Do I have to keep being a jerk?

Question

I used to be a nice guy and suffice it to say the girls I dated did not like that unless they where older and religious.

Now I have learned to be a jerk and I get the girls but it's always short term; they don't want a relationship with bad boys.

So how do I reconcile this? I want a good girl but have to be a jerk to attract her, yet a nice guy to keep her?

All women say that they want a nice guy but we all know they don't respond to them like they do to jerks.

Answer 1

Be a jerk in the beginning, then be nice to her if you want a long term relationship. Good luck ;)

Answer 2

Being a jerk only works for a little while because it sparks an interest I'd say. But if you want a good girl, I don't think you need to be a jerk. Just be yourself. Stop being something you are not and perhaps you will find someone who is what you are looking for.

Answer 3

Be a nice guy. Be who you were originally meant to be. Some girl will eventually find you and fall in love with the real you. You've been putting up some sort of image in front of you that is not the real you. Don't live a lie. Be who you are and it may take a long time, but you'll find the right one eventually.

Answer 4

being a jerk makes u funny and girls like guys that are funny. that's a part of u that they get attracted to. but when u go out with them, u have to be nice becuz they're ur girlfriend. u don't have to completely change just be nice with her and her friends and when ur around ur friends u can start acting normal.

Answer 5

well, sometimes you can be a complete *** to a girl and she would be attracted to you anyway. if you do get into a relationship. i dont know be considerate once in a while

or just stop being a jerk.