getting a little too close for comfort, let them know about it. Being nice does not have to mean that you are a doormat.
Good luck.
2007-02-22 12:39:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he's sounds perverted... but shy. It seems that the first class may not be the subject that he comfortable with expressing himself in. The second class must be a class that he is more familiar with and the last class must be his forte. I think he has a chance to impress you in the woodshop class because he knows more about the subject. When you know a lot about a subject you tend to become cocky, so maybe that's what happens in the last class. All in all, he's trying to impress you and he's attracted to you.
2007-02-22 12:38:07 · answer #3 · answered by ayesham77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
young adult,
sound like a nice guy but it is always better safe than sorry. I would use all the classes to find out more about him. Ask him most about his family and his relationship with parents and siblings. So much of who we are comes from our closest relationships at home. if you do end up going out i suggest you start slow and maybe with a group of friends. Watch how he treats the people who wait on you at the restaurant (this is a great indicator of how he treats people). After all, dating is meant to allow you to get to know who the person is...not some sick physical progression towards intimacy, but rather the chance to find out if he really is the man of your dreams. You have a good head on your shoulders, so trust what you think and see and make sure you talk to the people you trust in order to get their input. Good Luck young adult!
2007-02-22 12:40:14 · answer #4 · answered by rob k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendly and interested! May have a nice bf there, you need to encourage the looks and hug HIM back sometimes... let him know you're interested too! Remember, guys are JUST AS SCARED at first as you are!
2007-02-22 12:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by barefoot_always 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask this question then you obviously believe it's more harassment then flirting. When it starts to be uncomfortable, annoying, inappropriate, and the fun is gone that's when it's harassment. I had to deal with a lot of this, when you get the warning signs in your tummy that the fella is no good then don't ignore it. Don't let it get too far like I did. It started with guys staring at my boobs or "certain body parts". I had these guys that would corner me in hallways rubbing up against me, peeping in my windows at home, exposing themselves and masturbating saying my name, yelling things when I got off the bus, making sex noises when they saw me. I think I realized I let it get too far when one of them was in my house staring at me while I was asleep. I couldn't hack it anymore in the 11th grade I transferred to an all girls school. I let it get that far that it drove me out of school where all my friends were. I started wearing bulky clothing, trying to make myself less attract to protect myself. Don't let it get too far =(
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2007-02-22 12:51:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is just staring at your body parts and not your face then he is a pervert. It is ok if he stares at your body parts because thats natural male behavior but if all he is doing is looking at your breasts and butt and whatever else then in all likely hood i think he just want to have sex with u. If he paying attention to your face as well then there might be some hope that he has feelings for u. A clue u said he only checks u out during last class it looks like the only reason he can be doing so is that your in his oppinion the only decent girl to look at. In all likely hood your prob just a peice of meat to look at to him but thats not for sure. If i was u i wouldn't consider going out with him because if he really had any kind of feelings for u he would be paying extra attention to u in each class not just that 1 in all likely hood your prob just a peice of meat to stare at to him but if u really like him then mebe try spending more tine with him who knows mebe u can get him to like ya more then just for your body.
2007-02-22 12:43:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendly! He likes you!
No, its not sexual harassment. Sexual harassment is when he makes nasty comments about your body, or tries to touch you.
No, this is just friendly flirting. Flirt back! This could be the start of an interesting relationship!
2007-02-22 12:36:17 · answer #8 · answered by blimey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First u need to ask yourself why he only pays attention to u in work shop.Maybe because of all the other guys are around.You did say that class had almost all guys.You need to try and talk to him in the other classes.If he doesn't hardly talk to u then u have your answer.He is just acting infront of the guys. Good luck
2007-02-22 12:40:07 · answer #9 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Scared to use the big saw"...and I'm sure you just needed that hug to get over it...If you think he's perverted, why would you consider going out with him ?
Obviously he's immature and you're a flirt (or a tease) !
AND you're probably not that good looking since he ignores you until the 'field' is down to three 'shop' girls...
Just reading what YOU wrote...read it, learn it, live it...
2007-02-22 12:39:24 · answer #10 · answered by Mr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋