im miserable with am and without him grrr help!?

Question

me and my b/f are going through many problems....his mom is crazy, he is having trouble finding a job......and the list goes on...im sooo stressed out with everything...i love him theres not doubt in my mind that i do, but there is sooo much tension between us right now and ive tried to break up with him thinking thats the best thing to do, but i felt miserable i couldnt even get out of bed! do i just stick with him and hope we will come out of this???

him not am

Answer 1

You obviously have not come across my profile, because if you had no doubt you would have abandoned this man and fell deeply in love with me- not that I am suggesting that I am wonderful or anything, but I am considered quite manly and beautiful in a Greco-Roman sort of way. Anywho, where was I? Oh yes, my suggestion usually in these types of situations is to use a high-yield poison while he sleeps thereby ridding yourself of your anxieties. Upon your separation from your now deceased b/f, you will find my email accessible and quite handy. Think of it like 1-800 instant manliness, someone drops the ball, I get the call.
Guys typically are like machinery, we need oil and love to keep us moving and working well. Some of us require a high grade lubricant just to think some mornings, others can run on a light weight hyrbid blend well into the morning.

I hope it all works out either way, because I am like your local gas station- open 24hours a day.

Answer 2

I'm sorry baby girl, there's no easy way to say this; I know being in a relationship is hard, especially when there are so many voices speaking into both your ears. First and foremost you both need to reach a consensus about what the 2 of you are about and where you see the relationship going. This helps because you will be able to see where you are both headed, and if it is worth it sticking in there, or if you should cut him loose. 2 you need to know what's best for the two of you... that means his mom should stay out of it. Thirdly if you have noticed no change for a long while... maybe you need to be apart for him to get his act together. I have a fool proof test that can solve all your problems, It stems from the saying if you love something let it go... if it comes back to you then it was meant to be yours all along. In the short term it hurts like hell but in the long term... you'll thank yourself for it. You need to do is stop hanging in there -because that makes you even more unhappy-and accept the fact that you both can't be happy until the other is happy even if it is apart from each other. I believe that if he loves you he'll get his act together and fight for your love!!!

Answer 3

Boyfriends that make you miserable are not a good choice. Step back a while. Take some space. Don't just stick with him because it's easy or because he's begging you. There's no hurry to decide anything and if he pushes for speed it's a good sign to back out quick. There really are such a thing as gentlemen who care more about your feelings than having their own way. This one sounds immature. Relax and don't be in such a hurry. Let him prove he's reliable, and cut him off till he can. Get serious. You can get over missing him so much when you look closely at where your relationship is going, and consider other possibilities. Would you want to be related to his mother? Don't let him bully you unless you want a life of bullying.

Answer 4

You need to take a step back and take a deep breath and see what you think is the best thing to do. Take some time think this all over and really think about everything, the good, the bad, the crazy mom, him not working at the time what if he gets a job will things change? Will you be happy if he gets a job and some of the other problems work out? How would this make your relationship? Would you still want to be with him if you won the megabucks? Would you still want to be with him if he won the megabucks? Do you really love him? Or is it lust?

Answer 5

Hi hon, try not to despair. I think i am in the same situation, dont know how old you are, but my fiance and I have been together for 6 years, i am 24, sooo thats a long time. He has a lot of problems, and I cant carry both of us any longer. I have been financially supporting us for a long time. still hoping things will work out, for better for worse right? bound to be due for the 'better' part soon. I try to remember how lucky i am, healthy ish, great family support, although strained at the moment. ok job. take care, and keep trying, if you are more happy than miserable it is worth fighting for x

Answer 6

Well, I would suggest going to some counseling (a good counselor that someone has recommended helps) to help you break up with him for good. It's probably the easiest and healthiest way. I've broken up without a counselor and with a counselor, and it was much healthier (although just as painful) do go to a counseler. Breaking up with someone you love is probably one of the hardest things to do, but sounds like you realize in your heart of hearts that now is not the time. Honestly, if he really is the one, you'll find him again when he is in a healthier place. It sounds like you might need to move on for both of your sakes. You might be enabling him without realizing it....

Lastly, how can you find a healthy, happy relationship if you are in a relationship that isn't? It really sounds like you know what you need to do.

Answer 7

If you be in a relationship for a while, that's normal to feel like that when you break up. It just take time . You don't really need to go through stressful situations. Life is to short. My mother was married for 16 years,3 kids. They got a divorce, she got over it. Sweetie you don't need that , it's very unhealthy. Breaking up with him is the best thing. If you really love him, wait until he gets his sh** straight then get back with him. Stay friends with. Put yourself first, because when he is gone the only person you have is yourself.

Answer 8

advantageous your husband could love and admire his mom. yet, she's only being rude and pushy. And he's letting her run the coach. remember your marriage vows, "leaving at the back of all others" this implies human beings customarily no longer basically romantically. yet, he's a lot older which you and appears like he's slightly perplexing to handle. it rather is an extraordinarily demanding time in the two one among your lives - preparing for the toddler. How some few counseling sessions with an independent third party to furnish your place some tooth. i won't be able to think of many couselors might tell him to place his pregnant spouse in an uncomfortable and demanding difficulty. the solid information is, you do have a stay in toddler sitter interior the months to return :-)

Answer 9

Try giving him his known and unknown needs: ask him what he wants? Ask him what is it that you can do to make him happier? Ask him to smile while you go down on him adding that if he continues to frown you are just going to have to go out find a man who will smile and enjoy what you do for him instead. Make him seee that you are worth the time he is wasting by ignoring that fact that if he doesn't get off the couch and give you some good loving that you don't need his sorry as_ anymore! Tell him that he knows how to make you happy but maybe he just forgot and tell him you want an hour to try and show him again. If after all that he's Effed then se la vie..... adios M'er F'er, find a new man!

Answer 10

Girl your mind is one thing & your HART Is an other!! Stick with him ,He's the man you love right?! You can get though this together.He can hold you down & you do the same there's not much more you can do. Life is hard ,but when you know your with the person you love it all seems okay @ the end..About his mother, I'm sorry but he's the one you love NOT HER!!Who said love is ALL GOOD AND GRAVY HONEY.Both of you stand you challage's of good and bad.Soon you'll see if it'a a go or run for it...Good luck