My son is four and this year is his first year of preschool, or any formal sort of social group.. he has never been in daycare... He is the youngest one in his class and met the cut off day by 5 days.. In November at parent teacher confernces the teacher was concerned he wasnt on track with where he should be .. like knowing colors, letter, alphabet, numbers ect.. so we agreed to wait more weeks and work with him one on one and see where we could get.. yestarday we met again and she was still concerned that he wasnt doing his alphabets and only knew 6 colors and would only count in order some times.. she asked what we wanted to do I said if he has made progress lets go another six weeks and meet again. and then decide another year of preschool. special ed or kindergarden... I know he knows how to count and colors and shapes but I see him not wanted to do it, he would rather socialize... anyone else have a son who was delayed or a child who lacked effort..any advice opions or resources?
2007-02-22 08:30:20 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I am a preschool teacher and see this come up a lot! You are not alone. My best advice to you would be wait an extra year for Kindergarten. For some reason boys just take longer to want to learn and the mature slower than girls. I have never met a parent that regrets holding their little man out an extra year. One year to mature and grow helps tons. It is a lot easier to hold them back now then in later years when peers are aware and it becomes a label. In preschool nobody knows any different and if anything he is the top dog because he is older and a leader because he has been there and done that! Good luck.....
2007-02-23 08:35:00 · answer #1 · answered by Oh me oh my...♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, there is a HUGE difference between a child not putting in effort, and learning delays. Think about that first.
I don't mean to lay blame here, this is just for information. From the time he was at least one and up, you and your husband should have been playing with him, teaching him, doing games, learning activities - so by two and three he should have totally known his colours, by three his numbers, ABCs. songs -- why weren't you showing concern when he was three? I'm concerned that you are not either spending time with him, or just letting the tv babysit him, etc. If this is totally not the case, and you are working at home with him, and doing things to stimulate him, then you need to work closely with the professionals to get him on track quickly.
2007-02-22 16:41:55 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 is young and he will develop. To say that he needs special ed is way too early for that. I am guessing your question is to see if he is ready for kindergarten in the fall. I think it is too soon to see that. He has a long way to develop until the beginning of the school year, which I am guessing is in Sept. I believe you are on the right track to keep working with him and check again on his progress in 6weeks. Repetition is the key and he will learn. Good luck and don't worry.
2007-02-22 16:40:50 · answer #3 · answered by Mum to 2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through this with my son right now and he is currently being seen by a speech pathologist because that is where he is most delayed. She’s given me a few things to work on with him but he is so not interested in me quizzing him. You have to make it fun. My son has to learn his body parts, so after he identifies one I’ll tickle him there so he thinks that this is a fun game. Also, to learn colours, use Smarties or M&M and he has to identify the colour before he can eat them.
2007-02-22 16:53:10 · answer #4 · answered by babypocket2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first off, if he knows those things he is not delayed. maybe he needs a class to teach him self - discipline. like martial arts or gymnastics. he will learn that school is not social time and he will follow the other kids' examples eventually. if you are truly worried about kindergarten, keep him out one more year. i read that kids who start kindergarten at 6 do better on tests and in class than 5 year olds up until they reach third grade, where it evens out.
2007-02-22 16:43:36 · answer #5 · answered by spacey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel where u are coming from u have taught your child things and hear him recite what he has learned but when you ask like what color is this? he looks at u as if he never heard of it before it could be a delay in learning which your doc can refer your son to a specialist or your son could be one of those people who just doesnt like going over thing hes already learned and rather learn new things my advice is not jump the gun address your concerns with your sons doc and countinue to teach him new things to gain his interest
2007-02-22 16:42:16 · answer #6 · answered by mssweetblue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋