I work in a big night club and we all hang out together. Last night one of our cooks (I am a waitress and go go dancer there) invited me and a couple other people over to his house. I went and have been there before. I live very close to him so I was the last to leave. But the problem is I never did leave.
When I got up to walk out the door he gives me this huge hug and doesn't let me go... He tried to kiss me a couple of times and I just said I didn't know if we should because we work together. Long story short I spent the night, In his bed. NOTHING happened, I wouldn't let it and he was good about taking no for an answer. I have known he liked me for about a month not but never let him know I was catching on. He is REALLY nice and I like him a lot but I don't know if I like him like that, ya know. It was kinda wierd
How do I tell him we need to rewind about 36 hours and get to know eachother a little better before going into a workplace relationship? And do it w/o being awkward
2007-02-22 10:49:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am going to see him at work tonight too
2007-02-22 10:50:10 · update #1
Things only get weird cause people let them... If he likes you then he won't feel weird at work tonight so try not to yourself... If nothing happened that night then you can either play it off like it mean't nothing to you and don't let it happen again or you can tell him exactly what you said and get to know him if you think you might like him...
2007-02-22 10:54:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him "We need to rewind about 36 hours and get to know eachother a little better before going into a workplace relationship? And if it works out maybe it won't be so awkward when we finallly get together.
2007-02-22 18:55:15 · answer #2 · answered by psws_12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. How drunk was he?
Why didn't you leave? Stay in his bed all night? Even if nothing happened?
Ok. That's a tough one. Can't roll back the clock...
Tell him that if he ever tries that again, he's toast. If he wants any chance with you he's going to have to treat you like a women. Dates and all. If he really likes you, he'll respect this. If he wants to go out with you again, make him ask you for a date. Don't go to anymore parties at his house until you have been dating steady for at least, I'll say it again, at least 6 weeks, if not longer.
oh, BTW, get a better job. Very unlikely you are going to meet any nice guys there.
Good luck.
A~
2007-02-22 19:03:54 · answer #3 · answered by BigMac2xk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh oh, im not aswering your question but are work relationships all that bad, i work in a restaurant also, there are 3 couples within the business and its only a small place with about 25/30 empolyees in total, it works out pretty well, mind you a guy and girl had a one night stand (she was new) and she quit the next week , could not handel it, but you sould go out with him rather than sleep with him to see if you like him in that way, but go to a romantic place, if it feels awkward then its just not right and dont act any further on it, tell him you would rather stay freinds
2007-02-22 18:55:54 · answer #4 · answered by bord_gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you think you might be interested if given the time to know him better, tell him you are flattered and thank him for not taking advantage of you last night and tell him that if he is serious about liking you that you would like start fresh and get to know each other and take things slow and see how it works out and let him know that it can't interfere with your work relationship and that work needs to stay professional. If you think you may not want to get to know him more and develope anything with him,. just like i said above, thank him for resepcting you last night and that right now you just aren't interested and tell him still that you are flattered though.
2007-02-22 18:55:55 · answer #5 · answered by elizabeth j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could say that you feel you overstepped the boundaries of friendship by sleeping in the same bed. You could go on to say that you like to get to know someone better before moving on to the next stage. It's shouldn't be too awkward if nothing happened and you like each other.
2007-02-22 18:55:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I congratulate you for telling him no. Thank God he accepted your no. Women should never allow themselves to get in situations that could lead to sex before marriage. It sounds like u cant decide wether or not to pursue a relationship with him. Generally it is not a good practice to date a cooworker. However it happens all the time. Go with your heart. It does sound like he is a nice guy but never try to get to know him at his place. Dating would be the best to find out whether he is the one for u. God bless!
2007-02-22 19:03:35 · answer #7 · answered by carlshirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him the way it is for you. You don't need any problems with your main source of money. If you don't look out for #1, no one else surely will. Somehow you will work it out. Now practice before you go and see him so you've got it down smoothe! Go girl!
2007-02-22 18:57:45 · answer #8 · answered by froggsfriend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey...
lighten up chica. You've found out you're attracted and managed to spend a night without compromise.
You're in a very nice place. You need to apologize for nothing and so just relax and let his be the next step...
Just smile!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-22 18:54:44 · answer #9 · answered by imask8r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down or go someplace where ya'll can discuss this. Hopefully he would see where you're comin from and understand. If he did, wouldn't that be a major plus and a good sign?
2007-02-22 19:10:56 · answer #10 · answered by YinxSphinxmen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋