2007-02-22 11:32:21 · 16 answers · asked by ReAdInG tHiS wAsTeS 5 SeCoNdS oF yOuR pReCiOuS LiFe 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I never say that because I don't discipline my children with pain such as spanking. When I discipline my children, it isn't negative and I don't feel guilty or sad. I use time-outs, removing privileges, negotiating and explanation for bad behavior. My children are respectful and well behaved. We get compliments on how smart and good they are. So, I guess if discipline for me means teaching then no it doesn't hurt at all. Spanking is punishment and should make every parent hurt, feel guilty and doubtful. That is sad. When you say it can't be true for some parents, you are right because alot of them spank out of frustration and anger. It is a release for them. Poor kids.
2007-02-24 13:12:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you are a parent you would know that it is true. As a parent you want to protect your child from harm .It is very difficult when you must discipline your child because in your heart you wonder if you failed your child as a parent.Parents are not there to be your pal they are there to prepare you for life.If you are a child you should be thankful your parents love you enough to discipline you.When you become a parent you will truly appreciate the very words you question.
2007-02-22 12:33:10 · answer #2 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we love our children, we've been TAKING CARE of YOU since you were in mom's belly and there is a Great love you WILL get to find out when you have a baby. We don't like to punish our kids, we hate that. But we have gone through so much stuff in life, that we know what will happen to you if we don't set you straight.
Life is a repeat, and we pretty much know what will happen because we went through it. In turn, our parents kicked our *** but now that we are older, we are happy they did. We are still alive and happy, while other kids who's parents did not discipline them are in jail or DEAD.
It hurts like hell because we love you so much. But we don't want nothing bad to EVER happen to you. So, listen to your parents, unless they tell you to rob a bank for them!
2007-02-22 19:30:23 · answer #3 · answered by Andres N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never understood this when I was young either..until I had kids of my own. It does hurt them to hurt you...think about it, they took care of you when you were a baby, stayed with you when you were sick, changed your poopy diapers. Parents spend ALL of their time trying to make sure that their "babies" DON'T hurt...So believe it that it does hurt them...But loving you also means making sure that you know right from wrong, and it is a parents JOB to grow productive, loving, moral people...and this is all they are trying to do. When you have more hindsight you will understand...but for now feel LUCKY that your parents CARE and love you enough to teach you the difference.
2007-02-22 11:42:07 · answer #4 · answered by Proud Mommy of 6 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Actuslly it is true in quite a few sences. (sorry I dunno how 2 spell well LOL) First off (i have 2 kids and helped raise 6 more) it hurts us inside to have to punish because you are no longer happy, we are no longer happy, second off punishment means more work for us to make sure you are following the punishment. Third as parents it makes us feel as if we failed somewhere somehow in teaching you the necessary things for life skills. I hope that this is easier to understand now.
2007-02-25 20:01:11 · answer #5 · answered by lorileeandme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...It is true. I HATE HATE HATE disciplining my little boy because he gets so upset. But I also know that if I don't- he'll grow up to be a bad person. You will never understand that statement until you have kids of your own.
2007-02-22 11:41:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
They say it because it does hurt them they love you. They feel guilty and always wonder if they are doing a good job. Be thankful they love you and say that.
2007-02-22 11:36:51 · answer #7 · answered by ang_23el 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's absolutely true. You must not be a parent.
2007-02-22 11:39:31 · answer #8 · answered by Rob D 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
because while you feel pain we actually gave it to you. we gave birth to our children not to hurt them but to teach them and love them. this is true because we never intend to hurt our children. and while you feel a smack and get over it we relive it in our heads and we live with it every day of our lives
2007-02-22 11:39:17 · answer #9 · answered by miraclebaby_2006 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course it is not true physically. But any parent that does not feel that way should not only not be spanking their kid, but probably shouldn't have any.
2007-02-22 12:21:04 · answer #10 · answered by beckychr007 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋