I'm 15/female. I'm a "late bloomer", I guess you could say. I just got my first boyfriend yesterday. I've always thought he was cute, but never actually thought about us going out. When I found out he liked me, I was so happy that I had finally found someone who liked me back. He asked me out yesterday and I couldn't have been happier. But the thing is, not many people like him. They call him annoying, gross, etc. I keep hearing all these things now, and its really making me upset. It's making me think "Is this what I want?". My so-called friends can't believe I'm going out with him. My goood friends are happy for me but the 'aquantances' are the ones that are saying stuff. I couldn't even really be happy in school, because I was so worried someone would saay something to me. I know I shouldnt care what they think, but it's not as easy as it sounds. WHY IS THIS HAPPENING TO ME. I thought my first boyfriend-experience would be something to look back on, not something I hate bringing up.
2007-02-22 11:57:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well,is juz the beginning of growing up into a relationship.
Juz be yrself,be calm, relax & life move on...do not think too much unnecessary...it is all in yr own mind that control yr body.
2007-02-22 12:02:58 · answer #1 · answered by Goosters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goodness! I feel so badly for you. You don't even allow yourself to have a name. The negativity you sense from your acquaintances may stem from several things. The first, and most likely is jealousy. If you don't have it yourself, and don't expect to get it soon, dis it. This seems to be the usual thought process especially from girls toward other girls. Secondly, young people, as a group, are some of the most hideously vicious creatures toward each other that God ever allowed onto the earth! No kidding. At the ripe old age that I enjoy I would NEVER go back to the stage of life that you are in now. Your easiest and best course of action is to be true to YOURSELF. You will find that to be most satisfying in the end as you grow into adulthood. If you believe in the value of your friend, then show that you do. At the same time - if some of the remarks made by others have merit, then perhaps you can find a kind way to show him a different path. Don't be too concerned at this point. While they may pretend otherwise, most of the kids in your school are only just starting to figure out the differences between boys and girls - and I mean the way they think and act - not just the obvious.
2007-02-22 12:18:27 · answer #2 · answered by Curmudgeon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let what other people say bring you down.... if you're happy, don't let someone else ruin the moment... be happy, live the moment... other people might just be jealous or never expected it so of course, they'll talk about it... you can't let that get to you tho.
It's your time to experience having a relationship... having a boyfriend... have fun, enjoy the experience, learn from it... and eventually you'll know if this is what you really want.
And since this is your first, it's easy to get caught up in infatuation or doubts... whatever happens happens.... don't expect the best to come out of your first relationship, but don't expect the worst either... bottom line, don't expect too much or too little.... just go with the flow, see what happens and if other people are talking, let them talk.... eventually you won't care what they say and will do what you want to... if they think he's a mistake or a problem... you'll find out for yourself.... don't let your acquaintances control you... only YOU know what's best for you coz in the end it's your choice to do whatever you want...
As you get older too, it'll get tougher but better in a way coz you become more aware of what to look out for... in other words... with time and experience, you'll grow and reflect back later on why and how things happened the way they did.... you'll see.
Live and be happy! =)
2007-02-22 12:09:52 · answer #3 · answered by hawaiiangirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r only 15 and the opinions of your class mates still means alot to u. U said yourself that your good friends r happy 4 u, it's the other people who r tripping. That's because they just need something to talk about. Really, is it their business? Is u going out with him going to affect them? No. Most likely none of them have bf and they r probably not the most popular kids in school. They are wannabes and want to put u down for having it better than them. U've liked this guy for a while and he's has been good to u so don't worry about what they r saying. Enjoy it and be yourself. Don't feel pressured to do anything that someone else is telling u to do.
2007-02-22 12:05:02 · answer #4 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him, ignore them. Why don't you decide what he's like, instead of listening to other people. If you go out with him, judge him based on how YOU feel about him and how he treats you. If you don't find him 'gross and annoying' then that's all that matters. People judge other people and start rumors without even knowing whether what they're saying is really true or not. As long as he's not a bad guy, give him a chance. Be happy! Don't ever let anyone ruin your happiness!
2007-02-22 12:03:50 · answer #5 · answered by Plexed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i can really relate to this! my first boyfriend was not goodlooking, but he was sweet (most of the time, but a lil arrogant and emotional) and i was so happy that someone liked me back. i was in love with love.
now i realize that love is patient. you have to wait for what you really want. an amazing guy will come into your life (you'll most likely get married someday and that guy will be amazing for you)
to answer your question, try not to care what the heck anyone else thinks. SO WHAT if they think he's ugly or weird- if you like him and have a good time with him and he makes you feel beautiful, then that's all that matters!!!
good luck!
2007-02-22 12:03:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing for you to do is just not pay any attention to the people who say stuff about him. if they're just acquaintance's and not really friends, the who gives a crap about what they think. if this guy really makes you happy go for it. work through all of this together. screw whoever says stuff about your relationship. don't do something you'll come to regret later on in the future. all that matters is what you think of him. if you really like him, then go with what your heart tells you, not by what other people tell you. you are the one in this relationship, not them.
i hope this helps you.
2007-02-22 12:04:07 · answer #7 · answered by TheDrummer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it isnt as easy as it sounds..they say that so you will possibly break up with him and THEY can go out with him..OR he could be saying stuff behind your back but thats only about a 1% chance if not 0, your real friends are happy for you so..have fun i guess :))) best of luck to you!!
2007-02-22 12:59:05 · answer #8 · answered by paige_squirrel_goddess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋