When we were friends she loved me, whe we got together everything was fine. The closer we got the worse it got. Now that the wedding is less than a year away she doesn't like me at all.Which makes me not really like her. i don't want it to be like this forever but I am worried she is just to bitter and miserable to be happy for us. Hes kinda a mama's boy too...is there any hope? Or is everything you hear about the mother-in-law true?
2007-02-22 12:03:03 · 15 answers · asked by Natalie L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
is your mother in law the devil...uhhh no...mine is...haha just kidding..dont sweat it...my fiance is a mommas boy and ive learned to let her be bitter and kill her with kindness and it makes you look like the better person...
2007-02-22 12:09:46 · answer #1 · answered by torrescy21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everything you hear about the mother-in-law is true. Me and my future mother-in-law are so close. She's been extremely helpful in planning the wedding, honeymoon and all. She also understands that sometimes we need our space. And I understand where you're coming from...my fiance is a total mama's boy. Before we got together she would come to his house and cook his dinner everyday, wash his clothes 3 times a week, and drop off and pick up his dry cleaning. She did all this while maintaining a marriage of her own. But she has backed off a lot now and allows me to be the leading lady in his life. Maybe you should give his mom time to adjust to everything that's happening but if she never does then so what! You'll be the number one woman in his life and you'll be all that matters.
Good Luck!
2007-02-22 22:40:12 · answer #2 · answered by Justyn's Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't think your mother-in-law is the devil..... That position was already filled by MY monster-in-law.
If he's a mama's boy, you might have a really hard time with this in the future.... If he doesn't see anything wrong with her behavior, you're going to be in for a long, long relationship/marriage. If he's on your side, it might be ok.
I got lucky, my hubby hates his mother... So, its not too bad at times. But, even though he hates her, he still tolerates her... Which has caused some serious fights, and continues to irritate me... constantly. (she lives down the block)
*sigh*
If you guys will be far enough away from her that you don't have to interact too much, it'll be ok.... Otherwise, consider some pre-marriage therapy. Its better to talk about it with a mediator, before hand....
Goodluck!
Good luck...
2007-02-22 20:18:30 · answer #3 · answered by Custo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down with her and talk things out. Trust me, it will only get worse after you get married. It could be that it is just a misunderstanding. For your own happiness and state of mind(as well as your future husband and family) you should do what it takes to smooth things out.
Also, explain to your fiance how you're feeling and that you want to make things right with her. If he's a real man, he will stand up to her if she is doing you wrong.
If she still wants to be a meddlesome mother-in-law, then you can at least have peace in knowing you've done everything you could to make things right and then it's just her karma now.
2007-02-22 20:14:24 · answer #4 · answered by abbacat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many new wives think that their mother in laws are evil devils that are out to make their lives living heck, I have one that is just the same way, but they will learn to love you and of course always remember it's him your marrying and not her, she doesn't have to like you but sometimes it helps. But it isn't always the deal, but just keep the lines of communication open and go and visit her often.
2007-02-22 20:13:07 · answer #5 · answered by WI Wedding Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't be My Mother-In Law is the Devil...take my word for it and she's older than Hades!
Sounds like she doesn't want you to take her baby away from her. I hope your future husband knows how to put her in her place because if not you should reconsider this engagement! Seriously!!!
2007-02-22 20:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by Cher 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think there's a long umbilical cord between the mil and her son and she's realizing she's going to "lose" him. Just paste on a happy face and kill her with kindness.
Worked for me for 11 years with my ex-evil-mil. But then we got divorced mostly because of her.
2007-02-22 20:11:39 · answer #7 · answered by chefgrille 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mother in law sounds like she doesn't want to cut the apron strings just yet.
She will hopefully get over it when she realizes that you are good for her son.
Congrats!
2007-02-22 20:29:22 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, the same thing kinda happened to me and my fiances mom. but it was the other way around, in the beginning it was she hated me.. now she loves me.. i think it has somethign to do with a mom loosing her little boy or another woman in her sons life to take care of them..
2007-02-22 21:13:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, it's true....
Sorry, kidding. Respect her no matter what. Don't let her treat you bad, but it's her loss if she doesn't want to accept you as a DIL. Hopefully your husband sides with you?
2007-02-22 20:07:34 · answer #10 · answered by KmmK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋