My ex-bf, out of the blue descides to add me to his friends list after 10months of zero communication. We talked, he wanted to clear out somethings, he then says that he wishes he would have done things different, that he values things more, then gives me his cel phone # "in case I ever want to speak to him". He wanted to answer some questions from the past but I told him I didn't want to and he said he wouldn't push it. Now, every time I go online and he is online he signs off! At first I thought he was having computer problems but now I know something is going on. This is how it goes: I log in, he sees I am online, then he loggs off, or he is online and I sign in and he logs off. I don't ever send him a message to talk but it seems to me that he thinks I am going to want to talk to him and that is why he "hides" his status online. Why, why would he want to clear out things and then hide from me???
2007-02-22 08:07:56 · 19 answers · asked by EV 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is older than 18, he is 21. He is in the military and I know for a fact that during these 10 months he hasn't dated anyone.
2007-02-22 08:24:00 · update #1
beats me...guys r crazy attimes..want everything i n life even when they donn't deserve
2007-02-22 08:10:49 · answer #1 · answered by crazyabs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like maybe he's regretting opening up the lines of communication again? Or is embarrassed by how your relationship split - maybe when you said you didn't want to ask him any questions from the past he got that you were still angry, so maybe he figures he's being nice and sensitive by signing off when you sign on now. Send him a note and tell him not to worry about it.
2007-02-22 08:12:28 · answer #2 · answered by Deborah C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like this guy is still young, under 18. But if you want to know why he does it, just ask him, send him an email. If it really bothers you confront him about it. It sounded like he wanted to get back with you, maybe he met someone and doesnt want to now, so he is avoiding you. or maybe he had a girl over and he didnt want to take any chances of you sending him a popup while she was there. I dunno, all I can say is he has some growing up to do. I wouldnt worry about it too much.
2007-02-22 08:14:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is feeling rejected? he has probably grown up since you guys were last together and wanted to be open about the past, by you saying no he probably feels the relationship was not important enough or that he is not important enough to be listened. Maybe you should consider talking to him... and yea that is the way guys will handle something like this lol .. good luck
2007-02-22 08:13:07 · answer #4 · answered by GIGI 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is afraid I would imagine. The though of speaking to you makes him feel nervous. Or he feels stupid that he contacted you so he gets off when he sees you sign in. The other option is he really did not want to talk to you. He did it on an impulse and now does not want to speak to you. My advice: Delete him once again from your friends list and move on.
2007-02-22 08:12:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds to me like this boy wants your attention. He feels that if he is in the same area as you (example- Chatroom, messenger) then maybe he will get that chance to talk to you. He feels closer to you when he does this. Or even, maybe he thinks, one of these times youll click on his name and talk to him or ask him what he is doing. I have the feeling he had 10 months off to think about things and that seems to by why he wants you back or wants to atleast talk to you. And because you havent yet talked to him much he wants to play hard to get. That is what I belive he is tryin to do. If you want to talk to him, try asking what he is doing logging on and off. If not, ignore it, he is setting himself up for dissappoint ment and you have the revenge you need. Good luck!
2007-02-22 08:16:59 · answer #6 · answered by Heather A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he feels dumb. Guys are very prideful about things, especially when it comes to women. It can also be that it is his way of trying to get you to use his cell. Maybe he feels that if you want to say something to him while online if he signs off then you will have to call. Sounds dumb!!!
2007-02-22 08:14:06 · answer #7 · answered by kv 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's clear that you are not his only love interest. Maybe...you should ask him who just dumped him! lol.. really..it is very common for a guy to call his ex-girlfriend when this happens. You are better off if you don't chat with him on-line right now anyway..9-times out of 10...Ex's are out of our lives for good reason...even if they don't tell us..we might be better off not knowing.
2007-02-22 08:14:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Plain and simple: He's a hurt puppy. He wanted you to do what he wanted, and you rejected him. He feels hurt when he sees that you are online, and mistrusts others that they will be luckier than he was with you.
2007-02-22 08:12:07 · answer #9 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he is probably upset because you would not talk to him the first time, and now he is talking to someone else.
I can never tell with guys, it is hard to figure them out
2007-02-22 08:15:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is just scared of you...he could still have feelings for you and not want to show you...be careful...call him and ask him why.
2007-02-22 08:11:48 · answer #11 · answered by Joe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋