I REALLY LOVE THIS GIRL. AND AS STUPID AS ITS SEEMS, I CANT BREAK AWAY FROM HER. WE'VE BEEN THROUGH SO MUCH!! EVERYTHING I THOUGHT WAS LIE. I WANNA TRY WITH HER BUT TEN ONTHS OF MY LIFE IS GONE! I FEEL LIKE A COMPLETE IDIOT. I'M 17 AND SHES 16. I'LL BE 18 OCTOBER. YOU NAME IT, SHE LIED ABOUT IT. AGE, EVERYTHING! I CANT TRUST HER, OR ANYTHING. AND SHE TURNS EVERYTHING ON ME AS IF I'M THE BAD GIRLFRIEND. I WISH THERE WAS STILL HOPE BUT I KNOW IT WONT BE THE SAME. LOVE MAKES YOU DO THE MOST CRAZIEST THINGS. I NEVER KNEW I'D BE A SUCKER FOR IT AND YET HERE I AM. :( I MEAN. I CRY ALMOST EVERYNIGHT TRYING TO MOVE ON BUT ITS SO HARD. THIS GIRL IS DROP DEAD GORGEOUS, SHE CAN GET ANYBODY SHE WANTS. DONT GET ME WRONG, I'M PRETTY GOODLOOKING TOO, BUT THIS GIRL IS LIKE PERFECT! EVERYTHING WE HAD WAS A LIE. SHE TALKS TO EM LIKE I'M ****. SHE CHEATED TWICE! PROBABLY MORE! AND LIED ABOUT HER AGE. NOW IF SHE'LL LIE ABOUT THAT, THEN SHE'LL LIE ABOUT ANYTHING. CAN SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME? I NEED HELP!!!!
2007-02-22 11:19:29 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, drama out the ***! Excuse my language but I always stick to "Once a liar, always a liar" or "Once a cheater..." you know. But I really can relate to what you're going through. When you love somebody so much, it makes you do crazy things. Even when they have done you wrong or treated you bad, or lied to you. Take it from somebody who's been there...I mean, love has changed me completely. I used to just go out and have fun, as I called it, swinger-type but not so much and did whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted. I was too wild to settle down and after I met this girl, I changed for her. My ways are different, I can control my temptations and everything. I love her so much. Anyway, back on topic, it seems to me that if she lied to you about something so little like her age, then she can do it again and again...maybe for even bigger things next time. Relationships only work when there's trust and that seems unlikely if she's a compulsive liar. Without TRUST there is NOTHING. But, it's really your call. I know that I don't listen to my own advice of leaving someone alone...but hey, love is love. I say it's simple: Drop her. But I am only an outsider looking in. If you decide to stay, then make sure you lay it all on the line and make it clear that she gets ONE more chance...the lying has to stop and the cheating and whatever else she does or did. Hope that helps.
2007-02-22 11:35:17 · answer #1 · answered by bL@(kR0s3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 22, a grown man. Young, but still an adult, and you must learn responsibility to your wife and child. It's not the way you planned it, but it is your life. Tell your family you got married and why. Tell them they will have a grandchild soon. It's not up to your parents to decide. You can't ever hope to control their reaction, but you can be honest. You made your decision already when you got married and became a father-to-be. What's coming to you might be getting kicked out and paying for your own education and distance from your family. You need to tell your family what you've done. Doesn't it hurt your heart to be separated from your wife? Doesn't it hurt to lie to the people who raised you? If they cut you off, that is unfortunate, but so be it. Then you have to decide what to do next. You could either move there and make your life there, or bring her here and do the best you can on your own. You can't leave your wife and kid stranded while your parents support you when you're lying to them. It's just wrong.
2016-05-24 00:19:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should get over it and move on. I hate to sound cold but u definitly need someone to be blunt about things. She cheated on u 2 times at minimum, she lied about everything in the book, she treats u like ****. What the hell is wrong with u! Why r u wasting your time. U obviously don't have too many self confidence issues becasue u admit that u r good looking. So what's the problem? I'm sure base upon looks alone u could attract a number of people who r better for u then her. I've never treated any of my gf's that way. I never will. U shouldn't tolerate it. It hurts now, I'm sure but breaking up now will save u alot of potential pain. Good Luck with that. Find a girl/guy that will treat u right and who u don't feel bad about doing the same for.
2007-02-22 11:29:01 · answer #3 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young, and she is younger. By staying with her, or even being near her at all, you are only enabling her lying. Detach your emotions, get away from her and end it, cold and flat. Tell her YOU are breaking it off because she's a lyer, and you never want to see or talk to her again. Best case, she may learn from you and not make the next guys life so difficult, but I doubt it. She sounds like a real loser, and all she will do to you is ruin your life.
Move on.
2007-02-22 11:27:03 · answer #4 · answered by J. S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey buddy! She's in love with herself and until she gets over her hugh ego you'll have nothing but heartache! I suggest you move on, find someone else and get on with your life! Who knows, you might even run into this "bimbo" with your new love. If you do, don't forget to smile as you go past her! This is a sure way to let her know you've gotten over her for good and found someone that deserves you!
2007-02-23 06:21:13 · answer #5 · answered by lilbit48vmb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to cut ties completely with this girl, and never go back. This girl is obviously a self-centered ***** and cares nothing for you. Get out while you still can. There are more women out there and you will find a good one, but you can't do that while you are with her.
2007-02-22 11:24:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there - Done it too! Trust me on this...YOU CAN'T POSSIBLY GET AWAY FROM HER FAST ENOUGH!!! It took two years of that kind of living hell to get me to walk away, and another year to forget about her. But I'm HAPPY now and I don't hurt anymore.
Are you on your way yet?!?!?!?!?
2007-02-22 11:27:33 · answer #7 · answered by Curmudgeon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over her and move on with your life. She is not perfect. Is you idea of perfect a LIAR?
2007-02-22 11:24:00 · answer #8 · answered by Mo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont know who someone really is, then how can you love them. You deserve better than that.
2007-02-22 11:25:59 · answer #9 · answered by Suzieq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you don't need to be with her. You just need to move on.
2007-02-22 11:24:14 · answer #10 · answered by lil_mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋