Im just not ready for this. Im going to buy a one way plane ticket to Mexico and go live with my relatives over there. Its almost all the way in the bottom of the country over there. I just cant deal with this, I didnt want a kid. Oh well. Anyways, I just had to vent this.
2007-02-22 08:51:01 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
How will this be a problem for me? They cant touch me if Im in another country.
2007-02-22 08:56:08 · update #1
keep it up pimp thats the way!! i would do the same
2007-02-22 08:55:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
EVERYONE! We don't know the whole situation!
While I agree that it's wrong to run out on your pregnant girlfriend, it's better than running out on your kid AFTER it's born!
Did your girlfriend know that you didn't want a kid before she got pregnant? How far along is she? Does she know now that you don't want the baby? If not, you need to at least talk to her about the fact that you don't want a kid and why you don't want the kid.
As the mother of a child whose father chose to cut off all contact when she was 3, I have this to say: If you leave now, and you make sure the mother-to-be understands that you don't want a kid, you should not have to be held responsible for the kid. After all, if SHE didn't want the kid, she could choose to have an abortion, so you should be allowed to choose whether you want to be a father.
I just think she deserves to know why you are leaving, and if she still wants the baby, it would be good if you could let her have important medical information in case the baby ever needs it.
Also, you need to grow up and realize that you can't just run away from every problem.
2007-02-22 10:27:59 · answer #2 · answered by TJ'smom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What an A**hole!!! What if your dad did that to you, and you never got to meet him, and you had to grow up with the questions of why, and the feeling of not being worthy of someones love.. Ever heard that saying anyone can be a father, but it takes a real man to be a daddy. You need to own up to your mistake, I am sure you are not the only one freaking out about this... I honestly wish you would've grown up without your dad, and then you would knowo just how important a good daddy is and just how much of an impact they make on a child....
To all the real daddies out there... biological or not... we women appreiciate everything you do for your children... And hopefully this guy will follow you...
I really hope if he is really that worthless, then maybe the child will never have to feel rejected, and hopefully its mom will find a great father like I know so many of you are (including my husband).
2007-02-22 10:13:45 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy of 2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's better for everyone, if cowards like you just leave the country. We're grown enough in this country to often find a way to take care of the children in this country, even when they are not our own. You're setting a great example--I wish all cowardly dead-beats would just leave the country.
Beside, it's just more prove to build a wall and shoot the ones that get past. You'll find that when you get back home that everyone there wishes they were here and they will believe you're the dumbest person in the country.
You are destined for a cowardly, crappy life...and I hear what you're saying---"You're are not worthy of fatherhood".
2007-02-22 09:07:31 · answer #4 · answered by Jeff W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry but that's not right I'm sure you knew the consequensses of having unprotected sex before you did it and you were the one to make the choice to not wear a condom it is aswell her fault to but that kid deserves a dad and I am sure sooner or later she'll find someone else but the least you should do is send her a little money to help her out every now and again. even if you don't want to be in the kids life its alot on the girl and if you care about her at all I believe you will help her out some how. hope you make the right choose.
2007-02-22 09:03:28 · answer #5 · answered by sweet_angel_love_83 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
as much as you are feeling you aren't ready for this, you have to man up and be there to see how beautiful and amazing this baby will be. this baby could be the scientist who cures cancer or finds the cure for aids. How would you feel growing up knowing that your dad left your mother because he just wasnt ready.
The fact of the matter is.. NO one is ready! you get ready when you see that baby look in your eyes and to have you look right back at them giving them the reassurance that you will always be there. if you walk away.. you will always wonder " what if i stayed. and what does my kid look like, will they try to find me" and your baby girl or your baby boy.. will always wonder " why did he leave, i need him so much today"
dont be another father who walks away from their child and regrets it the rest of his life. You will nevre forget that you have a child out there,and this child will never forget that his father is out there. Be the man, you know is inside of you. Step up to the plate and take on this challenge, you will see how truly amazing the journey is
2007-02-22 09:03:55 · answer #6 · answered by mama'O2_07 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A question to ask youself , do you not think that in a few years you may regreat this desision . What will you do if in 16 years they come looking for you, and say hey Dad why did you leave. Or what if in a few years you regret it and your baby does not want to no.
It may be scary now but wont always be like this. Even if you dont want to be active you will have yo pay.
2007-02-23 07:06:20 · answer #7 · answered by Littleblonde-kacey is here 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well im not going to tell you what to do but i will say that a man would stand beside his own child no matter what and you may leave country but if you do you will never be able to return because they will find you and you will pay child support for the child you showed no responibilitys with getting her pregnet by not useing a condom , so please show a little responability now by takeing care of your child if you dont love her dont stay with her but stand by the child been a father is easyier than been a mother at least you dont go threw the pain she will go threw to have your child you can always be a weekend dad who only takes it everyother weekend that means you would only see it 2 times a month but you would at least pay for daycare while she works to raise the child
2007-02-22 09:59:04 · answer #8 · answered by family fan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, they can't get to you if you are in another country. But its takes two...IF YOU HAVE SEX YOU CAN GET PREGNANT.
Also remember she may not be ready for this either and she needs your help. A baby changes everything for everyone involved, I promise if you stay you won't regret it later, this baby will turn out to be the best thing in your life. However its your choice. Think about this what would you be like if one of your parents wasnt there for you during your life...
2007-02-22 09:43:31 · answer #9 · answered by maxtonamvl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It will be a problem for u 20 yrs down the road when a kid knocks on ur door and wants answers..and if u werent ready for it should have worn protection..not wearing protection shows that u werent ready for sex..immature...do u think the mom was ready? and i hope she catched ur *** mexico or not..GROW UP
2007-02-22 09:31:06 · answer #10 · answered by Chris D 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If thats what you really hink is best inside Its good you are leaving her and the baby because its obvious that you are nothing but a looser and not to bright either. Just do them a favor and don't try to crawl back into their lives 5 or 10 years later when you wake up.
And do the world a favor also, don't date anymore, stupid people shouldn't breed.
2007-02-22 09:03:25 · answer #11 · answered by slawsayssss 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋