well...i am 8 months pregnant i have a 2 year old daughter and a husband but i think he has been cheating on me because i found underwear stuffed under a pillow and i don't know what to do ...i don't want to leave him becaus ehe is the father to my daughter nad my son on the way .. ahhhhh what do i do?????
2007-02-22 07:24:38 · 13 answers · asked by collegemommy101 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
well... the underwear are not mine at all!!
i also found a bra but it was stuffed beneth my bed...he is the father to daughter i love him soooo much , but maybe we aren't mean't to be):
and guess what i found out today at the doctors i amnot having a son....i am having 3 of them!
they couldn't tell because they were hiding!
now i am really stressed!!!!
2007-02-22 07:42:34 · update #1
my husband just came home do i confront him or not? i told him about he triplets and he's jumping around he wants to go buy more cribs right now! but since my daughter is sleeping do i ask him about it or not????
2007-02-22 08:04:49 · update #2
i told him about i what i found ... he is screamed "o my god" to the top of his lungs ...it woke up isabella and now she is crying because it was soooo loud.
he said that when i had went to the mall with isabella , he came home from work with his co-worker and they did it ....he said that it was the best sex ever!!!! i told him to get out of our house and don't come back!
what do i do now?????
2007-02-22 08:39:46 · update #3
confront him, if he is really cheating and in your OWN house then you should leave
2007-02-22 07:27:33 · answer #1 · answered by sasavert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't just stay with someone for the simple fact that he is the father of your children.
I can speak from a cheaters standpoint. I cheated on my fiance once. In a situation he would have never foung out about. I felt so guilty and gross that no more than 48 hours later, I confessed EVERYTHING. Every detail, everything. They say once a cheater always a cheater and that simply isn't the case.
You are pregnant though. With his child and he is doing this to you? You need to find it within yourself to confront him about this and decide for yourself what to do from there.
My incident is very different from yours though. I don't like the fact that he has done this as a father. We had no children at the time.
But the underwear under the pillow is something very serious. Don't let him lie to you and convince you of something silly. Something is going on.
2007-02-22 15:32:26 · answer #2 · answered by Rosemary 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Each and everyone here gave you sound advise. Now is all up to you. By the way I hope all the female readers here learn from you. This is one reason it is a good idea for women all over the world to be educated after high school, get prepare at a university. When a woman decides to have children and then something like this happens, you have to be prepare to support your children. I am sorry lady for your troubles. God be with you.
Men out there stop been whor..s Ladies take heed.
We are here to listen.
Sign. A man.
2007-02-22 15:36:15 · answer #3 · answered by iraqidesertmp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would do 2 things. The first thing I would do is file for divorce.....this man obviously has no respect for you or your family. The second thing I would do is find a new OBGYN....come on....triplets and they didn't know until month 8!!!!!! I've heard of them finding the twin late in a pregnancy, but not TRIPLETS! Oh yeah, and I'd probably also go to my local women's shelter or welfare system and apply for WIC or something similar(where they help with the groceries for mothers and their children in bad/low income situations). So I guess I would do three things.
2007-02-28 13:42:31 · answer #4 · answered by ldlivengood 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to confront him about that because you are his wife and you have that right. Also, if you are still getting initimate he is putting you and your triplets at risks of catching a STD.
By the way congratulations.. This should be a happy moment for you guys. I do not think that you should break up with him because you are going to need his help, when you have your babies.
Try getting counseling instead... Good luck to all of you!!!
2007-02-22 16:17:13 · answer #5 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. He is cheating on you regardless of what he might say to you about the female clothing you found. Get out and move on with your life and make him pay support for the children. He will never change.
2007-03-01 23:01:03 · answer #6 · answered by andyt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him, show him the underwear....what nerve he has to cheat on you in your own house.......first you better be sure those undies arent yours though! He will probably try to blame it on a buddy or totally deny it.....dont buy it! If he has been cheating leave his ***......you dont deserve that and your babies dont deserve a cheating dad.........you can do it on your own!
2007-02-22 15:34:51 · answer #7 · answered by lin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you want to do? can you live without him? or can you live with him cheating on you. You can also confront him and let him chose. But let him understand that trust is going to be very hard to regain.
2007-02-22 15:30:04 · answer #8 · answered by Laurellamags 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you confront the bastard about what you found. i would leave my hubby regardless. he obviously has no respect for you or your children if he's cheating on you while you are pregnant. i would go get yourself checked for STD's just in case.
2007-02-22 15:28:04 · answer #9 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront him. Let him know you found it and give him a chance to explain.
If his explination in't good enough for you, then leave him. You want to be happy too.
2007-02-22 15:28:39 · answer #10 · answered by Maddy G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront him, it's the only way to find out the truth and get the answers you need.
2007-02-22 15:46:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋