My husband and my son fight all the time and put me in the middle. My son is only 5 and my husband acts like he is 5. My husband will pinch my son and run. Then my son will tell me then my husband says he didn't. Crazy. But I know my husband did. Also, when my husband tells my son to do something and my son will come tell me and I tell him to listen to him. Then my husband gets mad at the both of us and says he gets no respect. ?? First, why would he get mad at me if I was on his side? Second, if he would act like an adult and quit lying, and be serious with us maybe my son would think of him in a differant way. One more thing, my son is scared of the dark and sleeps with the light on. I have tried night lights and my mom says it's just a faze he's going through. BUt my husband tells my son he doesn't get to sleep with the light on and calls him a baby! I'm sorry but I think that's mean! He forgets my son is only 5. And if the lights keep him out of our bed then I don't see the harm.
2007-02-22 11:24:26 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I just wanted to let you guys know that he pinches my son in a manner just to agravate my son. Not to hurt him! I f that was the case I would not be with him because my son is #1! No one stands before him. And guys, this is not a laughing matter. I am being put in between their bickering. There is no "lol". Also, I have tried talking to the both of them. I even showed my husband the question and answers I made and recieved. They say it will stop and then it doesn't. I don't have the money right now to go to conseling so I don't know what to do. THey find it funny and I don't. Yes my son is 5 but he is very mature for his age. He understands whats going on. And some one had wrote that the both of them are fighting for my attention and I happen to agree with that. It's tearing me apart.
2007-02-22 16:18:49 · update #1
You are right. Let him have a night light. This is your husband's way of being in control. I believe he is pinching him. He's too scared of you to really handle any problems w/ your son. You should tell him if he pinches him again, you're going to pinch him in an uncomfortable place. The child is FIVE. He's still kind of a baby. Husband shouldn't get mad at you when you do see his side of things and tell your son to mind him. Did he just start the pinching? Did he have any complaints before the marriage? You're husband is acting like a child. By the way, this child is yours, not his. He needs to leave the disciplining up to you unless you are in denial and think your child is perfect. If he thinks he gets no respect then he should try treating you and your son like ya'll are family. He needs to include your child instead of acting like he's a problem. If your child is made to feel more comfortable by him, then I bet he'll have more respect for the guy that took all of his attention away. You'll find yourself staying right up under your son so that your husbband doesn't say anything harmful to him or hurt him because pinching is only the beginning. Let DAD know that your son came first and you are trying to compromise but if he doesn't think more of your son then you will act like a 5 year old too and spend all of your time w/ him including night time. He'll either give in and be more understanding or you need to get out. They really don't change (step-parents).
2007-02-22 11:47:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long have you been married? It almost sounds like your husband can't or won't accept the fact that he isnt your son's bio father...He may have a problem with it.Some men do,Some men don't I have two step children one is 5 one is 13 I don't have this problem because I accept them as my own...Your husband might get upset but ask him if you haven't already if he honestly has a problem caring for your son...It sounds like to me that your husband is a big baby and needs help ASAP...I think it's fine that your son want's to sleep with the light on its a stage he is going through and yes it will pass...explain to your husband that if he doesn't want your son sleeping with the light's on then he can sleep in between the two of you!!!! see if that don't change his mind...I wish you all the luck in the world and if you need a friend please by all means email me :) good luck.....
2007-02-23 01:38:16 · answer #2 · answered by rebelicious_angel228 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! how crazy because I'm in the same situation. But my B/f doesn't pinch my son though, lol
You should talk to your husband and let him know whats bothering you, and to understand that your son is 5 and will be going thru these stages just like he (ur hubby) did when he was young. I told my b/f if he didn't stop acting like a such a butt that I wuld leave him, and he stopped! I don't know if you should follow the same steps but try talking to him first!
2007-02-22 19:31:25 · answer #3 · answered by Nursing Student 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has not step up to the plate and act like a mature ma. It's fun to have enjoy the kids & joke but there are times when he should respect you & your son. My wife & I was married when our son was five, we met when he was four. He has never heard me refer to him as my step son. Today heis 25yoa and he still call me dad & I still refer to him as my son.
Your husband has not matured eough to accept the responsibilities of being a husband & a dad.
he needs to grow up & show some love.
2007-02-22 19:37:33 · answer #4 · answered by Bcpray4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"My husband will pinch my son and run" So you're allowing your husband to abuse your son? No wonder your husband isn't getting any respect from your son. I wouldn't respect him either. You have a choice to make, who is more important, your son or your husband?
2007-02-22 19:27:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are going to have to put your husband in his place when it comes to your son. and you are going to have to put your son in his place when it comes to your husband. all three of you need to sit down and discuss boundaires. cause there is this territorial war going on with you between your husband and your son. one of them wants to be the main main in your life. weather it be your son or your husband. but all three of you need to sit down and you need to draw your lines for everyone as far as what is expected and how to behave and whatnot. second...your husband is a helper...he is not there to replace your son's father. your husband may feel excluded because your son is not his true blood son and your son may feel excluded because your husband is not his real father. but it seems like both are threatned by each other because neither is related via blood.
2007-02-22 19:41:47 · answer #6 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditto
2007-02-22 19:31:21 · answer #7 · answered by Cher 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you have 2 children. make your husband grow up.
2007-02-22 19:30:12 · answer #8 · answered by pooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this for real??? If it is, honey RUN!
2007-02-22 19:28:54 · answer #9 · answered by Jay Jay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋