I am getting married this July and my wedding plans are coming along beautifully. Well we've already picked out the wedding party and everything. However, I am the bride but instead of having a maid (matron) of honor, I am having a man of honor or a best man...whatever you want to call him.
Allow me to explain....my bestfriend is my big brother. He's with me through whatever and I feel like he should be up there with me on the most important day of my life. Everybody is saying that he could be a groomsmen but my fiance has a lot of brothers and close friends and he would have to exclude an important person in his life in order for my brother to be apart of the wedding party. So I decided to make him my "Man of honor". My fiance thinks it is a GREAT idea, however I've been getting a lot of flack from other people about it.
What do you think?
2007-02-22 11:10:44 · 38 answers · asked by Justyn's Mommy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
For the one who said don't make the day a big joke and for my brother to be the first groomsmen....next time read the whole thing. My fiance has a lot of brothers already and there's no room for another groomsman. And I will not exclude my brother from the ceremony. My brother standing next to me does not take away any of the seriousness of my wedding!
2007-02-22 13:53:18 · update #1
I had my mom walk me down the aisle and tons of people had told me it was weird. I think you should do what is right for you not what others tell you is right. You and your bro are lucky to have a relationship like you do and I hope you have a beautiful day .And cudos to your groom for being so supportive
2007-02-22 11:18:41 · answer #1 · answered by sugar 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When Wedding were more then just tradition the "Maid (or Matron) of Honor" was the person who vouched for the virginity of the bride. In the modern age this is just a place of honor for the brides best friend, so sure let your brother have it.
As for those that are giving you flack about it, it is YOUR WEDDING, do it the way you want, because hopefully you only do this once.
(Good luck to you and the groom, may your days be filled with joy and merriment)
2007-02-22 11:23:25 · answer #2 · answered by topdawgco97 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on your wedding coming along nicely! And as for having a "man of honor", its your day, do it your way. This is becoming something that more and more people are doing. I was lucky enough to be the wedding consultant, maid of honor, and "best woman" all for the same wedding, and it was fabulous! The bride was my best friend and after getting to know the groom, him and I became like sister and brother, so I had all three roles and the wedding was great....do your thing girl!
2007-02-22 16:14:49 · answer #3 · answered by no_me_no_u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The wedding party - both sets of attendants, whether groomsmen or bridesmaids - are for the two of you. It's not that "yours" are all girls, and his the reverse, they are there for both of you. So if your fiance has a Best Man already chosen, that's fine, then your brother would be his first groomsman.
Don't make the thing a joke by having a man stand by you with the other bridesmaids - that would just be silly.
2007-02-22 13:42:48 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think it is a great idea. The groom has a best man and there is nothing to stop him having a 'best woman' .....the bride is traditionally given away by her father, but there is nothing to stop her being given away by her mother, therefore, why should you not have a 'man of honor'? It is your wedding and if a man is your best friend then GO FOR IT and have a great day and a lovely and happy life. Congratulations
2007-02-22 11:19:39 · answer #5 · answered by pax949 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a wonderful idea. Do not let any tradition get in the way of what you want on your wedding. He can wear a tux just like the rest of the groomsmen but have him wear a different bouttoniere (sp) to identify him with the rest.
Dont listen to everyone else, it is your wedding and not theirs.
2007-02-22 11:26:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! Ah...pre-wedding stress...brought on by everyone who's wedding it is NOT!
Honey, you do what you and your man want to do and what makes you happy. I think it's a fine idea to give your brother that honor. I've heard of many women who have a male best friend and do that in their ceremony.
You did tell him he still has to wear that frilly taffeta dress didn't you? LOL!
Have a happy life together.
2007-02-22 11:36:00 · answer #7 · answered by moosviews4u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love how people feel free to judge others on what to do on THEIR wedding day... Tell the relo's to back off or their invite will get lost in the mail!
I say that's an awesome idea!!!
Congratulations... All the best for the big day!
2007-02-22 11:21:17 · answer #8 · answered by psycho_faerie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that is amazing. I too am having men on my side because to me, it is the joining of our lives. I have my family and friends standing up for me and my fiance has his doing the same. It is very symbolic and I think it adds something more special to your wedding day.
2007-02-22 11:30:30 · answer #9 · answered by swagov 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing that says you cant have a guy stand with you. Refer to him as an Honor Attendant in the progam and dont worry what others may say or think it shows you care and love your brother
2007-02-22 11:16:35 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica S 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋