How do u control a kid with adhd ?

Question

my five yr old has it and its driving me nuts. how can i properly disipline him?

Answer 1

As the mother of an autistic child I can empathize with you - and I know a few mothers in your situation who are having some luck with the same things that parents of autistic children have discovered - for example, dramatic changes can occur when you change the child's diet, or example, by eliminating wheat and cow's milk and processed sugar. It sounds hard but we are able to do it pretty easily.

Discipline for these kids is confusing. We feel we can't reach them without yelling, yet yelling only confuses them or makes them act out. It is important for us to set a resolve that we will simply not get angry. When my child acts up, I tell her that she can either take a deep breath and calm down or she can go into her room until she calms down. These are the rules - you follow them, great. You don't, you will be limited until we can work out a compromise. Negotiation on a very basic level - i.e. "get into your pjs and then you can get back to what you wan to do - waste time and there will be no play time before bed, because dressed or not, you will go to bed at bed time" - and encouraging them to negotiate with you - "You don't want these pj? Pick a different pair".

It sounds a bit crazy, but I am having very good luck with my child this way. It is simply the rule, that's all, no big deal. I think my own calm is doing more good than anything else really. She is a lot more peaceful and so able to pay better attention.

There are tons of things I have found in my search. Feel free to email me if I can be of further assistance. Good luck!

Peace!

Answer 2

Number one: You cannot "control" a kid that has genuine ADHD. There are techniques you can use to manage him better, but the last thing you want to do with any 5 year old, let alone one with ADHD, is engage in a battle of the wills. You will drive yourself a lot more nuts. You have to actually let go a little bit.

Number two: there are many, many books on this subject. Should a child with ADHD be disciplined? ABSOLUTELY. Should a child with ADHD be disciplined "just like any other kid"? HEAVENS NO. It's a neurological imbalance. If your child had diabetes, you wouldn't attempt to discipline it away, right? Same with this disorder. You need to consult with a knowledgeable pediatrician to find ways to work with the disorder and manage it better instead of attempting to fight it. You will pull your hair out.

Number three: While it's important not to engage in a battle of wills with your son, you should also be careful not to do anything that encourages the usage of his disorder as an excuse. This is where it is important to network with school professionals and other parents who are also dealing with an ADHD child.

Number 4: Relax. It will be all right. Most kids with ADHD grow up to be happy, healthy and productive adults. You just need to help him channel his energy in the right way.

Answer 3

It is so easy for people that do not have a child with adhd to say whoop him. You cant if you are educated in adhd then you know that a whooping is not the answer. I have a child with adhd he is 10 years old and was diagnosed at the age of 4.He is on medication. Alot of people put it down but my son was putting his head through windows and head butting cement and everything. Since he had been on the meds he has not done it.Sometimes we take stuff away from him as a punishment or we wait till he is finished with his tantrum and you talk to him almly and tell him that the behavir is not acceptable.We were told when our son was younger when he is having one of these fits to sit and hold him and not let him up until he is finished. We had done that when he was younger and it worked. But now that he is 10 years old it is harder to hold him lol.Like i said noone knows how it is to have a child with adhd unless they have one. I wish you the best of luck. Believe me it is hard we have been going through it for almost 5 years. Good Luck

Answer 4

I would really recomened you do some research before you do anything extreme. Children who genuinly have ADHD (Ie: they can't even sit through an hour tv show) need a lot of pacients and work. (If he can sit through an hour tv show you should find a new psycologist and talk about some different options for a possibley bright or overly hyper child.)
Anyways, this is a VERY good book for parents with children who have ADHD. Try ordering it through your local book store or library, I think it will help you a lot!

Transforming the Difficult Child - Howard Glasser

Answer 5

Your son can not control his behavior due to adhd and maybe you should try Ritalin. Ritalin can improve the behavior a little but kids with adhd tend to feel up and down at times and they can get so mad to where they tear paper off the walls and things ike that. Maybe you should look into a school where they can tolerate adhd children and they can help to improve the behavior in the future. I really don't think whoppens are the answer maybe some punishments down the road.

Answer 6

WITH GREAT DIFFICULTY!!
my partners 6 year old has a very severe case of ADHD.
They need to have very FIRM boundries. they need to know that if they test the boundries, that you WILL respond to it, and they WILL be punished!
Our son has very voilent outbursts. When this happends, we simply lock him in his room. Yes he does trash his room. But he also KNOWS that once he has calmed down (he can be in there for hours at times) that he needs to clean up any mess that he's made. If he has broken anything, he misses out on things (lunch orders, getting lollies at the shop ect) untill its paid for, and he knows whatever he breaks in bad temper, will not be repplaced.

Also alot of ADHD children have alot of problems with food colouring and preservatives. Our son cant have red and green. We cant give him many cordials, he can only eat Natral lollies ect..

it depends as to the symptons that your child has. ADHD has heaps of strains, as well as symptoms.

Go see your doctor. they should be able to help, or refer you to someone who can

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 7

I know this will be "unpopular" for an answer but I don't think you should control anyone. The whole idea of discipline is to teach the child to control themselves. You cannot control a person, you can teach a person. If you control the child, when he grows up he will not know how to control himself because you always did it for him. I think you should talk to his doctor and make sure he really has it. Five year olds are supposed to be immature, loud and silly. Talk to his doctor about a parenting class for yourself so you can learn how to parent him.

Answer 8

Don't blame it on the ADHD. Treat him as though there is nothing wrong with him. He will grow up and blame things later on the ADHD just to get out of trouble.

Answer 9

DISIPLINE!!!!!!! Give him chores like cleaning his room DONT GIVE IN

ADHD is very OVERDIAGNOSED. I would get 2 or 3 doctors opionoins before putting or keepin ghim on the drugs.
They can be more harmful than anything

Answer 10

It is pretty much impossible... my step sister has it and she is off the walls! It is very hard to control her but always what works best with me is to give her pills :P but YOU should probaly just keep taking thing that he likes away from him... and say if he slows down he can have them back... good luck... and i fell ur pain!