I should up to work early to grab a bite to eat. I Work a Collage cafeteria. She was there to so we sat together and talk. My professor walked by and saw us talking together and asked us if we are friends I said kinda, and she got upset. She said how she thought we are friends. We don't hang out after work or any thing. Did I break any rules?
2007-02-22 11:27:39 · 13 answers · asked by caitie 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
"She" refuses to my co-worker. All so I showed up to work early.
2007-02-22 11:29:36 · update #1
What you said was rude.
2007-02-22 11:32:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
I hear you, I once introduced a coworker as my friend from work. The word Coworker seemed cold, and friend seemed to be a bit much. The place was my mother's funeral, and the coworker corrected me in front of the other person. Very rude of the coworker, why would she care what a total stranger that she will never see again thinks?
Here are some other ways you could have said something: Yes, she is my cafeteria friend, we lunch often. . Or, sure, we have breakfast several times a week!
that way, you are not claiming a deep friendship that you really do not have, and not hurting the other person's feelings.
What you were saying to the professor, as it sounded to "she" was, that she was good enough to have a meal with, but not good enough to be called friend. And for some reason, you didn't want the professor to think you were friends.
And, you should have asked the professor if he knew your meal mate, and if not, introduced them.
Yep, you broke some rules. You bellittled someone in front of an important person twice, once by insinuating she was only good enough to have a meal with , and once for failing to introduce her. And, rude to the professor, who may have been fishing for an introduction, or gently prompting you to remember your manners.
Sorry, but you did ask!
2007-02-26 03:34:42 · answer #2 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For the record... She said she "works in a college cafeteria"... So maybe everyone who jumped on her (for her spelling/grammar) should make sure they have the facts before responding and being rude in turn.
Now regarding the question... I can see how you may have been caught off guard and that response was your first reaction. It sounds rude, your co-worker saw it as rude, but it wasn't meant to be rude. There's nothing you can do about it. If it really bothers you... go up to her and say something to the effect of... you didn't quite know how to answer the question because you don't hang-out outside of work. but if you ARE sorry you offended her in any way, let her know that and things will probably get better.
2007-02-22 12:34:57 · answer #3 · answered by Jesse 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you actually taking classes in a college, as you said "my professor"? Your English is so terrible, which may explain why you would have said something rude like that. Apologize, sometimes the truth shouldn't be vocalized, dear.
Come on, study up on your written English if you want your degree to really help you along in life.
2007-02-22 12:19:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
You were honest. Also, she has a different definition of friendship. She's probably not your "kinda friend" now.
I don't believe that you broke any social rules. I would not claim anyone as a friend who was a mere co-worker or associate. Friends are few and very special.
2007-02-26 09:04:47 · answer #5 · answered by chillsister 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Always assume someone is your friend. You will never offend someone by saying they are your friend (even if they aren't). You have about a half/half chance of offending someone if you say anything else. Tell your co-worker that you didn't know if she would think something weird if you said yes so you said kinda but that in all honesty you think of her as a friend.
2007-02-22 13:56:30 · answer #6 · answered by RedPower Woman 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You didnt break any rules.
But you have a bigger problem than that. You say you are in college yet your communication skills are terrible. Did you reread your question before you posted it? It was hard to figure out exactly what you were saying. I've seen 1st graders write better then this.
2007-02-22 11:32:56 · answer #7 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 9⤊ 0⤋
If you said that about me with me sitting next to you, I would be upset, too. How would you feel if she said that about you?
The proper response should have been "yes," and leave it a that. You don't have to hang out together to be friends or be friendly.
2007-02-22 11:51:10 · answer #8 · answered by Malika 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Your response was childish and rude. Maybe she's insecure. But you should have given an unambiguous and positive response. Why did you even think to say "kinda" with her right there. It's as if you were ashamed to be seen with her, rather than that you were saying "we work together, but don't hang out"
2007-02-22 11:32:48 · answer #9 · answered by BirkleyIII 2 · 4⤊ 4⤋
You could have said, "Well we work together" and leave it at that. And work on your grammar, son!
2007-02-22 12:11:02 · answer #10 · answered by Claire H 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is kinda friend (ie acquaintence) because she has thin skin and everything obviously offends her.
No you were not rude,you were honest and she couldn't take it.
2007-02-22 12:02:06 · answer #11 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋