Okay, here's the deal. I have heard from any older people that their children were potty trained by 1. My oldest was tained by the time she was 2 and my youngest is just about there. She will be 2 in April. I think that seems pretty good yet I constantly hear my parents and inlaws bragging about mine and my husband's milestones. According to our parents, we were both potty trained by the time we were 1. Is it really true that kids were doing things much earlier years ago?
2007-02-22 09:01:09 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
oh Honey.... Please don't put a time limit on this. Some children out grow things more slowly than others do. Please don't put a deadline on a child that isn't able to meet it. Please....
2007-02-22 10:29:54 · answer #1 · answered by melani 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Personally, I think that there is a difference between being "potty-trained" and being "diaper-free". I think a potty trained child is one who can recognize the signs that he needs to urinate or have a bowel movement, can announce that he has to go (using words that are understandable) in time to make it to the bathroom most of the time, and can pull his pants/underwear down and up on his own. Proper wiping, flushing, and hand-washing is also part of being potty-trained and generally requires an adult helper for some time. Before a child has developed these skills he basically has the adult care-giver in his life potty-trained. They are the ones who must remember to take the child to the bathroom and must do everything for the child. I think potty training is a process that begins in infancy by talking to your baby while changing his diaper and isn't truly complete until a child is day and night-time dry (which can take until age 8-10 to accomplish). All children are ready to begin potty training at different ages and each is potty-trained at different ages as well. It was not too many years ago that many moms did not work outside the home and those that did often had close family members care for their children. In those days, it was more common for potty training to begin early, but it mostly consisted of mom, Grandma, or Aunt taking Baby to the toilet to sit every 1/2 hour. Today, many moms have a lot on their schedule and staying home most of the time isn't as common as it once was. Even moms considered "stay-at-home moms" aren't home very much. I think that the busy life styles that families have is generally not as conducive to early potty training as it once was. My own experience has been that sometime between 2-3 years old, many children begin learning potty-training skills. Some are between 3-4 years before they are ready. Ultimately it doesn't matter when a child is potty trained. By the time they go to kindergarten a child won't be wearing diapers anymore. No one will even know or care when they stopped wearing them.
2007-02-22 12:49:56 · answer #2 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK just to clear it up, kids were clocked trained and the parents were trained. from what I have read this is a common misconception that kids were really trained that early.
How many of us are trained to go to the bathroom before we leave the house for a car trip?
Our parents learned that if they taught us what to do when we sat and then took us every 1 or 2 hours there wouldn't be many accidents.
That is ver different than a child recognizing the urge to go and then going this is something that really happens both cognitively and physiologically around 2.5-3 years old.
I have a friend that has 5 of her own and had done child care for 18 or so years and has come to the philosophy that kids will potty train at their own speed you introduce them and talk to them and they will let you know when they are ready. MY eldest did this.
2007-02-22 09:25:52 · answer #3 · answered by geekgirl33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I think back to when we were babies (I'm 31) cloth diapers where what you used. So, I am figuring potty training at an earlier age was probably urged. I know disposable diapers where available back then but they were very expensive-so most families probably dealt with cloth. In my own opinion, washing nasty cloth diapers versus teaching a child to use the potty, would be a easy choice! Currently, we have the convenience of dozens of affordable disposable choices to be more relaxed on potty training. I guess, I'm saying it's like necessity (of yesteryear) versus preference (of today). fyi: my daughter was just over 2 and we still use a pull-up at night. Neat question!
2007-02-22 09:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by Kusmier Family 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every child starts differently. Most experts recomened not to start until the age of 2. Personally I think its best to listen to her cues. Parents had a lot of old fashioned views that they follow, and they believe just because they could make their children do it that it was good for the kid.
There are a lot of old wives tales and parenting practices people used to do. My mother in law told me to give my son a bath in rubbing alcohol to reduce a fever. Of course there are many warnings about how dangerous it is now but parents used to do it to their kids.
My mom gave me and all my siblings baby asprin when we were sick but now its not recomeneded because it could cause Reyes Syndrom.
You sound like you have common sense and your kids are doing fine. Most kids don't have good blatter control at the age of 1 and boys are supposed to take longer then girls.
I don't know any children who were potty trained at 1 year old.
My pediatrician said my son was very early when he was potty trained by 18 months.
He started to show intrest around 15 months and wanted to start using the bathroom because he wanted to wash his hands (and play in the water) this was ok with me because, though the floor got a little wet, potty training was simple and fast.
However I know another mother who just got her son potty trained at almost 4 years old. That is NOT abnormal. He just had to get to the point that he decided he didn't LIKE diapers and didn't want to wear them anymore (they are pretty scratchy and when wet feel icky.)
Try asking yourself these questions
Does your child stay dry for at least two hours at a time during the day?
Does your child poop at fairly regular times?
Does your child show any interest in potty training or being in the bathroom?
Can your child follow simple instructions?
Does your child seem uncomfortable with soiled diapers and want to be changed?
If you have more yes answers then no answers then I'd say don't hold your child back. (but also don't push to hard, if she's not ready she's just not ready.. Sometimes it's more jsut that they are curious then capable.)
If you have more No answers then just give her some time.
2007-02-22 09:10:33 · answer #5 · answered by slawsayssss 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom said i was at 2 my brother took till 3 and my son was 3 when he got potty trained i think it all depnds on the child. My son was a BUSY boy all ways outside and getting side tracked, then one day he decided he was ready and a week later no diaper/pull ups at all not even at night.
2007-02-22 09:09:40 · answer #6 · answered by lacmcentire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think 2 years old is a great age to start potty training. I nanny for 3 year-old triplets, and their parents just started potty-training them.....Let me just tell you, it is a hassle at this age!
Like I said, 2 is a great age!
2007-02-22 09:11:13 · answer #7 · answered by *Logan's Mommy* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally have never heard of a child completely potty trained by age 1. That's like catching a 20 pound bluegill (fish, of course) - exaggerated so no one else can beat it!
2007-02-22 09:13:57 · answer #8 · answered by P. K. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
vever heard that 1 year old were potty trained i think the best is around 2 to 3 good luck
2007-02-22 09:46:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a 2 year old all most 3 and he ant potty trained yet i got him in pull ups over a year
2007-02-22 09:08:05 · answer #10 · answered by charles w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋