ok here is the deal i've been with this guy for 3 years straight but if you count all the time we've been friends its like 6 or 7 years. i wanna get married and i know we will eventually but i want to getit done and over with. i'm 19 and thats part of the reason we dont is cause we are still to young but when is the right time to get married? i guess maybe i'm confused about it all but i know he loves me and i love him. what should i do?
2007-02-22 07:30:10 · 13 answers · asked by race queen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok well we already have a house we pay for and have lived together for 2 years.
2007-02-22 07:37:05 · update #1
we have talked about getting married before
2007-02-22 07:40:52 · update #2
Ask him. But if he says no, don't push it. I have found in my on experiences with my partner, that one mention of marriage generally has them running a mile. And sometimes guys like to be the one to ask us. I met my partner when I was 18 and by the time I was 20, I was ready to get married. I told him that I wanted to marry him someday, and he told me that he would, but just not to rush things. I waited a year for him to propose before I asked him, and even then he said no, he told me that he felt a man should ask a woman. And even then, it was another 6 months before he proposed. We have now been engaged for 6 months. I want to get married in April, he wants to get married in October. So yeah, it's a bloody uphill battle.
But also, you are 19, there is plenty of time to get married, if you are going to be with him for the rest of your life anyway, what is the rush? I'm 22 and would ideally like to be married by the time I am 25, but in saying that, my partner and I share finances, live in the same house, have two children together and plan everyday with a consideration for the other person. I am married all but for the piece of paper. Be happy with what you have.
2007-02-22 07:39:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you guys should get married. I mean if your relationship was mature enough, you would have already talked about it and realized you are too young. A piece of paper doesn't change the feelings you guys have for one another. You're not even 21 yet, you don't know what it's like to go to a bar and party and live the young 20's life! And TRUST ME, it's TOTALLY worth living!! You shouldn't tie yourself down too early in life, you'll miss out on ALOT honey!! Do you know the divorce rate of couples being married before 25?? You might think "oh well we're different" but you know what, ALL of those statistics thought "they were different" too. Be realistic here, you guys might very well end up together, but don't rush it. If it's really meant to be, it will happen, totally naturally.
2007-02-22 15:35:44 · answer #2 · answered by slickpam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well tell someone that you want to get married is not easy since you don't know how the other feels about marriage or the relationship itself, Maybe you should talk to him and tell him how you feel and what you want to do but don't be surprised if he is not ready to talk about marriage most guys aren't right away. maybe after sometime bring it up again and see how he feels about it then, take your time and don't rush into things. things will will not go as you expect them to and nothing in life is fair and whoever said so they were lying.
2007-02-22 15:37:20 · answer #3 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, be sure u want it and u are ready for it. If you do and the result is positive, than ask him about that. That's nothing wrong with that, and I think he could understand. Don't be angry with him if he seems unsecure. This marriage stuff is complicated and if you decide without thinkin' it calmly, missunderstandings can get you to a separation, which isn't good, especially in this age. Good luck.
2007-02-22 15:38:40 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young you should wait untill your both ready don't rush into it because it may not work you have time right now to learn more about one another and you should think about the future finacially because you have to have a place to live that means buying a house. There are seveeral factors to consider.
2007-02-22 15:34:25 · answer #5 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both can afford it then it is the time, 6-7 years is a long time. Normally I say wait till you are 25 years but each situation is different. So you can ask it the 21St. century
2007-02-22 15:36:22 · answer #6 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating sense you were sixteen? Emm. Let it be.
You have your whole life ahead of you.
Bringing up marriage might just freak him out, and he might just bail. Let him grow. Get a place together. Read lots of relationship books (Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus really helped my wife and I before we married). Talk a lot, and for God's sake learn how to argue (imporper arguing skills can destroy your).
Most of all do not push it, marriage is a little piece of paper, real marriage is in your heart and soul.
2007-02-22 15:36:44 · answer #7 · answered by Harmon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Seriously. I met my (ex)husband when I was 18, immediately moved in together, got married at 21, and left him at 28. Love was never the problem, I just grew into a woman and he never made it to a man. I feel like I've missed out on the best years of my life, and can never get them back. Live your life, what's right will happen in time.
2007-02-22 15:34:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked about getting married eventually, propose to him, get him a ring and maybe that will make him wake up.
2007-02-22 15:34:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and you know you truly want to be with him.
You ask him!
<3 Good luck!
2007-02-22 15:33:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋