I am not baptized either.
2007-02-22 07:33:32 · 25 answers · asked by heather f 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The Catholic Church allows marriage between Catholics and non-baptized persons. You will have to get permission from the bishop. This is because the Church recognizes the tremendous challenge you have ahead of you.
Make an appointment with your parish priest and talk to him about your situation.
With love in Christ.
2007-02-22 16:24:40 · answer #1 · answered by imacatholic2 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My daughter married under the exact same circumstances in the Catholic church and my other daughter is being married in the Catholic church this July, again to a person not baptised. It is definite you can marry in your situation. However, just like any other faith the priest would expect the Catholic party to be a practising Catholic or intending to practice again. If it is just for the sake of being married in a church he can refuse. There are also priests who will listen to a couple who don't go to any church but really still want their marriage blessed in church and give them a blessing ceremony. I would point out this is not the view of all priests. Nobody really can tell you what will happen in your cicrumstances unless the priest whom you are asking to marry you. I don't think this is correct but what kind of ceremony you have depends on the area you live and the view of the priest. Where I live if marrying under your circumstances there is no problem but you do not get a mass. It is a nice service and built round to suit what the couple would like. An example would be an opening hymn, 2 readings with a Psalm sung in between, taken of the vows, priest saying a few words, bidding prayers, Holy Communion with hymns being sung during Communion, final blessing by the priest, final hymn and signing of the register. Apart from perhaps having 1 reading and the vows anything else can be left out of the ceremony. Within a few miles from where I live the same couple could have mass so as you see only by visiting the priest will you really know how it is where you live. There are also 4 pre marriage classes you are asked to attend here, along with all couples being married in the church that year. This has nothing to do with a couple not being of the same faith as it includes couples who are both Catholic. As someone has already told you, unless the blessing I mentioned the non Catholic partner would be expected to agree to any children of the marriage being brought up Catholc. Good luck! PS The RCIA classes someone mentioned is only if you intend converting and becoming a Catholic
2007-02-22 17:03:24 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can, however there is a process. I'm hoping that you have a couple months before your wedding. I am going through the same thing. I am not baptized and my fiance is Catholic. The Catholic Church requires you to go through a process called pre-cana. You pretty much have to both sign up for the class through the church he is a member of or where you are trying to get married at. Then you attend the series of classes (in FL there is a day long class instead of doing the series of classes over several weeks-- I recommend that) and do a small questionnaire at the Church before the class(es) begin. I must point out however, that you do have to sign a document that states that you will raise your children Catholic even though you are not Catholic. I was unaware of this until I went through the process myself.
2007-02-22 16:22:02 · answer #3 · answered by amyjo_22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! I am a catholic and my fiance isn't ( he isn't baptized either) and we are getting married in MAY !! :) When you go meet with the priest he will let you know that if you marry in the catholic church you are both agreed to raise your children in the catholic church.
best of luck
JG2B
2007-02-22 15:51:35 · answer #4 · answered by JAG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation and we are getting married in June. It does depend on your parish priest. Luckily our priest is a really nice guy and doesn't hold it against me that I'm not Catholic!! There is loads of paperwork to fill out but the priest should help you with that. We haven't had to go to any masses, only one coming up in April which is to celebrate all the couples getting married in this church this year. We did have to do a Catholic care course which takes about 1 hour on a saturday morning which you have to answer about 180 mutliple choice questions. You then have to go and speak about your answers for about an hour. We found this really useful and really funny as its very Americanised. That costs £35. Thats all we've had to do.
I would advised finding out your fiance's local church and contact the priest and take it from there...Good Luck!
2007-02-24 13:18:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can Marry in a catholic church at the discretion of the priest if your partner is a regulare atendee also you would have to take classes in order to be allowed to do so provididng the church is your partners regular church some churches require your solem oath to raise your children the catholic way and this can seem a very big deal its not
you live your life as you wish and i suggest you do things to please each other your marrying each other not the faith or the church if your c of e and him catholic have a high christian wedding its as good as a catholic one
May i wish you all the best and love health and happines always
God \bless xx
2007-02-22 16:11:20 · answer #6 · answered by Black N White Honesty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure you have to be baptised first. They usually ask for your record of baptism. If you have been married before and are now divorced that is another stumbling block in the catholic church.
If you and your partner do not attend church on a regular basis some will ask that you attend for 3 consecutive Sundays. I think though not being baptised is a problem.
If neither of you are particularly religious why not opt for a civil ceremony instead. If you really want a church wedding Methodist churches will usually marry most couples for a fee.
2007-02-22 15:44:10 · answer #7 · answered by Lovewilltearusapart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am cathloc but my fiance is not also. I was baptised, confirmed and made my first communion in the same church. I also had relatives who had their funeral service there so I aquired about getting married there to a christian But not a catholic. They would have done so BUT they wanted us to ensure them - basically swear that we would raise our children catholic.
I did not feel comfortable doing this because we decided we would baptise them catholic but raise them with p[totestant and catholic - allow them to experience both until they were old enough to chose for themselves.
It depends on the church though. Churches also have stipulations on marrying members of their church only.
2007-02-22 15:47:49 · answer #8 · answered by AntDU 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my brother got married to a catholic in a catholic church and he was not a catholic and he was nto baptized either, but i think it depends on the vicar. Hope it all works out.
2007-02-22 19:00:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Heather my wife and I did my wife is Cof E, all that the church required
was that she went with me for a couple of lessons of instruction on the
marriage service. These lasted about an hour. although the priest was trying
to get my wife to convert, but I would not say that this would be every priest's
intention. Anyway it was all very painless and believe it or not this November, we have been happily married for 37 yrs Hope this helps.
2007-02-22 15:45:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋