To the newly married or engaged women:Did you feel...?

Question

Nervous or anxious about your new husband or fiancee "last night out with the guys as a single man" party?

Well I'm already married,I just been wondering what did happen on that night, I haven't asked him because it's none of my business but I just wonder and I wanted to know, How did other women deal with this feeling,I do trust him and he has never done anything for me to think other wise.

Answer 1

" "last night out with the guys as a single man" party? "

I have a big problem with that phrase. Him being your fiance before marriage meant he was not a "single man" to begin with and shouldn't party as if he was one. The only difference between fiance and husband is a "I do" vocal phrase with signing of documents.

"I just been wondering what did happen on that night,"

You won't know unless you ask. You might not know even if you ask as he could feel you would get mad or he would not tell whole story either way. Unless you see video and pictures (evidence), honestly, you would never know.


"I haven't asked him because it's none of my business"

How is marrying a guy, who you don't know what is doing, none of your business?

"How did other women deal with this feeling,I do trust him"

I never had to deal with it as my going to be husband in a day don't believe in "single night out" parties known as bachelor. He rather spend time with me and family that means the most to him. If you trust him, you wouldn't be questioning what happened..........

"he has never done anything for me to think other wise."

Then leave it at that.

You wondering what really went on is basically fishing to see if he did something wrong and you scared there is that doubt in him.

We are naturally curious to want to know. But if you are afraid to ask him, then there is a issue with you on that. You should be honest with him how you feel and he should be directly honest back with truthful answer, which most males will avoid going into as they feel it is a "fish trap".

Answer 2

Honestly, you should ask him. I sense a problem because you say "it's none of my business". I think it is your business because you are married. When you became engaged you essentially promised to become married, so acting out on the 'last night of being single' is not an option, because you & he are promising to get married (at that time.) Marriage=committment including the night before. Don't go through life with the attitude of it's not my business about what my husband did there or that or whatever, because:

If you or he do not become better (as in striving for better, etc.) then you both do not grow as a couple. my 2 cents.

Answer 3

I wanted to give birth to no children. Hubby wanted to father no children. So we were in agreement there. How many we adopt later on, however, it yet to be determined. I'm an only child so I think it would be neat to adopt siblings who need a forever home, but there are a lot of really good things about been an only child, too. I have a feeling that we won't find the right mix for our future family until we start really researching our options. I will say, however, than I doubt I would want to do more than 2, unless we ran across a really unique situation. I do happen to value my sanity.

Answer 4

YES! The compromise we made was finding a couple strip clubs basically in the same building. The guys will be at one and the girls at the other. Try to find something like that. It still scares me but hey its tradition and you should be able to trust the guy you are marrying. I know its hard cuz my man has cheated on me in the past...but you have to suck it up and let him have that night. Make a couple rules though...like be home at this time or whatever...compromise with him.

Answer 5

I'm not either, but I really think it depends on your fiance. Some guys take this night to the extreme with strippers and all sorts of stuff. Other guys simply go out with their friends and drink a few beer, maybe they try to pick up girls-just to see how it feels for the last time, even though they have no desire/want to be with them.

Answer 6

I am not worried but I hope your man hasn't done anything in the past to make you nervous about it. A lot of my guy friends are a lot of talk and have said that the night just ends up with them drinking too much beer and passing out.

Answer 7

U shouldn't because if he wants to be with u then there is nothing that will change that. Did he have anything to worry about when u went out or hung out with your friends that last time before the wedding. If he did than maybe u shouldn't be married, LOL. Really though, don't worry about it. I would think that anyone who proposes to or accepts the wedding proposal of their gf/bf is ready to be with that person and that person alone. If u don't trust him then u should wait on the marriage.

Answer 8

It never even occured to my husband to have the "last time out with the guys" party... He doesn't "go out with the guys", which is fine with me. I figure, if a person feels the need to go out and celebrate the "last time" before getting married to me - they are not ready to be married; I would keep looking.

Answer 9

yes. Let's put it this way: my guy friend who I had known all my life was always faithful to his woman-he told me everything. He never even looked at another girl. But after his bachelor party, he told me that he had cheated with two girls, and not to tell. I couldn't believe it, but he said it was his last chance to cheat without it being a "real' crime. If he calls it his "last night of being single", well then he'll act single honey! Sorry!

Answer 10

I would if he wanted that. My fiance said he wants us to have our parties together. I would worry about it but I would also hold my breath and deal with it. I don't think I would want to know anything about it and I would DEFinately go out and party with the girls that night to keep my mind off of it.