Which guy should i spend the rest of my life with Peter or Tom? I have known Peter for the last 15 years & we've been dating on and off. After we broke off for the second time in 1999, I left the country and came to the US while he went to Austraria and we lost contact. In 2002, we resumed communication thro' a friend and has been talking since then but haven't been able to meet physically. He says he wants to marry me and he is 110% sure that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me coz in all those years he has never loved anybody else like the way he loves me. He is ambitious and well focused in life BUT not a born again christian like me and drinks occasionally. Tom on the other hand we started dating late 2004 when I got saved and broke off with Peter, he is a born again christian,brings the best out of me and focused in life too. Peter has refused to let go, wants me to move to Austraria whereas Tom has all these plans about our future and I just don't know what to do HELP!
2007-02-22 12:25:19 · 8 answers · asked by LeleCK 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have a feeling that Peter is not the best choice. First of all, you dated on and off, so that means if you guys marry Peter might just have a spur-of-the-moment thing and stop loving you for a few years. Also, he is trying to make you move to Australia, but if he truly respected your opinions, he would consider what your feelings are about the matter before proposing that you just move. He also drinks, which may lead to further problems later on, possibly after marriage. I think that he has passionate feelings for you, but his feelings are not true and real and 100 percent all the time (more like on and off).
On the other hand, I think Tom might be the better choice for you. The fact that he brings out the best of you and is focused in life too makes him a good life partner. Also, he has plans for the future, which is such a good sign that he is ready and has actual goals he wants to achieve together with you.
2007-02-22 12:31:25 · answer #1 · answered by julia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Peter or Tom??? I really dont know ALL the factors but I do believe that if both men were local the situation would be different. Have you ever considered telling Peter the things about him that you dont like (i.e. non Christian, his drinking etc.) and giving him a time frame to change, an ultimatum so to say, and see if loves you enough to put your needs before his. if so then you have some real thinking to do. As the situation stands it seeme like you are with Tom because he is local and you have grown comfortabe with the idea of him being around. It sounds to me that you still are in love with the Peter or at least the Peter you knew awhile ago. Only you can make the best decision for you. I think Tom sounds like the better match but GOOD LUCK YOU SURE NEED IT!!!
2007-02-23 04:05:01 · answer #2 · answered by Friday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think Tom. You have been on and off with Peter. If these are relationship problems, I don't think he's the best choice. Tom, however, has plans, is successful, and hopefully makes you happy.
2007-02-22 12:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by nobody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds obvious Tom. but think about like this. can you live with out Peter? can you live with out Tom ? can you live with some one who is not a born again christian when you are ? you guys aren't supposed to marry non Christians right ? so can you do that ?
2007-02-22 12:29:46 · answer #4 · answered by ~*These Blue Eyes Tell No Lies*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a million. I did marry somebody who had many sexual relationships in the previous he met me. 2. i like journey by way of fact i might rather study, no longer any opposite direction around. call me shallow, yet i like sturdy intercourse. 3. No. i do no longer care what he did in his previous nor am a jealous approximately what he did in his previous. 4. i think of that is unrealistic. might you purchase a automobile you have by no skill pushed? 5. No, in view that chasity became no longer an argument. 6. I do think of that's a superb bond to renowned you have been each others first besides the incontrovertible fact that that is would not make or harm a marriage. seem at Jessica Simpson. Her viriginiy did no longer shop her marriage. 7. would not faze me.
2016-09-29 12:07:23 · answer #5 · answered by puzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow it seems to me that ur heart is very very very confussed if i was u i will take tha time to see which guy u can c urself with in tha future like Tom might have all these plans for u guys but is tha what u want and r his plans fittable for ur needs also then theirs Peter do u know in ur heart that u can make that move
all im sayig if i was u i wouldnt move to far from my FAMILy and friends i mean hey if things doesnt work out u need something to fall back on.............thank about it
2007-02-22 12:33:54 · answer #6 · answered by ~Tranell~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where do you see yourself in 10 years and who is going to take you there?
is it really gonna work out with Peter, i mean if y'all have broken up several times before...and Tom, if he can't work with your beleifs...
neither is a choice too. you have been on these 2 guys for so long, maybe you should see what else is out there.
2007-02-22 12:30:22 · answer #7 · answered by Audrey D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart
2007-02-22 12:28:21 · answer #8 · answered by AnyaNledo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋