I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years on and off. Things have happened in the past that have cause my family not to like him. They haven't really given him the chance that he really needs... which causes us to fight about it almost all the time. Is this fair to me by either side? He's not the best boyfriend in the world but he does try, but then again, no one is perfect right? It has come to a point where we argue almost about anything, and just get frustrated. When we fight it gets bad. Now i dont know whether i should stay with him, and i know you guys can't tell me whether i should or shouldn't, but what is your intake on this? Can my family exclude him from our family activities and not let him step foot in this house (and me take it in, not say a word) or should i stay with him (i am inlove) and stand up for him? I dont know what is more important. I know blood is thicker than anything else, but are they always right? (Mother and Sister). Who do i listen to?
2007-02-22 10:04:31 · 5 answers · asked by chepi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Listen to your family..they know he is no good for you but it seems to be the more they are telling you not to see him the more you want to see him...you need to leave this boy and find another who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated...you will understand why in a few years time.
2007-03-01 23:25:25 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, it seems like you are definitely between a rock and a hard spot!! All I can suggest is that you ask for some time apart to sort out your feelings, For one, your family shouldn't judge you because you don't have the best boyfriend, that is for you to put up with... Second wether they allow him in their house is their perogative, they don't have to like him, YOU DO... I was in a familiar situation, but I didn't let my family interfere, I was the one who had to make up my mind and I did, years later. I'm just greatful that my family accepted me afterward... They figured "Oh well, she will c for herself" & they were right!! No one can tell you how or when to let go, It's your heart who decides that for you!!! You cannot control who your hearts beats for, what makes you think your family can??? YOUR HEART WILL TELLYOU WHEN TO LET GO!!!! TRUST ME!!!! GOOD LUCK AND CONTACT ME IF YOU WANA CHAT!
2007-03-02 15:53:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is blind. Our friends and family often see our relationship for what they are. While we walk around with rose colored glasses. You are on and off 4 yrs, your family See's u upset, they have had enough and don't want him at the house. To much drama.
Your family wants better for you and you need to see that you deserve better than being jerked around or 4 yrs.
2007-03-02 10:07:10 · answer #3 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is not a matter of being right or wrong,
your have to see even though you are in LOVE what the situation is, are you happy ? do you need to have your family accepting your bf? what do u see in the future if you stay with your bf?
You HAVE to see think and realize about those things that makes a relationship either stronger or weaker, I know we are often in love and all we think is about ourselves and what we want at he moment but being smart in love is when we see what the deal is in reality, You mention he is not the best bf noone is perfect but we try to be the best bf's gf's you know, we do our best to make something happen make it the best,
so see whats going on with your relationship, its sad to have to decide in between family and partners but sometimes we have to do it, but we need to make sure we are making a good decision even though we are in love.
good luck muah !
2007-03-02 18:11:23 · answer #4 · answered by yety21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a very similar situation with my boyfriend. It's hard to tell you without knowing all the details like why exactly they dont approve. My sisters are refusing to let him in their homes and of course no one's inviting him to any family functions but they've also learned that they need to accept that he's who makes me happy. You need to decide if your boyfriend is really worth it is he going to be there for you like your family has? If you decide to stay with him and things escalate between your family he's going to end up being all that you have. I got so frustrated and finally stood up for mine to my family but dont come at them to strong remember that they only have your best intentions but tell them that he's who you're with and while you respect that they dont want to be around him that you are. It's a tough one when your family doesnt accept your boyfriend but sometimes if they dont come around at all then maybe you need to take that as a sign that maybe he isnt right for you. Luckily my family finally saw how happy I was and at least stopped giving me such a hard time about him. Good luck
2007-02-22 18:23:32 · answer #5 · answered by Heather Y 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋