i need to tell this guy that i fancy him bad but i cant do it. i cant tell him how i feel. come on guys, i need ur advice. what am i suppose to do. i have felt like this for nearly 4 yrs now. he still single. he tries to talk to me but nothing comes out. i dunno what he wants, i just dont know. does he like me? he done this all these yrs. he's a nice guy and i want him but how do i tell him this? i am sooooo in tears now. i feel sooooo strong about him now. i cant do it. it just seems so hard. i can talk to any guy but him. we keep meeting eye contact. i cant do it anymore. i just want to cry. pls help. whats my next step?
2007-02-22 07:58:23 · 21 answers · asked by allgiggles1984 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Mabey he loves you and is shy. It could be you're the one he wants and he's waited 4 years for you and he's lost for words because he loves you. Sometimes saying nothing says more
2007-02-22 08:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him!! You can do it, don't tell yourself that you can't. That's the worst thing you could do to yourself. The more you tell yourself you can't, the harder it actually makes it for yourself to even try. If this has been going on for 4 years now and the guy is still single, you should take that as a sign that maybe things were meant to be, and that you were meant to tell him how you feel. Maybe he feels the same about you too but is just too shy to say anything. Thing is, you'll never know unless you say something to him. I think you can do it, especially if you like him that much.
First thing you should do is try to get yourselves into a private setting to give the two of you a little privacy. Ask him if he'd like to have lunch with you or something. Slowly break into letting him know that you've liked him for a really long time, nearly 4 years. Tell him that you think he's really sweet and that you'd like to try and take things past just being friends that bump into each other here and there. You sound like a really sweet girl, build up a little confidence in yourself and tell him how you feel.
2007-02-22 08:15:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling, there is nothing to fear than fear itself. Do you want to live the rest of your life without knowing what would have happened if you acted at the right time? I suggest that you tell him how you feel, but how is what you need to know. So let me give you a stratergy you can use that has been tested and believe me it works. First of all, you have two choices: either to make a direct approach and say what you feel or try scanning him for clues of whether he likes you or not
2007-02-22 09:15:42 · answer #3 · answered by loxzibit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right you are my dear. You will meet lots of nice young men as you go through your life but if this particular fellow never knew how you felt about him, you would go through your life regretting not telling him. He's probably shy about saying things as well and boys can be a bit dumb where romance is concerned. Get his number and txt him. Ask him to meet up for coffee -or juice. You got nothing to lose and everything to gain. Good luck chick ...big granny kiss.
2007-02-22 08:19:02 · answer #4 · answered by daftoldwoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um, yeah, if you old enough, ask him if he would like to go out for a drink, then drink a few, this will loosen you up a bit and make you more relaxed. Dont get drunk, Nobody likes a Drunk. If you dont drink, just try to be yourself, tell him you like him, send him an email if it is easier for you to type him then talk to him, write him a letter or something other than face to face communication. Once you tell him you will feel better about talking to him. Hope this helps.
2007-02-22 08:06:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean at this point you just have to lay all the cards on the table. Let it OuT! I mean, there is only one way to find out so you got to get it together and tell him straight out. If you have felt like this for so long and bottled it up, you have to get it out, its not healthy to put stress on yourself like that. Just tell him you like him, and from what you described he probably likes you too but he is not very good with words or is nervous so, beat him to it , take some control and be happy finally.
2007-02-22 08:03:37 · answer #6 · answered by Derek 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't talk to him write him a note or email him. Sometimes it's easier to say what you're feeling in a note. Just don't come on too strong, be casual but let him know you're interested and are wondering if he's interested too.
2007-02-22 08:02:32 · answer #7 · answered by Deborah C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, for Pete's sake. If you are crazy about him and he's flirty and flustered, just speak the truth---in the form of sarcasm. Try this:
"Hey, ya bastard. How about we go out to dinner, and then you take me to bed?"
Odds are, one you're at dinner, the rest will come fairly naturally. And if you turn out to have guessed his feelings wrong, you can use the "gee, I was only kidding" escape.
Or just drag him into a broom closet and have him. Be gutsy.
2007-02-22 08:10:06 · answer #8 · answered by Year of the Monkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being a chicken and just say whats on your mind. He will respect you more if you tell him what you are looking for instead of trying to make him figure it out himself. If he doesn't feel the same way then oh well.
2007-02-22 08:04:08 · answer #9 · answered by Your managers favorite manager! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hahaha just say that your relationship has grown special in the 4 years you've known each other. You weren't sure at first but now you are certain that you want to start a relationship.
2007-02-22 08:01:37 · answer #10 · answered by Truman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋