how can you improve your confidence?

Answer 1

Accept yourself for who you truly are. This is not resignation nor complacency, but will allow you to move forward at a rate that suits you and opens you up to learning that you CAN change.

Do what YOU -want- to do and do not denigrate yourself for possible mistakes, or for what other people may or may not think. Always accept yourself -unconditionally- with or without others acceptance, approval, love etc. Actively accept yourself in the face of strong opposition and hardship. Obvioulsy live and work to moral standards, but judge your ACTS instead of YOURSELF.

We all learn from our mistakes. Expect to not do too brilliantly as you practise trying new things. Then you will gain mastery of these things and become better. Do not put yourself down for mistakes, instead see mistakes as learning opportunities and dont jump to the conclusion that your ACTS make YOU. They are but a small part of you, an ever changing and complex human.

"failing" at something can never make you a "failure". You are too complex and have too many sides, elements, behaviours, thoughts, and acts to be given a single, general, overgeneralised label. This label also predicts the future; which is illogical and unhelpful.

Secondly; make a plan of which AREAS you would like to be more confident in; I could say that I was a confident COOK, and a confident COMPUTER USER, but not so confident at MATHS!!! Try to avoid seeing your lack of confidence in one area as an umbrella for your WHOLE SELF.

Work towards this plan everyday, and try and notice how much progress you are making.

Behavioural pyschologists suggest that you also reward yourself after a successful completion of a task, whatever size it is. This sinks the message into your subconscious and reinforces any positive change.

Google the net for "NLP New Behaviour Generator" and "NLP Anchoring" - these are little excercises that may help you reach empowered states.

These are just some tips and goodluck with your path towards building confidence.

Im currently there, building it up bit by bit, so can understand where you are coming from.

Best Wishes!!!

Answer 2

Write a list of all the things that you think you have going for you. When you wake in the morning remind yourself of these things, this will give you a boost. If you are a dozy head in the morning place the list where you can see it (without anyone else seeing it). When you next have a knock in your confidence do the same thing, find a quiet place, the loo if necessary, and remind yourself of your good points. You can add to these everyday by setting yourself small goals that you can achieve, then go for something bigger as your confidence grows. It doesn't happen overnight, just one day at a time. You could also buy one of those books that explains how you can become confident overnight but that will be a waste of money. Time and patience.

Answer 3

Several avenues are open to you, from Toast Masters to Karate School. There are Dance schools. Community Theatre - and Local Summer Theater Troop try outs. Clubs - Got an interest - there's a Club for that.

You want to improve you confidence - for what? To be more of a stud around the ladies? To be more successful in business? To be more agressive in the marketplace? To be more competative in the Office? To be "more of a man" in your relationships?

What is it about you right now that you feel is holding you back from being "more confident?" Are you shy? Do you feel you are lacking in some way? I think that until you can identify what is causing you to feel inadequate, you will not be able to identify what you will need to master or achieve to give you the confidence you seek.

THink it over, be brutally honest with your self, I think that you know exactly what it is that is bothering you. Now you need to come up with a reachable goal to allow yourself to achieve sucess in attaining the sucess you need to overcome that goal. Remember keep you goals achieveable, and realistic, but keep raising the bar - and good luck.

I'm pulling for you.

Answer 4

The best way to improve your confidence is to get outside yourself, especially by helping other people. Get involved in your community. Use your talents to help others. Give of your time to someone who needs it. All these things make you a better person and thus more confident.

Answer 5

Why not try visualisation? Remember a time that you felt confident, maybe with friends or family, and think back to how you felt at the time. Close your eyes and feel good and confident again. Basically you are 'practising' feeling confident, and if you believe that you can feel that way again, the feelings of confidence will grow.

Good luck!

Answer 6

By continuing to do the things you are good at and get the best results from. Also try not to give a hoot about what other people say or do if you know you are in the right. People tend to lose confidence when theyre unsure about things and they listen to the wrong advice. They only know its wrong when it goes against gut feeling.

Answer 7

The Answers abouve are great but you could also join a drama class. Joining a drama class would show you what you are capable of and will show you how to become more confident with yourself and others.

Answer 8

make yourself assertive don't hide in the corner do just the opposite and don't muffle when you have something to say. follow current events feel up to date with everything that's going on around you so you can always converse on subjects and lead the conversation and people will listen to you, your confidence will be overflowing in a few months

Answer 9

Alcohol,it's the miracle confidence drug,works for me anyway.

Answer 10

stop caring what other people think, accept yourself for who you are and move forward in life. write a list of things you would like to achieve but are a little apprehensive about and set deadlines for yourself to complete them, they mightn't all go to plan but what the hell, you'll do better next time, go on try it,you'll have fun i promise