A little problem?

Question

hi everyone,
i have little problem as we live in Australia and my brother in law in Saudi arebia they want to migrate here on our sponsorship visa my husband is very excited to bring them here and he believe that it is his duty to help his younger brother but i don't want them as i don't go well with his wife in past they never helped us but my husband has already forgotten .i know when they will come here there will be fight between us because my sis in law is always try to put me down specially in front of my husband and inlaws and i can't stand it.in past i try to be nice with her but she just can't change she plays game with me and i get trapped i don't know how to deal with her.now i know they are using us and i don't want this to happen and i just don't want to spoil peace in my life and so please suggest me something.

Answer 1

I'm assuming that being from Arabia the family is Muslim and possibly you are not? Even if they are not, the typical family beliefs rub off.

Your husband probably feels obligated and will go against your wishes anyways but...
When we wed, we place ourselves in the care of each other as husband and wife. We are supposed to consider what is best for the other person first and ourselves second (within reason of course).

So my question is have you? and are you doing this for him? then you should tell him that, and why you feel it is best for him not to bring his family here. And has he seriously considered your welfare in this? Why not come to a compromise...

If his family makes the effort to initiate their move like your husband did then you will be supportive of it but if they are relying solely on your hubby getting them in... then I don't think they want this as much as they say they do and your hubby shouldn't help.

Answer 2

tell your husband that you think its great that he wants to help his brother but the sacrafice is you.

You must tell him how you feel and if not you can always tell your brother in law that you have contagious herpes outbreaks. (maybe that will keep him away)