My boyfriend and I plan on moving in together. We have been together for over 2 years now, and this will be our first time living together. We are getting a 2 bedroom 1 bath. I was just wondering, should we have seperate rooms, but live under the same room, so that if we have an argument ( we tend to argue sometimes, but we love the hell out of each other) we can just go to our own rooms, and I dont want to feel like im invading his space because we are not married yet. Good idea? Or not?
2007-02-22 07:40:43 · 7 answers · asked by Still Standing 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
TV court shows are full of couples who have moved in together unmarried.
To move in with someone before marrying them is to figuratively "put the cart before the horse," i.e., do things seriously out of order.
Unless a couple is married, then they are not really committed. Period. Reason? When two people have taken the time to date and get to know the other to the point that they have committed to the other in the utmost by swearing an oath to God Himself that they will, then they are truly ready to brave life together.
Make no mistake: arguments WILL happen -- it's just a matter of WHEN. Without such a commitment, then there will always be a great, great tendency to not just "go to your rooms" when a disagreement arises, but go your separate ways.
2007-02-22 07:58:31 · answer #1 · answered by calledkevinalot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving in together is almost like being married. You'll get to know things about each other that you maybe didn't need or want to know. I believe you love the hell out of each other. You've been together for two years, so this is probably the next step for you. Turn that second room into an office or a gameroom. Moving in together is all about being in each other's space. If that is something that your relationship cannot withstand, then it wasn't meant to be.
Don't let the fact that you argue sometimes be a factor in your decision. All couples argue(if they don't then there's something wrong there!). Thats just what its all about. If you two want to take this next step together, then you have to be willing to take the good times with the bad. And the number one rule is: Don't ever go to bed mad.
2007-02-22 07:50:01 · answer #2 · answered by starlight_940 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think getting an extra room is the best thing, try and get a two bedroom. It's not just for being mad at each other, but privacy. Everyone needs it and you don't have to mad at one another to want some privacy. I've been married 30 years and if my husband couldn't go in the basement and watch TV, we would be at each others' throats all the time! Good luck to both of you!
2007-02-22 07:47:06 · answer #3 · answered by Lucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have one room, because even if you have an argument, you should never go to bed angry. That's one of the keys to a good relationship - be willing to compromise sometimes (as long as he isn't taking advantage of you).
You should each have your own space though, it's important to have someplace to sit and relax.
2007-02-22 07:45:58 · answer #4 · answered by joemammysbigguns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like a good idea. It's kind of like that saying "If you love somone, let them go." You'll kind of be giving him the space he needs yet loving him because you're under the same roof.
2007-02-22 07:45:14 · answer #5 · answered by lexiss91 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should not move in till uaremarried
2007-02-22 07:44:18 · answer #6 · answered by don d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU CAN JUST HAVE TWO BEDS JUST IN CASE BUT SLEEP IN ONE.
2007-02-22 07:44:53 · answer #7 · answered by vanessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋