My girlfriend’s ex just can’t let it go,,he is the one who messed up their relationship by being an idot. And now that it’s over and she is with me,,he just can’t face reality and move on. He still thinks that’s his girl,,tries to be around her and buy her stuff,, and keep telling me to leave her alone. She is a nice person and tries to be civil to him but his constant adoration is getting old. Why do women tolerate this stuff?
2007-02-22 07:48:23 · 21 answers · asked by Sean 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
cause we feel bad that they are so dang pathetic. Its sad huh
2007-02-22 08:08:01 · answer #1 · answered by Christina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I know in my personal situation which is very similiar is only because of an unfortunate situation reguarding a child that he now has custody of, so either ther is something he has over her or she is plain disrespecting you, well I mean after a certain amount of time has passed enough is enough right, this is where you as my current boyfriend after several breakups and arguments has demanded respect to him and our relationship or he would no longer participate and I agreed, now I do still accept calls and speak with him for meer seconds reguarding the child until the child gets on the phone which is still extremely stressful in a relationship that another reason for women to be careful when having children although I especially have no I mean no room to talk. My basic answer is its time for you to put your foot down in a nice way I suggest as mine boyfriend did sitting down and talking to her in a caring respectful manner arguing in sense your case with undenyable facts that are clearly disrespectful and that it is time for her to make a decision, or possibly admit to her lack of wanting to let go and is what possibly using you to hurt him temporarily I mean I'm not saying thats true but I mean ask her does she have future intentions with this man, or you and be there for her if she needs to cry and address issues that she is burying and maybe some of the issues are from her past that are not even related to relationships they could be childhood things, my point is if you sincerely love her and plan to marry this woman any true wife or husband is sapposed to be there thru thick and thin and you'll find yourself doing things that you yourself need and as a result will get in return from your kindness once its recognized. make sense, you need to stand up for yourself and her for the relationship if justified, or move on, good luck KIm
2007-02-22 08:06:45 · answer #2 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women (and most men) love to get attention, and it sounds like this guy is giving her plenty in a sad attempt to get her back.
I would start lavishing attention on her, buy her little gifts, and take her places - that should help fill her need for attention.
Then I would have a little talk with her ex, and explain to him very clearly that if he doesn't quit bugging her (and especially if he doesn't quit telling you to 'leave her alone') that you are going to break his f**king kneecaps. (I don't know if this guy is bigger than you, but it's amazing how much you can even the odds with a bat.)
2007-02-22 07:53:54 · answer #3 · answered by joemammysbigguns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you play with fire you will get burned.
Why are you still holding on to a woman who can't close the door on the past and move on? It should be obvious what is going to happen next, if it hasn't happened already. It's not your problem. It's hers. If you don't look at her and analyze how she makes decisions you are the one who is going to get hurt. Indecision is not a decision. "Mabye, I don't know yet...etc." is the same as no.
Does she have integrity? Does she stand behind her word? Does she want to be with you or him? It's her decision. If she can't make up her mind then are you willing to waste your time when you could be with someone who does? Do you have integrity?
2007-02-22 08:05:17 · answer #4 · answered by SOGWAP37 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its more him than her. I really don't know how old everyone is , but she may be "nice" to him because some women don't believe in burning bridges with "ex's" they may need their help at a later time in their life.
If she decided to move on already, he just has a problem of letting go because of his insecurity...
2007-02-22 07:54:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when are you going to get it. there were feelings there at one time. the person might have turned out to be a loser but while she was with him he was alright, then he messed up. hence the feelings changed. everyone you encounter in your life leave a piece of themselves with you. women happen to be more sentimental than men are.
2007-02-22 07:53:43 · answer #6 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bf of 8 years abused me, but yet I still love him alot, I would take him back today if he was willing, but in my head I know that it just won't work out... It may be a security thing as well...
2007-02-22 08:34:24 · answer #7 · answered by Jasmina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are not shallow people like you are to call someone a loser is merely stating you are a crappy person. Maybe your present girl will get pregnant and then abort your kid per your stand on abortion.
Good luck.
2007-02-23 05:47:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good times and love are hard to forget. Your girl's break with him does not mean they are now enemies. Nice of her to be civil. If you feel threatened, talk to your girl about it.
2007-02-22 07:52:43 · answer #9 · answered by Elder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. I'm mean as hell when my exes try to get into contact with me after they found out that I got married.
2007-02-22 07:53:03 · answer #10 · answered by Meredith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not many woman I know do tolerate that crap, and why are you ??? If she is with you she needs to tell this loser to get lost.
2007-02-22 07:51:21 · answer #11 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋