Any advise on how I can tell my parents that I am pregnant. Im not married. But my boyfriend of 3 years/the father of my child is very much apart of my life. He and I are very excited about our little nlife we are bring into the world. But my parents are really big on the marriage thing, they even stopped talking to me when they found out that I lost my virginity before marriage. We just started talking again like we use to. I will be 25 this year and my boyfriend is already 25 so we are not kids. But I just dont know how to let me parents know..and not make them feel disrespected any advise?
2007-02-22 08:06:16 · 13 answers · asked by Life It Is What It Is 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Are you planning on getting married? You may want to express those plans when you tell your parents that you are pregnant. They might be mad at first, but they will come around when they realize they are going to be grandparents no matter what.
Good Luck & Congrats!
2007-02-22 08:10:50 · answer #1 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you two have any plans or thoughts on getting married?
Are you both employed? Do you have the means to take care of this baby? Do you live with your parents, on your own or with your boyfriend? Long story short if you are still home with your parents that needs right away.
You both need to sit down with your parents, as hard as it is, you just have to tell them. I am sure they will be upset, hurt, betrayed and probably ashamed will make it way in there too. Funny thing is though, time will heal. At least you are not 14 yrs old coming home with that news.
I found out that my daughter was pregnant by receiving a card from the Gerber Baby Club in the mail. She was 7 years younger than you. I was very upset, thought that she had all but destroyed her future, chances for education, the responsibility she would have to undertake. I just wanted better for her. But, you know it all worked out. Turns out her future included my beautiful grandson. I wouldn't change anything, in her case I would still have liked her to be older and better prepared, but it was meant to be.
As hard as it will be, your parents will love you always and they will love the newest member of the family just as much. Just give them time, and show them that you are ready and prepared for that responsibilty. It will all work out. Good Luck
2007-02-22 08:32:10 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy_cruzir 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't like the idea myself that you are not "married". It really "bugs" me today that people just do things married people do without the commitment...(why?) Regardless of my personal views, I admire the fact that you do at least care how your parents feel.
I would suggest both of you going to talk to your parents together in person....Take a cake and a card, and set the tone for a celebration....Tell them you wanted them to be the first to know that they are going to be grandparents. Let the rest of it unfold from there....If they get upset, don't argue with them, just let them know you love them and that you wanted them to know and were hoping for a better reaction. Go ahead and leave and let them know that you are willing to talk when they are ready.
On the other hand, their reaction may surprise you and they may just be elated with joy. For your sake I hope this is the case! I do wish you, your baby and your boyfriend all the best. Perhaps you could consider "the marriage thing".... Your child really does deserve two loving committed parents who are setting the right example.
Good Luck, God Bless!
2007-02-22 08:16:51 · answer #3 · answered by favrd1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan a wedding and they will be overlooking your early pregnancy. Make it a quick one. It will be easy to look forward to a grandchild if they know their child is married. If you are not planning to marry then they will rightfully have a very negative attitude about your situation, one that will not be so easy for them to accept. Children do best in homes with two parents, for that matter so do the parents, its too much work and the need for support is very strong, marriage is really the best thing you can do.
2007-02-22 08:23:08 · answer #4 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think both you and your boyfriend should both be present when you tell your parents the good news. Have you discussed marriage with your partner? If so and agree to then that might make a good way to break it to your parents. Im getting married and having a child. Either way I think your parents will be there to support you and your little one. Hope that helps you. Good Luck!
2007-02-22 08:12:16 · answer #5 · answered by highdle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When i got pregnant and wasn't married - I took a blanket up to my mom and dad's house and asked her if she wanted to go help me pick out wallpaper and paint to match. It was telling her without coming right and saying IT. It's a bit easier.
For me - I went thru 9 months of lectures about getting married. (which I didn't.) Since you have previously experienced their displeasure, I would EXPECT nothing less this time. But nothing brings around a stubborn parent quicker than a grandbaby! Trust me. Altho mine didn't quit talking to me, they did say stuff like, we won't be able to help you, etc. and now my mom regrets that.
My tactic - is to tell them - subtly like I did - with an outfit, or something baby oriented. It doesn't seem to take as much courage when you know you could be facing adverse reactions.
2007-02-22 08:17:40 · answer #6 · answered by kdgbng 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well they are going to find out sooner or later and they will probably be angrier if they hear it from someone else. I symphathize with your position. Your parents have old fashioned values that they believe in. But they are your parents and they love you. They might be angry or disapointed at first but once that precious baby is here and they see how much they both of you love it they it will get better and they will love their grandchild ( and spoil it) It will be tough telling them and I wish you luck but I'm sure that they will come around. Just give it time and congrats. Hang in there it might get worse at first but it will get better
2007-02-22 08:16:07 · answer #7 · answered by cee_jae22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you tell them you are pregnant, you should let them know of the plans you and your boyfriend are making (i.e. are you going to move in together? are you eventually going to get married? how are you going to support the baby? etc.) This will help them to be more at ease with the situation. They may feel "disappointed" at first, but if they love you, then they will eventually get over it, and be happy and excited for you.
2007-02-22 08:13:33 · answer #8 · answered by *Logan's Mommy* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them. if they feel disrepsected that'e their problem, because sounds like the only one that's been disrespected here is YOU, by them. you are an adult, you are in a loving relationship. if they got over you having sex before marriage, then they better get used to the idea that your pregnant, since sex is what causes that.
try to be positive about it and confident, let them know that you and the father are very happy and you hope they will be happy & supportive
2007-02-22 08:12:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id tell them over dinner that your pregnant and you and your boyfriend are keeping it. Say that you may not be married but your happy and will love the child and hope that they can do the same.
2007-02-22 08:10:35 · answer #10 · answered by LP's Mommy, RN 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋