Hi, I am studying in the best Uni in UK postgraduate, and my life is a complete mess, honestly don't know what to do about it.
I am doing a postgraduate course in the best university in London and now I have meat an amazingly hot student whom i was dating and having sex with for the last month. However I feel that it has taken away my focus from my studying and that i can't work anymore on my exam preparation. The guy is also studying very hard and we are both seem to be having problems because we don't have time to spend with each other, we need to concentrate on school, we are loosing focus, seems like i loose it more than the guy..
Anyway the guy is an international student, he is likely to live in june after exams back to his country. Is it worth me getting into relationships with him and falling in love when he is probably leaving?
How do I deal with it? I can't stop thinking about the guy, even when i am suppose to study, what shall i do? Do I need to break up with him?
2007-02-22 08:13:37 · 6 answers · asked by Rita B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I totally empathise with you. I am in a similar situation where I am studying and totally in love with a great guy. I am also finding it hard to knucke down and study. It's a shame that he may go back to his own country in June, have you asked him if he definately is? Ask and if he is adamant he is going back then you need to have a rethink. It would be a shame to wreck your studies over a fling that won't last. Is there acounselling service at uni? They may be good to speak to and help you. They won't tell anyone but will support you and help you through this. Do you thinkt hat if you stayed away from him totally you could start to settle back into the studying routine. We have all been in love and it does take us over but take heart that the intensity dosen't last. Just talk to him and find out how he feels. If he really wants to be with you there is always a way of working these things out. Best of luck to you!
2007-02-22 08:31:33 · answer #1 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Rita I think that you are stupid on 2 counts
Firstly don't open your legs to anyone & certainly not with someone who you know will only be short term
Secondly you say that you are studying at the best Uni in the UK. why waste that opportunity on someone that will take you nowhere.
I suggest that you offload him, get down & study & when you pass with flying colours, you will be able to go for what you originally wanted.
In respect of relationships, find the person that you really want to spend the rest of your life with & dont let him have you for at least 6 months & if he stays you will have found the right one for you & you will not have a name as being an easy lay.
You can be a respectable lady instead & I would be proud for you to call your son Andrew or daughter Andrea.
Good luck & best wishes.
2007-02-22 09:08:43 · answer #2 · answered by ANDREW H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both you and the ( Guy ) you mention are two lucky people to have an opportunity to study in England. There are a lot of people in England and other places in the world, that would like to be in your shoes to study and can't get to do so. It would be a waste to know that such an opportunity would go to waste over infatuation over some guy.
Firstly what do you know about this ( Guy ) that is from over seas ? Have you found out the following questions from the guy you are madly in love with ?
A) Is he married with a wife and kids? Divorce or going throug one ? It is best to find out were you stand with this guy as he is not from England. No matter how you feel about this guy, don't ruin your opportunity to get a good education as people and situations change and it is prudent to be educated in todays fast moving world; you both should complete your schooling and get good grades. Later on you will have enough time to see how things go from there. You need to take a break and study to pass your exams as i can't stress on that enough. You may never have such an opportunity like that again if you happen to get pregnant and so many other things can happen.
What if you give up your studies for him and he end up dumping you for an educated woman. When it comes to relationships we know people's faces and not what is going on in their hearts. Please complete your studies and not lose out on educating your self for men as well as women in relationships come and go.
2007-02-22 08:49:09 · answer #3 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
llove can last beyond taking a break, time out really works as a chance to evaluate what you really want out of life
2007-02-22 09:22:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no heart feelings,just play hard
2007-02-23 05:27:08 · answer #5 · answered by anis118030 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
enjoy yourself, your are in love
2007-02-22 09:13:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋