My dad wouldn't be impressed if there was a stripper there and she went near my fiance. He will definately tell me what goes on.
2007-02-22 09:21:10 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I do trust my fiance, i don't trust strippers. How can anyone who takes their clothes off for money have any morals. I think if a guy is about to get married then he shouldn't be near naked women. Maybe i am weird but thats just my opinion. I am my fathers baby and my brothers will also be there. I know if anything went on that shouldn't they would put a stop to it and tell me.
2007-02-22 09:34:57 · update #1
Yeah, that'll probably quiet things down a lot.
2007-02-22 09:24:50 · answer #1 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I do trust my fiance, i don't trust strippers."
It takes two to tangle. Strippers should serve no threat as long as the fiance keeps his brain in his pants in check. If something happens, never blame the woman first as the guy was also half the blame.
"How can anyone who takes their clothes off for money have any morals."
How can any guy who watches another girl, besides his own partner, have any morals?
"I think if a guy is about to get married then he shouldn't be near naked women."
Then you should make it clear now before the party and wedding happens that it should be a non-stripper and sexual related event. Stripping is sexual. It only serves a mental and sadly, sometimes physical purpose.
"Maybe i am weird but thats just my opinion. I am my fathers baby and my brothers will also be there. I know if anything went on that shouldn't they would put a stop to it and tell me."
I hope so. Have to trust in your family and best judgment. You should state your feelings so they know what boundries you feel are being crossed at certain points.
it is common for Future in laws and siblings to go all in out for the new husband to be, even in a tight nit family. So, vocalize your opinion.
2007-02-22 20:13:38 · answer #2 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK.. I have to agree with you on the stripper thing. A guy that is about to be married doesnt need one last night at looking at other naked women. (I dont agree with the strippers have no morals though - I know a few very well adjusted women that are great mothers and wives that happen to strip for a living). Im getting married the day after tomorro and I flat out told my fiance that he isnt having a batchelor party with a stripper - mainly because Im 17 weeks pregnant also and I think that would very disrespectful of him to do. Having your dad there may keep it quieter even though I doubt anything would happen if he wasnt there. If there is a stripper there, she is paid to get close to your fiance so what your dad should be paying close attention to is how he reacts... To be honest, if my fiance was having a batchelor party, I'd want my dad right there!!!
2007-02-22 10:47:00 · answer #3 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Given what you have said about your father and your brothers, it will probably keep stuff from happening but if his friends have hired a stripper, she will be there and she will be aware that he is the groom and that this is for his "benefit" - for lack of a better word. Honestly, I think it would be more important to know what his reaction is to the stripper rather than the fact that she's there. Keep in mind that your fiance probably didn't have any control over the fact that's she there - it all depends on what he does once she is there that should matter.
Try not to worry too much about it because if your relationship is solid, some girl shaking her fanny in his face (or whatever else she shakes) won't change the fact that at the end of the night, he'll be in your arms.
2007-02-22 11:04:33 · answer #4 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always think it's totally ridiculous how men have this "must have-bachelor party" when pretty much every woman you talk to, is bothered by it. If the idea of a stipper bothers you, why are you pretending it's ok? It's not like it's a pre-requisite to getting married! If you are worried about it and it bothers you, why dont you just TELL HIM instead of sending your dad in as a spy? I just dont understand why women dont just speak up about the issue. There was no way in hell my husband was going to have strippers the night before our wedding. He wasn't even interested - and if he was I'd be booting his ass to the curb anyway! If he insisited then he wouldn't have been worth marrying because obviously my feelings/concerns were of no value. Just tell him you dont want strippers and let that be the end of it.
2007-02-22 10:27:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You would be suprised what dad will allow.
No he won't tell you. There's a man rule about bachelor parties...All the strippers were huge gorilla monsters wearing mini-skirts and they all have 3 foot thick force fields that don't allow any touching. ;)
My father in law actually jumped into the fun with the rest of us.
2007-02-22 09:30:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont trust your husband do you think u should be getting married i have been married for 2 years i am not an expert but i trust my husband try this excercise blindfold yourself before crossing a big street and have your fiance cross you!! if you have worries or concerns about getting accross, if u want to lift the blind fold, u dont trust him and a marrige certificate wont change that it will ony aggravate it, can u see yourself in 5 years wondering if he has something going with the grocery store clerk because she smiles at him during check out?? try the excercise and let me know
2007-02-22 09:27:51 · answer #7 · answered by angelswife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want the stripper at your fiancé's party, it should be sufficient for you to just tell him that. It doesn't matter if your father will be there or not - if you can't communicate with your fiancé about such things, might as well call the marriage off now.
2007-02-22 09:26:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, no. Fathers often get in on the action, and if they don't the boys might just wait for your father to go home and then continue the party without him.
2007-02-22 09:30:52 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Lucky♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way! your Father will be just one of the boys at the party, they are all the same when they get together at these events even old dads and uncles etc. lol
Let them have their fun, they are only men. Poor devils,they can't help it!!!! lol.
2007-02-22 09:43:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its naturally unfair for a girl's father to visit son in laws private party!!!! My father never did that when my man gave a party. Normally it will be full of fun and wet. You cant help it
2007-02-22 09:25:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋