Help with a girl?

Question

Me and My girlfriend juss broke up and the reason was she thought i was smothering her cause i liked bein with her everyday whn we didnt have school i always wntd to make plans with her and she told me she was loosing track of her life wut can i do to help this.... And I want her back I stopd smokn pot and cigerets the whole time we were goin out and whn we broke up I startd bak and now im telln her im gonna completely top and I dnt think she belives wuts some tips o get her back

Answer 1

Why not just give her some space?

Answer 2

Well, understand, first of all, that we all make mistakes. Just because you started back up with the pot and cigarettes, doesn't mean that you're a loser or a failure. But also understand that the way your ex-girlfriend sees it may be different--in other words, you said you were gonna quit before, and that was only temporary. So who's to say that this time around, it's gonna be any different? You know what I mean?
Secondly, I don't know that there is a way for you to get her back. And to be completely honest with you, it's kind of sounding desperate the way that you're going about it. I understand what being in love with someone is like--and I also understand the loss of someone you love deeply. However, we can only control our own actions. And try as you may, you will never be able to "make her" get back with you.
Maybe one of the things you can start doing is cleaning up your life for YOU, not for anyone else. Start becoming confident in who you are as an individual (without another person constantly by your side), and more importantly, learn to become independent instead of co-dependent. Maybe the whole issue for her is that she feels like her independence as an individual was being taken away.
I really hope you are able to find what you really need inside your own heart, outside of a relationship. Blessings! :)

Answer 3

You need to live your own life, if you need her around all the time to feel complete and in control of yourself then something is wrong. Once a girl has gotten the impression you are clingy it is over plain and simple. I suggest you move on and find some things in life that make you happy, start a band or get into sports or something. And the next time you meet a girl you like hang out but don’t forget to live your own life

Answer 4

first of all i dnt even know why ur smoking pot thaz a major turn off fo alot of gurls believe me ive been through all that and when u smoke pot u get lazy and negative all the time and im sure ur girl freind didnt just break up wit u cuz u were smothering her. second of all quit smoking cigarettes thaz a major turn off it jacks up all ur hygiene and makes yo breathe stank. look man i aint trynna bomb on ya but those got to be the first steps if this thang is gon work.

about the girl well yeah girls need thier space too but im suprised in this situation cuz usually the girls are the ones who are needy. man grls like to be to themselves sometimes i mean the guy is supossed to love the girl more but it can get out of hand sometimes u need to chill doode and give the girl some space. as for the break up its her decision try to ignore her and show her that you can change and become a better person cuz sobbing all day about ur girl in ur room smoking bud and cigarettes shows that you have to rely on a person to keep u up to par and that shows your weakness of being a man and taking care of yourself.

hope dis helps peace

Answer 5

I think that she's not ready for quite an involved relationship. Take a step back, see if she's really interested, and if not, theres way too many fish out there. Plus, she might feel a bit cramped b/c of whatevers going on in her life. Look at all situations before making a rash desiciion

Answer 6

Advice from a girl: first step: TELL HER THAT YOUR SINCERELY SORRY AND THAT YOU DIDNT MEAN TO BE OBSESSIVE OVER HER, BUT YOU LOVE HER SO MUCH.
second step:Tell her that you can't live without her and your life is turning to crap without her.
third step:tell her you apoligize, (yes again!) and say you'll let her decide when she wants to hang or go out on a date with you.(if she takes u back that is)
fourth step: ask her to give you a second chance (dont beg girls do not like begging, also, get her something nice, a nice present or something like that.(give the present to her while u ask her to take u back) if she says yes, then make sure u stick with ur promises and dont be obsessive!But if she says no, the relationship is over, but dont let it ruin your life, there are lots of fish in the sea, and you can get help with ur addiction problem(girls arent attracted to drug addicts) Hope THis Helps!

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Answer 7

First of all, a big help is if you STOP SMOKING POT AND CIGARETTES. YOU REALIZE THEY CAN KILL YOU! YOU ARE RISKING YOUR LIFE, and if she loves you maybe she wanted to let go cuz shes afraid shell lose you to pot. Anyway be nice. Stop smoking Buy her flowers. And dont hover over her, give her space and time. After a few weeks begin talking to her more and more and then gradually mention how uve changed and that your a better person now because of her.

Answer 8

Well I would say find someone who wants to do the same stuff you like to do but, since you want her the only thing you can do is let her know how you feel and go about your life if she wants you back she knows where to find you
Seriously dont waste your young life on one girl its not worth it

Answer 9

Tell her your sorry you love her and that's why you always wanted to be with her.. Let her know you respect the fact she needs space and are willing to figure things out to be with her.. Tell her there is nothing you cannot talk about and work though

Answer 10

sounded like she was wearing the pants in the relationship. you need to give people space and stop smothering your significant other. how would you like it if your parents constantly wanted to make plans and hangout with you? you probably won't like it much.

i say you probably lost this one. move on and learn from this experience. DON'T BE SO NEEDY...women like a man to be independent and strong.

Answer 11

first you should give her some space, then you know see if she is alright with it...you know getting together again...then if she is not alright with it you will juss have to moove on. You cant force her in to doing something she dozent want to do.