Why would he say i meant everything to him and tell me he loves me if he realy did not??

Question

He told me h loved me and that i was the only one he loved and he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and that he wanted to take me to the moon and get married...Why did he lie??when he broke up with me he told me that i was to perfect for him and that he could not fit my standerds...BUT HE LOVED me......

But he did not get in my pants cuz i would not let him...

Answer 1

OMG i am going through the EXACT same thing. I was with my boyfriend for a year and a little over a month and he told me that i was his world, his insperiation, his love, the first and only love, EVERYTHING that a gurl would just fall in love with. He told me i meant everything to him. I told him when he broke up with me that it was the biggest mistake of his life and it is. Girl you HAVE to e mail me... our stories are the EXACT same.

I also told him that if he is stupid enough to let me go the first time that i wouldnt give him another chance to break my heart a second time. He broke up with me because i was his first serious relationship and he needed to "explore" more girl befroe he gets with me but what he doesnt realize is that when he is ready i will be long gone.

Answer 2

Savannah, you've got it all wrong babe.

When he said those things to you he probably meant them. Seriously. Emotions are weird because they are not always the same and change over time because our brains are always changing. The way a persons brain is wired also physically changes several times from birth to death.

Each time your brain changes, you dont know it but you are thinking differently than you were before. Maybe you like Vanilla Ice cream instead of Chocolate now and have no reason why. The deal is this. When you liked Chocolate Ice cream and you're sitting there drinking up the whole bowl of it, you thought to yourself how great this is and you will Always Always love chocolate ice cream. That is until you find out about strawberry, rocky road and heath blizzards. It doesnt mean that you didnt love the Chocolate ice cream it just means that you didnt know what else was out there and decided you liked something else instead.

See its nothing that you did wrong and you have to understand that. It doesnt mean that you arent beautiful and desierable. Because to someone else, you could be their favorite flavor in the world and guess what? You might like them even better than you did chocolate ice cream.

Smiles..

Answer 3

Okay complex answer to this question.
The answer depends on how long you have been together. If you were together for just a short period of time, he said it because he was trying to manipulate you (eg: sex).
If you were together for a long time then the answer is that perhaps he was confused. Love is confusing for many men (including me), when you find yourself with a girl you really like her but you're not sure if the feeling you have is love (make sense?). If you have been together for a while, perhaps he felt like he should say these things to make you feel secure and happy with him.
Now he may have left you because he realised he does not love you or maybe he left you because he is not sure if what he feels is love... He will figure out in due course whether he made the right decision or not.
If he didn't love you then this is much better for you and I hope that you find happiness with someone who genuinely loves you! Good luck!

Answer 4

Oh My God...I went through the same thing! My ex and i were so in love! He would tell me all the things you just said your man tells you! One night he just decided to leave me, he said that I'm too good for him and all that he is doing is leading me into the wrong path! He is a thug...so obviously he was. But he did love me...it's been 3 years and to this day we still talk and he still tells me that he is so sorry for everything he did to me and all the tears he caused. But now i am with another man and I'm really in love with him, we are planning on getting married really soon! Your B/F probably does love you, but he probably did realize that you are too good for him...just think about it this way, everything happens for a reason, you two were just not meant to be. You are going to be heart broken for a long time, but don't let that ruin your life!

Try going out to the clubs, or just hanging out with your girlfriends, that really does help a lot! Just don't be stupid and get drunk...that is the worst thing to do when you have a broken heart...believe me I KNOW

Answer 5

Okay. Truth hurts...

He did not love you.

However, I am very proud of you. You did not let him into your pants.

It's easy to say "I Love You". Here, let me say it "I Love You". I could say it a thousand times, but without action, it is just empty words. Without trust, honesty, respect, communication, co-operation, commitment and compromise, "I Love You" means nothing.

Looks like he was just saying those things so he could get in your pants and when he realized it would take more time than he was willing to spend, he went away.

Best thing that ever happened to you and I hope it keeps happening until you find a guy who respects you, loves you enough to wait.

I know it's hard. You want to be with someone. All your friends are with someone. You feel alone.

Here's my suggestion. Get to know yourself. You are your own best friend. Don't worry about being with someone, especially mr wrong. 'Cause mr. right won't find you if you are with someone else.

Make yourself happy. Do things that make you happy. That happiness will attract other people to you... No one wants to be with someone who is depressing or sad.

The dogs out there are looking for desperate, easy, sad & lonely girls.

You did the right thing. And you gained experience. Next time a dog shows up in your life, you'll be able to spot him easier, and not waste your time with him.

Good luck, and I'm proud of you.

A~

Answer 6

Maybe he does love you and he couldn't live up to your standards. Ask him what the hell he's talking about. Hopefully he will tell you. He probably felt like you didn't do your part correctly. That means that there is something missing to your story because no guy will break up with you and tell you that he still love but couldn't fit your standards. He would have said that he just couldn't fit your standards. Now that you said he didn't get any, he may have just wanted sex but you didn't give it to him so he moved on.Then again, he could be just telling the truth because on Sunday I broke up with my fiance (3 years together). I could not waste anymore of my life trying to live up to his standards and I still love him, always did, will.

Answer 7

They tell you that they love you because they think that if the dont say that you will never sleep with them. But some guys that I know fall in love very quickly or think that lust is love, when they tell you they love you sometimes they think that they really do, and sometimes they're just an asshole looking to get laid, be glad he's gone you can do much better, trust me.

Answer 8

he may have really actually been thinking of your best interest.. or sadly he may just have spotted something he tought was better. most guys don't realize how good what they have is and they'll say anything just to keep you for a few more days then they get fed up with trying. and unfortunetely some guys will say anything to get what they want

Answer 9

He probably meant it when he said it, or maybe he just wanted something else from you ! You know him better than anyone else. He probably realized he wanted something different in a relationship! Move on and forget about him!

Answer 10

Maybe he was saying what you wanted to hear to get laid. Maybe he thought he meant those things, but then something changed? Things got weird? Or maybe he meant those things but got scared? I don't know exactly why guys do this, but it sure is confusing...