I am 14 and I have never had a boyfriend, been kissed, or been on a date. Everybody I know has done one of those things. I just thought that when you turn 13 or 14 you get your first kiss and your first boyfriend because that's what happens in the movies and on TV...but I guess I was wrong. I am scared that when I get into High School I will never find anybody because it is a small town school. Right now I really don't want a boyfriend and I think I am weird because of that because all of my friends want one. I would rather hang out with my family and friends on a weekend than worry about a boyfriend. All of my friends said that they have had a boyfriend but they never went out with them anywhere or talked to them so I just don't get how that could be a boyfriend. Last year this didn't really bother me but this year it is bothering me and I don't know why it is. I kinda feel that I am abnormal. I don't know what is wrong with me. I think that I am very pretty but I am very shy
2007-02-22 11:24:55 · 9 answers · asked by ~ ♥ ~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is nothing wrong with you. Some people get interested in boys young, and some don't until later. Everyone is different. The only thing wrong is that you are comparing yourself to other people. Believe me, I didn't start getting interested until the end of highschool and I have had boyfriends and gotten married and had kids. So I know that it's okay. Plus other people may feel the same way you do, so they pretend like they are interested, or might even lie about having had a boyfriend, so that they will fit in. You just happen to be more honest. Don't worry, everything will happen when it's supposed to, and it will be great.
2007-02-22 11:33:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 12....I have a bf.
I will say that it is fun--but it also causes a lot of stress. You feel like your feelings are relying on another person. For some people it is better to become 100% comfortable with yourself and who you are before you start jumping into relationships. I personally belive that there is someone out there for everybody. Trust me--you will not be boyfriend-less 4 the rest of your life!!
Don't worry what everybody else is doing, and certainly don't listen to TV!!
If you're going to have a bf, it should be for the right reason--not cuz' all your friends have 1. [And u shouldn't just go looking 4 one--the right time will come.]
If something is meant to be, it will happen.
Best Wishes!! :-)
2007-02-22 19:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Charming's Princess♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not abnormal, I commend you for not "following" the crowd. Don't worry so much about what other people think, you are worth way more than that. You will find out later in life too, that other peoples opinions are not all that important... in high school, everyone just makes it out to be.
I think you have a healthy self-esteem and a lot of smarts that teens your age lack. It is ok to be shy, don't push yourself to do anything you are uncomfortable with. There will be plenty boyfriends, kissing, ect. later on in life.
For right now, just enjoy your time to be a teenager! It goes by so quick.
2007-02-22 19:43:46 · answer #3 · answered by justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thers nothing wrong with you. From what you say, it sounds like the people in your class are not in real relationships. You are smart not to get into one while all the people in your grade are doing that. There is nothing wrong or abnormal about your situation. Dont worry about it. Its better to find someone that you are happy with than to try and start a relationship just because everyone else does.
2007-02-22 19:32:20 · answer #4 · answered by TommyT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you are just smart enough to realize how silly it is to waste time on fake relationships at your age. When the time comes, it'll happen. Rushing it just complicates things.
2007-02-22 19:29:04 · answer #5 · answered by Aloe-ish-us 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not abnormal, its okay. You are just waiting for Cupid to hit you, and so am I. Being single has some up sides, too, you know!
2007-02-22 19:29:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be more confident! and optimistic! guys don't want a girl that they have to take care of, let them know that you'd be fun to be with! It works if you do it right! and being happy is good for you too, so yea, just be a good person and good things will come your way ^_~
2007-02-22 19:30:13 · answer #7 · answered by kaizoku 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I;m sure you are very pretty---you don;t need a boy friend at your age-----stay the way you are----save yourself fore the one and only----that will be the highlight of your life---don;t let anyone tell you any different----you have a whole life in front of you----
2007-02-22 19:34:12 · answer #8 · answered by mikeh_frog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't happen to look like a prehistoric reptilian, do you?
2007-02-22 19:30:12 · answer #9 · answered by beth 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋