i got into a car accident 9 years ago and my best fren past away. it was my car but another friend was driving. my best friend who past away was the only son of a millionaire family. i went to see his family after recovered from my injuries and never seen them eversince. so, my question is, would it be acceptable to visit his family after so many years and would that be inappropraite?
2007-02-22 11:55:39 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If you were close to them then it's not unacceptable to send them a letter, email, or give them a call asking them if it'd be okay to have a dinner with them etc.. You can tell them that you've been thinking of your friend and would really just like to visit. If they are into it they'll definately respond to you. If they aren't into it they'll make an excuse or not respond. This way you are putting the ball into their court.
2007-02-22 13:49:34 · answer #1 · answered by RedPower Woman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would contact the family, a nice card in the mail would be best. I wouldn't call them because the phone call may 'put them back' a little and it forces them into a situation which may or may not be uncomfortable to them. A card or a letter is very respectful because it doesn't force the recipient into a situation which may be painful or uncomfortable to them; they have time to think about things and if it is too much for them to deal with or too painful then they can choose to reply that it wouldn't be a good time or to not reply at all. In the letter or card I would just be honest with them and tell them that they have been in your thoughts and that you would really like to see them or to spend some time together. After you send the card, the ball is in their court and they will let you know what is best for them. If you do not get a response, don't take it personally, everyone has a different way of dealing with loss. I would suggest a follow up card or letter a half a year later or so just letting them know you've been thinking about them and they are more than welcome to contact you if they wish. I am sorry for the loss of your friend and I hope that this helps you.
2007-02-22 20:49:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Telephone ahead or send a note saying that you would like to get together to see how they are doing.
That your friend was the "only son of a millionaire family" is irrelevant unless of course you are hoping for some financial renumeration for meeting with the family.
2007-02-22 20:30:13 · answer #3 · answered by castle h 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would call and see how they were doing. Respect, even though the poorer you get the more likely you are to respect it, is the same for millionaire's as it is with middle class or the poor. Don't invite yourself over.
2007-02-22 20:07:25 · answer #4 · answered by Crossroads Keeper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your objective in wanting to visit his family? Are you seeking forgiveness, or their reassurance that they don't hold the accident against you? I wouldn't go to see them. A more considerate thing to do would to be write to them, to let them know that you still miss their son, that you think of him often, and that you wish them well.
2007-02-22 20:17:59 · answer #5 · answered by meatpiemum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't visit them. Your presence will bring back bad memories of their son's death. They have not contacted you nor you them. They have no interest to see you. You are their son's friend, not their friend. They have nothing in common with you to talk about.
2007-02-22 20:45:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you close to the family?
I would call and ask how they were.. I wouldn't invite myself over there. It might just open old wounds that have healed for them.
2007-02-22 19:59:52 · answer #7 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not inappropriate but if they don't want to see you, please be understanding. They might not want to reopen a wound.
2007-02-22 20:34:55 · answer #8 · answered by redunicorn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋