This is SO frustrating ok, the problem I have is a classical one, going up to girls and chatting to them or a girl I really think is cute in my lectures (im a 20yr old guy). All I know is romance (old school style you could say), I believe so much in love and treating a woman with respect and wooing her through charm & I know I can cos I love romantic music, meals, movies, walks holding hands, lying/sleeping under the stars I LOVE ALL THAT AND NO IM NOT GAY! I LOVE, LOVE and I want to be with a woman so badly@the mo. Im not a player but in a group of ppl im the shy, quiet 1, the 1ppl see as the honest nice bloke who doesnt say tons but does open up when feels comfy with ppl&doesnt say a bad word about anyone even though I may not agree on somepoints I'll be diplomatic bt im always helpful 2friends &ppl &extremely chivalrous towards women who I knw @ Uni who r cute but im chivalrous as a rule but not as much so when helping some girls Ive got the hots for.
Am I going wrong somewhere??
2007-02-22 12:03:24 · 7 answers · asked by Music fan 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im not a bad bloke at all and people do like me, people say hi to me and some smile as they walk by and are nice and friendly because I guess they realise im quiet but im not fully opening up and its annoying because I want people to know the full me not the restricted person that they see. Ive got no record to hide or anything like that im just shy and possibly I suppose a bit self concious, my friends see me as the helpful one just because im nice and I guess somewomen can see a sweet guy coming through womens intuition so now and then some cute hottys smile and say hi, make me feel lucky but its nice to be checked out and feel as if youve passed a cute person eye candy test but I just want to be in love and wooo someone so much I miss romance and the feeling of unity withsome one who is my bestest buddy so ladies esp. hopefully having an idea of the kinda guy I am what would you suggest I talk about when approaching women besides the obvious of nice top and beautiful hair, eyes etc?
2007-02-22 12:09:08 · update #1
One of the best things you have going for you is the desire to be with a woman. You have the desire to be romantic. You have the necessary interest. It must be very frustrating to you to have to wait with all that inside you. I frankly don't understand women at all. It always seems like I would have to jump through hoops of fire just to get them to be decent and speak to me kindly. When you are stuck with that kind of mess-up on such a basic level, yes, it takes courage to still stay interested. So that is why I say you are fortunate you already have the desire. I treat women kindly, but I do not invite intimacy. You are different. You would like to dine, chat, walk, dance - and everything. Perhaps you would be a great find if a woman spotted you for who you are. Perhaps that is the answer. Like someone else here told you, just be YOU. Remember that Budweiser ad? "This is who I am. This is what I do." (And in the ad, "This is what I drink.") There are no answers to things which haven't happened yet. Just keep putting yourself out there where women will see you and occasionally you might even speak to one here and there, and eventually you will find one of them clear enough within herself to respond to you in a nice way and not with clever sarcasm or that regal indifference which characterizes so many women these days. Believe it or not, I wish you all the success in the world just being yourself with women. Sooner or later, some woman will just adore you because you are authentic and the real item. - C.
2007-02-22 12:30:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are so sweet its hard these days to find a guy like you and for me am just like i can't really get up the guts to talk to a guy that's eyeing you what you should do if you meet a girl you like you should start by asking how she's doing and once you get into talking with her you could ask her if she minds going with you to have a drink i see nothing wrong with the way you are you are fine the way you are and i would not change for the world.
2007-02-23 05:45:29 · answer #2 · answered by Demetra P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If You Dont Talk Much You Will Get Know Wer !! Talk 2 These Girls Chalm Them !! Pick The One You Like Most And Ask Her To Join You For A Drink !! Just Go With The Flow !! Talk More Express Yourself More !! Good Luck !!
2007-02-22 12:10:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Make yourself be heard, you sound like you follow crowd but don't do jack. Girls notice boys who have a mind of their own and don't act desperate. stop whining and go chat up the next girl you see thats hot, if she says no laugh it off, it's her loss. Stop trying so hard and stressing over it. go out and enjoy life then love will come calling without you even noticing at first. Stop chtting about old skool romances . Who cares???? meet a girl, have fun and take it day by day don't plan weddings, kids etc on first date.
2007-02-22 12:11:55 · answer #4 · answered by Shammy B 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Chill out a bit, my friend!
I was like you at school. But then I started thinking 'sod it'. From that moment, I became more natural, and things with girls started improving. From there I became more confident; more girl friends; more confidence, ad infinitum. In the end it was the other way round, and girls started chatting me up.
So - just stop trying so hard. And don't take the chivalry too far.
Good hunting!
2007-02-22 12:14:27 · answer #5 · answered by Bunts 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you write her a note, saying exactly what you have put here?
Tell her you're a romantic, tell her you're crap at this stuff, tell her you love her from afar (possibly not that one!), tell her you are honest and chivalrous.
All these things, if you put them to paper will be all the more memorable, and sweet (yuck!)..
Be sure to put it on proper paper, with a proper envelope. Try parchment paper. Looks posh, feels good!
E-mail me in 4 days and tell me how right I was!
2007-02-22 12:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by Moorglademover 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
just be you and take things slow if you rush you kill it mid stream take your time ask her out to a party and be the perfect gent treat her like a lady then step back this will intrigue her and she will want to know more the more time you take getting to know her the better it will be for you in the end
2007-02-22 12:11:28 · answer #7 · answered by top cat 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋