HELP ME! I Am VERY SAD and I feel HATED [Details Inside]?

Question

My family is so mad at me and I feel so sad. They say its my mouth that gets me into trouble and stuff cause I talkk back to my parents. My parents are the old fashioned type.

A few days ago my dad went on my MSN account and read all my contacts and I had guys on my contact list (duh??!?) and he got mad and wondered what I talked to them about. Like HELLO!?! Whats wrong with TALKING to them. They are people too.

And I get yelled at and stuff an I cant stand it. And whenever Im on the computer my parents are constantly hovering over my shoulder.

PLEASE HELP ME! I am constantly being yelled at and stuff and I feel hated. Please ANSWER. And PLEASE email me if you need any more info on my problem. Id be so GLAD if you could help.

Answer 1

Well I can understand why your parents are upset.You are young and here you are inviting Us, complete strangers, to answer and e-mail you. Stop and think that anyone who was a victim of an internet predator never thought they would ever be a victim. They always assumed they were too smart to fall into a trap.Think about it.Who are we male or female, young or old, student or ex-con, what are our intentions,etc. I could go on but you get the idea. Your parents love you and are worried about who may be "talking" to you.It is very difficult to be a teen and it is also difficult to be a parent.Try to show respect towards your parents.Maybe try sit down with your parents and try to TALK and LISTEN to each other.More people will listen to a whisper than a shout.

Answer 2

Well I am sorry that you and your parents are fighting. I know that this is not easy for you.

First let me lovingly tell you that you do have a bit of an attitude. Try being polite when you talk to your parents.

Secoundly, your parents do need to check up on what your are doing because there are so many hidden dangers on the internet. I know that guys are people, but there are child preditors out there. My neice fell victom to this not to long ago when she met a guy off the internet. She went to meet him somewhere and he turned out to be a lot older than he said. The police showed up and she had been harmed. I can not say in what way. She is a teenager just like yourself, and sometimes your parents know what is best for you.

I look over my best friends childrens shoulder when they are at my house because I know the dangers out there, and They don't like it any better than you, but I do back off some if they treat me with respect and they can show me that they can be responsible on the computer.

You have probably heard this a hundred times but when you get married and have children you will understand for better than you do now. Be patient with your parents and be kind.

Now your parents are wrong if they cop an attitude as well at you. They should talk to you with respect as well, and though they are looking over your shoulder they do need to let you have a bit of breathing room. At least they are up front with you and let you know they are looking some parents do not let their children know they are looking.

Answer 3

The last thing you should feel is hated. They are trying to protect you. Most kids parents don't care what they do. It's not you they don't trust but all the other people in the world. There are a lot of bad people out there and they don't want you to experience to much too fast. I remember feeling like you do now but life will seem so different to you in a couple of years. You will grow to appreciate the way your parents looked out for you. And then wait till you have kids of your own. Give your parents the respect they deserve. Because no matter how bad you are they will be the one to help you if something bad ever happens.

Answer 4

Well smarten up. You don't get yelled at for no reason. Just learn to hold your tongue. Don't yell at your parents, have respect. He doesn't allow you on the computer so much because he doesn't trust you, or the people behind the monitors. There's a lot of danger on the internet especially if you're not web smart. It's just all for you own good. You'll thank them when you're older, just give it a few years.

We can't help you, or do anything to help you. Unless you listen to our advice, which I highly doubt you will. So, hold your tongue, have respect, and accept that your parents are trying to protect you.

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Answer 5

You should be sad for talking back to your parents. You have to have respect for them before you can gain their respect. They may be the old fashion type but that is because they care for you and want you to become a respectable young lady. They don`t hate you, they love you and this is why they are doing this. You need to work with them and not want everything you way. As far as talking to guys on the net, they are right because people lie about things (not all) to prey on young girls & boys, you have to be very care. DON`T BE SAD AND DON`T FEEL HATED because I`m sure you are not. Just work with your parents, they are there for you.

Answer 6

Try another respectful approach with your parents. I know it's hard to accept criticism, but your parents are your parents and know what is best for you. You will thank them later for the discipline they give you now. Take criticism as a sign that you need to change how you do things. It's a part of growing as a person.
As you grow older, your parents can become your best friends...if you change your attitude now and realize they are trying to help you grow into a smart adult.

Answer 7

TALK TO THEM CALMLY ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL>The reason your Dad went on your MSN account is because he is a responsible Father. Have you not heard of predators on line? They are suppose to watch what your doing on line. That is what makes them good parents. Just go to your account and do what you normally do. If your doing something wrong they will tell you. Don't take it personnally. They are just there trying to protect you.

Answer 8

Maybe you should try and think of what the consequences of your behavior and the words you say will be before you act. Take time to think before you open your mouth. Hurtful words once said can't be taken back. Show your parents through your behavior that they can trust you. Be patient.............it takes time.

Answer 9

well for one thing- you need to get it straight with your dad. tell him politely but firmly that you talk to boys just as much as you do to girls (even if it isn't entirely true) and they are your friends.

when you are about to talk back to your parents, try to compromise with them. if its about homework first vs. calling up a friend, try to find a solution that both of you can agree on.

i hate it when my parents are hovering over my shoulder too, so just ask them politely to leave so that you can have privacy.

Good luck!

Answer 10

You're lucky your parents care..think of the families who lost a child because of who they met on the internet...try to put yourself in their shoes...