My boyfriend asked me if I would like to have sex with his brother and I laughed figuring he was joking, but he didn't laugh.Then I asked him if he was serious and he said "Yea do you want to have sex with my brother or not.He doesn't believe me when I say your good in bed." I was totally shocked and told him "Hell no!!!" He flips out and get upset telling me if I am such a girlfriend I would do whatever he wanted me to.I really like him I mean a lot and to think that I let him down would really hurt my feelings, plus he makes me feel so special and I feel I owe him one.Should I have sex with his brother?
2007-02-22 07:38:45 · 72 answers · asked by @ _ease_wit_lyfe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he obviously doesn't care too much about you if he wants you to have sex with his brother. do not do it. he doesn't respect you at all to even ask a question like that. my first boyfriend used to ask me to have sex with his friends because he was just using me. i would re-think the relatinship if i were you.
2007-02-22 07:42:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is wrong on many levels. No, you should NOT have sex with his brother. It's wrong of him to ask you that, and I know that you may think he cares about you, but when he asked you that question he turned you into a sex object rather than a person. You didn't let him down, and you don't own him anything like that. Also, as his girlfriend, it's nice to respect him to a degree and be a good friend to him, but the title doesn't give him the right to tell you what to do by any means. You do what YOU want to do, and don't let him tell you any differently. I'd consider looking for another boyfriend if I was you; there are plenty of guys in the world that will treat you with respect and love you for who you are, not for having sex with their family member. Either way, it would be a big mistake to have sex with his brother or to even stay with someone like him much longer. Stand up for yourself and be your own person.
2007-02-22 07:57:45 · answer #2 · answered by Jiffer. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One word NO, he sure as hell doesn't respect if he's trying to guilt you into having sex with his brother. Saying that if you're really a good girlfriend you'll do anything I want you too, that's too much. You have a right to be upset at him and to make your own decisions. He's just making you feel special so that he could get you to do whatever he wants for his own selfish reasons. He also seems controlling if he wants you to do whatever he says. Another reason to get out of that relationship.
You're better off finding a better guy that respects your sexual boundaries, and respects you in general.
2007-02-22 07:47:41 · answer #3 · answered by hearts99992000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you INSANE. You must be cause clearly your'e not hearing yourself urself or thinking straight for that matter. You do realize what he's asking you to do right? Does that sound NORMAL to u? Does it sound like a favour a b/f should be asking of his g/f? DOES IT? Girl puh-lease GET A GRIP!! Dump that loser and move on wid ur life. Can't u c he's trying to play u for and IDIOT? What if his brother has some DISEASE like AIDS. Look use ur head and not ur heart. Your b/f is just a jerk who's using u for sex. The mere fact that he's cool wid u sleeping wid someone else shows he doesn't mind doing the same. What if you do it and he dumps u? did u ever consider that that's maybe y he's so insistent that u do it wid his BROTHER?
2007-02-22 07:50:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask us?! I'm sorry to have to tell you this, but your "boyfriend" does not really care about you or respect you if he's asking you (demanding you) to do this. He probably doesn't respect women at all.... or himself for that matter. This is his brother!!! If you do this, you will never feel comfortable around his family again. It's clear that he doesn't plan to keep you around very long. This is a sign that you should run... not walk, but run in the opposite direction and get away from this jerk as fast as you can! And to clearly answer your question, NO - you should not have sex with your boyfriend's brother!!!
2007-02-22 07:51:01 · answer #5 · answered by shanequinox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people do things like this, and when the other partner fulfills their nastiest desires they lose respect for them. The question is do you want to have sex with his brother? If you do the door is open for you to do so, if you don't, then don't! Look it's obvious that your boyfriend has serious issues, and your better off looking for a better mate. You might love him now, but if he doesn't change your going to end up with a nut job down the road.
2007-02-22 07:46:25 · answer #6 · answered by Jimmy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a prostitute? If not, then I would decline the loving offer your BF made you and run for my life--away from BOTH of those losers. Sorry, but you "owe" him having sex with his brother? Who will he prostitute you out to next? His dad, his friends?
I am sorry, but it sounds like you don't think very much of yourself to even consider such a thing. Instead of considering it, you should be thanking your lucky stars you found out what a creep he is and that you were smart enough to get rid of him.
2007-02-22 07:44:21 · answer #7 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK - here is the real and true skinny - Your boyfriend is an abuser and you must dump him now. When he asked and you said "what" and he asked again; you should have whacked him with an iron frying pan and dumped him at the curb. This boyfriend is worthless and has absolutely no feelings for you at all or he would not ask you to "degrade" yourself for his and his brother's pleasure. You know this and you know he is no good. He does not love you no matter what he says. If he loved you even one little tiny bit, he would not have asked this. He is an abuser just using you for sex. Dump him now.
2007-02-22 07:49:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you on crack? NO NO NO, don't do it! How can you think this will make your relationship better? You don't want to let him down??? what if he asked you to shoot heroin or shove razor blades in your eyes? Would you let him down then?
This is ridiculous. Do you not see the issues that will come up if you do this? He will dump you, you will be the girl they brag to their friends about "that they convinced you to do it". Even if he doesn't dump you, he will always look at you as the chic who slept with his brother, how can you expect him to ever forget that?
I'm assuming you're not a whore, so don't let him whore you out!
2007-02-22 07:45:31 · answer #9 · answered by Nichole D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell NO. If he really cared about you so much he wouldnt make you do anything you dont want to do. He definiately shouldnt let you even think ab out sleeping with his brother if he really cares for you. You are a better person then that. It will just cause a mess.
2007-02-22 07:42:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!!!!!!!!! First of all, he should NEVER ask you a question like that.......it shows a SERIOUS LACK OF RESPECT for you which tells me that he really is NOT a good boyfriend. While you would be sad for a while......my suggestion is to dump him.
IF you decide to have sex with his brother to keep him happy...
he will dump you and end up calling you a s lut and tell everyone that you slept with his brother. Basically, it WILL cause
problems in your relationship.
So have a little self respect and stand your ground because
if you are going to lose him.......isn't it better to lose him and
still have your self respect or better to lose him and be known
as the w hore who slept with her boyfriends brother??
2007-02-22 07:46:20 · answer #11 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋