Me and my boyfriend been going out for to years, we are really close to each other, and love each other very much , we both plan to save ourselfs till we're married, he says when he buys his own place , he want's me to move in with him, we plan to get married and have kids in three years, we both go to school , and we both work, the reason why he want's me to move in cause we hardly get to see each other, do you think it's ok If we save areselfs till we're married, and we both do are part of paying the bills??
2007-02-22 07:26:24 · 17 answers · asked by kitty 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Soory , I met 2 years.
2007-02-22 07:28:01 · update #1
Soory I know I spelt things wrong , I ment 2 years.
2007-02-22 07:28:30 · update #2
And how can I tell my family about this.
2007-02-22 07:29:51 · update #3
I think you should move in together, because if you've been with him for 2 years then you both should know you can trust each other. And if you know you can pay your part of the bills then yes it's a good idea. You'll never know what it's like living with the one you know you love.
2007-02-22 07:35:07 · answer #1 · answered by julygirl_101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have everything planned out. That's good. Just be ready in case things change.
Moving in will let you become accustomed to what he's like after he has left you to go home before. Hopefully this new information is usable and won't become a sore spot. Will you still love him if he isn't doing his half of the dishes?
The key to living together is problem solving. Communication is the key.
2007-02-22 15:32:29 · answer #2 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, not being a virgin, I can't really give you too much advice on that, but you should do what makes you comfortable. Talk it over with your boyfriend and remember that life is not always plannable. It's possible to have plans but necessary to amend them to fit life's circumstances. Perhaps it's not a good idea to set a date for having children or getting married for that matter. Let thins happen and enjoy your time with him. Good luck! Figure out who has dish duty by the way!
2007-02-22 15:29:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby? The real truth is. If you move in together? In order to pay all of what youll need to? You won't EVER get to see him. And when you do? You're both gonna be too tired to spend any time together. You need to wait, until you both can get some Education. Then the Income will be better.
2007-02-22 15:31:45 · answer #4 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to suggest an excellent book that I bought for myself once. It is called "shaking up" (the smart girls guide to living in sin without getting burned) by Stacy Whitman.
Moving in with a bf is a big decision. You often hear of guys getting screwed over by their live in gf, well the table works both ways and you could potentially get screwed over too.
I do not think your bfs excuse for moving in together is the right one.
Well, if you get a chance, pick up that book, it honestly has alot of info in it that will help you alot :)
2007-02-22 15:32:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you guys I'm sure makeout and I don't care what you think...you move in together you are just asking for it. You won't save yourselves....it's nature's law. You'll end up having sex. Avoid the temptation and don't do it...or accept the fact that you will have sex and may get pregnant since neither of you have experience. (For example: Guys need time to figure out how to hold themselves or use a condom properly!)
2007-02-22 15:31:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont believe ion waiting till your married as you'll never know what your getting i've went out with a girl for 8 years and left her becuase we couldnt have sex ( i didnt fit) and after years of trying and whatnot our sex life dwindled into nothingness this is not natural read some books and they will tell you teh importance of a strong sex life with your partner i look at it as like buying a car without taking it for a test drive i really think thats a bad idea and as with moving in with him i think thats a great idea your an adult now and are ready for this you'll spend more time with him and find out if you really like him or not you cant tell with causal dating as you dont see the day to day or what hes like when he wakes up or any of that other stuff when you live with a person you cant hide anything it's all out there in the open and what do you lose if things dont work out nothing just move back out again you need some of these experiances before you grow up to figure out what you really want and need
2007-02-22 15:35:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's foolish to 'save' yourself for marriage. Why are you punishing yourself by denying urges? just seems torturous for no reason. Use birth control.
And moving in together first is also a good idea. How do you know you'll really be able to get along until you live together first?
You seem very young based on your question. are you sure you're ready for this?
2007-02-22 15:31:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are asking this question, I figure that you have doubts. I just know the people I know had a better relationship when they waited to move in till after the wedding. Probably because they didn't have the temptation to have as much. they focused their energies to developing their relationship even deeper.
2007-02-22 15:30:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should consider the money you could save by not living together until you are financially and emotionally ready to make that kind of commitment to a relationship.
2007-02-22 15:30:52 · answer #10 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋