I have a theory about attraction: Confidence and personality all lead to long term attraction.?

Question

But really the selling point for the majority of couples will always be physical attraction.

I beleive attraction is based primarily on physical attraction, followed by confidence and personality.

Physical attraction catches the eye and keeps you satisfied on a physical level, confidence keeps you satisfied on a social level and personality keeps you satisfied for life.

For long term relationships:
50% phsyical / 40% personality / 10% confidence.

For short term relationships:
50% physical / 20% personality / 30% confidence.

Agree or disagree?

Ya the percentages will always vary depending on the personality of the individual. Those numbers are a base to work off of for different personality types.

Answer 1

that is pretty good!!!! I agree!!! The numbers might be a little different, but I think your concept is right!!!

Answer 2

I would definitely have to disagree. The physical only plays a large role in the contexts of immediate attraction (rather than one which grows over time) and short term attraction. In a long term relationship the physical does not matter that much. Consider the fact that people usually become less conscientious about their physical appearance over the course of their relationships. Not to mention that the very natural process of aging diminishes ones physical attraction. Moreover, the way in which we perceive someone or something has much more to do with how we comprehend them as a whole than what they actually look like. Antonio Banderas, in my opinion, is not very attractive physically. Neither is Clint Eastwood. But, it is the elements of their personality, of which confidence is one, that yields them attractive status and alters the way we view them physically. In short I believe your stats should run as follows:
LTR: 5% Initial Physical attraction. 70% Personality and Confidence. 15% Physical attraction in the context of personality. 10% Physical.
STR: well, I believe these can stay the same.
Ultimately, though, it is difficult, futile maybe, to try and quantify these things. It's like trying to ascribe a number to utility. ;)

Answer 3

In theory your half right. For long term relationships I would put physical at 10% and personality at 50% and confidence at 40% . As people age they care less about the physical aspect of their partner than their personality and confidence. Older people strive for companionship and not physical beauty. I would argue with you on the short term but the more I look at it I seem to find myself agreeing. I am basing my answer on people I know and the relationships both myself and they have had.

Answer 4

confidence and personality triggers attraction, attraction doesnt develop over time, it is an immediate thing.

the woman will know in a matter of minutes or less if she is attracted to you or not...they know body language more than guys...

its all confidence and personality, looks come second...

ever notice why women are attracted to rich and famous, its not the wealth thats attracted, its because most rich and famous are confident and very personable.
prefer rich and famous because it goes hand in hand with confident and personable.

not everyone is rich nor famous, guys need to build what they can get: confidence and personality.

looks are second...have you ever looked at a couple and said: now what does she see in that bum, hes butt ugly, he isnt rich looking, drives a crap car, i am better looking and i own a better looking car.

he is ugly and poor but he has what she wants: he can keep her attracted because he has confidence and other manly traits.

Answer 5

You can have all the confidence and personality in the world, but if the object of your affections isn't physically attracted to you, you've got no chance.

Answer 6

Nerd

Answer 7

id say your right about the long term relationships....however id say for short term relationship: 75% physical 12.5% personality 12.5% confidence.....seriously