do you think your parents have a favorite child if so who and if you are a parent do you have one?

Question

i know i am not the favorite child in my family i know my brother is because my parents are always talking about them to there friends and i am rarely talkin about and because how his sports and i dont do sports there always talking ablut ohh my son honor roll i make honor roll and have good grades whats with that

shouldnt you love all of your children the same even though there actions may not be so well

i havent ever done any thing wrong to my parents or bad really in genral

Answer 1

You know, it's not that you love one kid more than the other. I guess that happens to some people - but for most, it's just that you "get" that child more. You connect or click on a level BESIDES the love that you naturally have for your child.

You should LOVE all your children the same but it's completely natural to be closer to one. It's kind of like with parents - you love them both but I bet you have a "favorite". Or one that you are closer to or understands you better.

I love my children - I have 3. We all have wonderful relationships and we are a great family. But if I had to pick one to spend the day with - it would be my middle child. She is extremely easy to get along with. She understands me and I understand her. We are a LOT alike. Do I love her more? No, honestly - of course now. But I really have to work at it because it can appear that way and I realize that.


Another example: If you were a chess freak and lived and breathed chess - and had 2 kids: one who loved chess and one who didn't like or understand it - which one would you be "closer" to or understand better? Would you love them more? No. Would you connect with them better? Probably.

I hope this helps. Please don't feel unloved. I know I had the same issues when I was younger - my sister and my mother are exactly alike. EXACTLY. I'm the odd duck out. It wasn't until I was older (seriously - in my 30's) that I came to appreciate it all. Maybe it took being a parent to understand how much *I WAS* completely loved.

Answer 2

I believe sometimes it makes a parent feel they are doing a good job when a child makes them proud. Plus, it boils down to pride.....& possibly does it matter more to your brother that he makes your parents feel proud, as well as feeling that way about himself? Do some soul-searching and figure out what type of relationship you want & are willing to give regarding your parents. I think alot of times it is what parents & children have & share that are common. Is it easy for the child to share his feelings with a parent or parents or does that child hold back? It takes awhile to realize that it isn't a one way road.....it takes a child also to create that bond. I am a parent & I love all my children...I am sure they take turns thinking that one of the others is my favorite, when really they are all unique & special. I find that it is easier to be close to the ones that allow that to happen...very hard when one has a wall up & I am trying to climb over & get pushed back down. Try & think if you are jealous of your brother quite abit & if this constantly torments you (as it must since you asked)...try and have a heart to heart with the parent you feel the most comfortable talking with. Communication is the key to ANY relationship. Good Luck & We are all Special!!!!

Answer 3

My Moms favorite is my brother M. He is the youngest of all of my brothers.Everyone of us other children know that out of the 9 of us he is and always was the favorite.I have only one biological child a little boy.But I have also raised one of my nieces and I have treated and raised him the same way I did his sister(my niece) when she was little.I still treat her and him the same except for the fact that I won't let him drive my car.He is only 8 and she is 24 so I will let her drive.

Answer 4

If your brother is younger than you or if you're the middle child. These are some some reasons why. I hope this helps you little bit to understand.