i am going off to college soon but my dad does not want me to go what do i do?

Question

he does not want me to go, he fordids it. why would he do this. he says i cant take care of myself. i am 18 and an adult. what can i do to convince him otherwise. i hate parents.

Answer 1

Lol sounds like Dad is suffering separation anxiety. We suffer this when our child first starts school and when they first leave home. Go ahead and get your education. Dad will come around in time. Sit him down and tell him you are now a young adult able, cable of caring for yourself. Please keep your parents in the loop and contact often, visit too. Make them proud and bring the marks home. Good Luck

Answer 2

You let him know that you appreciate his advice, but you are legally an adult and that college is your choice. He is trying to hold onto his "baby", probably because he knows what young men are up to (having been one himself). Tell him his protection isn't needed at this point, and you are well-equipped to handle your own life because of the excellent job done in raising you. Be prepared to pay all your own expenses, as parents try to control their children lots of times with the pocketbook. If you truely are an adult and want to be treated like one---you will not worry about financial threats because you can take care of it yourself.

Answer 3

Go for it!!! Sit him down when he is already calm and you haven't talked about it for a week or so. Tell him that you want a chance to do this and would like his approval to try.
If he doesn't let you talk write him a letter or an e-mail explaining why you want to go to college and your plans for affording it...ie loans, financial aid. and go from there. He can't hold you back because you are 18 but he might be able to financailly

Answer 4

The best way to change his mind is to go off to college and do a brilliant job of it, getting good grades, looking after yourself and being a responsible adult. He'll respect you then - hopefully. If not, it is his loss. You need to get yourself a good education whatever your father thinks or says.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Go to college, you will need it to get a good job... You can get loans to pay for it, you can even go part time at nights if you need to work during the day for $$$ as I see your dad not paying for it. Also go to a state school where it is much cheaper.

Answer 6

Why don't you go to a community college for the first year to finish up your pre-requisites? Its a lot cheaper and maybe you can show your dad that you are responsible enough to go away to college... it's worth a try...good luck!

Answer 7

I know hes your dad but you need to live your life how you wish and you need qualifications to get a job and to get on in life
just explain to him that for you to have a good career you need to go to college and if he stillm doesn't let you tell him that you will be relying on him for money because it was him that stopped you from having a career

Answer 8

Maybe you could enlist the help of your Mom if she is not opposed to you going. I would suggest talking to him to allay his concerns. You could also practice being more independent, doing your own washing, washing up or loading/unloading the dishwasher, picking up after yourself, etc. Maybe this is more about your Dad being protective and finding it hard to come to terms with his little girl having grown up.

Answer 9

Sometimes cutting the apron strings is harder on the parent than the child. You need to go to college, but break it to him as gently as you can.

If he forbids it, remind him that you're 18 now.

Answer 10

Does he not want you to go to college or does he not want you to go AWAY for college? Not clear on this. If he doesn't want you to go to college, he may be afraid you'll do better than he did in life or maybe he's afraid you'll screw up somewhere and he'll have to come and bail you out again. Go anyway and do your best to prove him wrong.