Why do parents always say "this hurts me more then it hurts u " cuz it cant be true?

Answer 1

Parents generally feel guilty when they have to discipline or disappoint their children in anyway. Therefore, to minimize the guilt they will throw out that phrase "it hurts me more than you"

Answer 2

Well, my dad said that to me a couple of times, and I just thought..yeah, sure.....
Now, I am a mother of 2 (and one more on the way), and believe me, when I have had to take something away from my children, say no to something they badly want but I can't give or I know it can be dangerous or not good for them, it really hurts to see them disappointed, frustrated, sad and hurt.
As a parent, you do not want to see your children, the people you love most in the world, being but happy. And when they have to go through something painful, I would prefer it were me who is suffering instead of them, but that can't be, life is life and everybody has to learn and go through it...
And as my dad used to say to me: it's something that you will only understand when you have your own children!

Answer 3

As parents, it hurts us emotionally to have to spank or discipline our children. It hurts us to see them upset or suffering in any way. That said, we also know that it's sometimes necessary to do these things in order that our children learn to be good people. My daughter is 6 years old. When my husband or I have to punish her (sending her to her room, taking away a privledge, or as a last resort, spank her), it makes us very unhappy to see that we caused her any pain or upset of any kind. Thing is, if we didn't discipline her when she did something wrong, how would she know not to do it or that it hurt someone else? To answer your question, no, it doesn't hurt us physically to punish our children. It hurts us emotionally, which can sometimes be worse. When our children do good things and make good decisions without prompting, though, it's all worth it.

Answer 4

Of course it is true.
It is horrible being a parent...all you want is for your children to like you, and parents have to impose boundaries and dole out punishments, and it is extremely difficult to do these things. All children and teenagers see is a mom or dad who is being unfair, but the parent sees a dangerous situation that they need to keep that child away from. It's no fun to say no, to set yourself up for fights, to live each day knowing that your child doesn't think you love him/her when you love that child more than you have EVER loved anything else...As parents, we want our children to be happen, and knowing our decisions take away 'happiness' from our children is really diffcult...it is more painful to be a parent than a child.

Answer 5

When you have children you will understand. There's no greater love than a parent for a child. My son is an adult now and it still hurts me when he is hurting.

Answer 6

That's an easy one. If you are al oving parent you hate to punish your child. However, discipline and teaching good moral values is what being a good parent is.

Answer 7

I think it is true...it hurts the heart and soul when physical punishment is used in any form.

Answer 8

They don't want to do the form of punishment that your actions have incurred, but they have to to teach a lesson. Therefore, to them, it hurts THEM more than it hurts you.

Answer 9

I never did say that to my kids, but to see them sad, hurting, unhappy or sullen made me feel bad.

Answer 10

hahaha. my parents always said the same ting to me.LOL its because when they whip you( discipline reasons) it hurts there hands more then it would hurt you.