have been seeing this guy for about a month and a half "offical" for 2 weeks im his first gf in 2 yrs.when we first started hanging out he would make EVERY effort to see me(never alone tho always with friends)the first week we became gf/bf, i saw him almost everyday.last thurs we all went to a barand i saw a 1 of his friends(girl)getting too close to him & i freaked.he didnt talk to me all friday and half of sat.i didnt see him again until tuesday this week he seemed SO happy to see me(no we didnt have sex).I straight up asked him if he wants to be with me and he said of course i do.i asked him if h wanted to meet up last night when he was done helping his buddies with something and he said possibly.I called back after and said that i wanted a answer and i want to see him more.he said he would "figure it out"and call me back.HE never did!!I dont want to be a nag BUT this is going to ruin this.i barely call him,so im not really needy,i just think we need to develop our relationship!
2007-02-22 07:24:23 · 8 answers · asked by kimmy_717 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Should i call him after work? a bunch of us are supposed to be going to the bar 2nite..I want to make this work and its REALLY weird that i am getting so worked up over this guy, I just really see this going somewhere good, but i feel like im ruining it, and kinda like he is too!
2007-02-22 07:25:43 · update #1
BTW im 20, hes 24
2007-02-22 07:25:58 · update #2
It's time to end it girlie. We all hear about red flags to watch our for in relationships. We've seen 4 of them already and it's not even been 2 months yet: 1) He has a friend of the opposite sex who is too affectionate. That is ALWAYS trouble. If he really liked you, that other girl wouldn't be a problem because he wouldn't put up with it. 2) After he sees this girl, he doesn't call you for a full day and a half. Are you kidding me??!! One would think that after a girl is all over you and your girlfriend is watching, your girlfriend may need a little reassurance that you're with HER and not the other girl. He didn't seem to care and he probably didn't. 3) He seemed VERY happy to see you. This one is basic mathematics. He's feels guilty about something. Maybe he hooked up with her, maybe he didn't, but he's hiding something... 4) He told you he'd call you and he didn't. That, sweetheart, is the ultimate slap in the face. And listen to me here...he LITERALLY told you he doesn't care about you. When you tell someone you care about, even a little bit , that you're going to do something, you do it. Especially if it's as simple as calling you...he didn't even do THAT.
I don't want to be mean because it's obvious you really like this guy but if you want to save yourself a lot of heartache and drama down the road you need to go ahead and end it. Maybe he IS a good guy, maybe you ARE overreacting, and maybe this is all in your head, maybe he DIDN'T hook up with that girl, maybe he honestly forgot to call you...all of that is possible...but VERY unlikely. There are too many questions, too many red flags, and too much untrustworthy behavior, and it is WAY too early in the relationship for that. And that feeling you have that thinks that "something good is going to come of this" is called the "new" of a realtionship. It's misleading, I know. We've all been there. But don't mistake the "new" for a good relationship. Do yourself a favor and get out, now.
2007-02-22 07:51:15 · answer #1 · answered by Eddie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he still talking to the ex-girlfriend and u feel jealous, then ignore him for week or just talk him straight forward about the situation. He must like u for who u are not for what u are unless u like both. You could give him a little taste of jealousy also unless u don't want to work him like that and u could just make a friendship relationship instead.
2007-02-22 15:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by daniel_grvs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Refer to the girls vs. grown women poem.
Girls want to control the man in their life.
Grown women know that if he's truly hers, he doesn't need controlling.
Girls check you for not calling them.
Grown women are too busy to realize you hadn't.
Girls try to monopolize all their man's time (i.e., don't want him hanging with his friends).
Grown women realize that a lil' bit of space makes the 'together time' even more special -
and goes to kick it with her own friends!
2007-02-22 15:37:03 · answer #3 · answered by marquella_la_nice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you ever think maybe he doesnt want a relationship ..if he really wanted things to be serious with u he want to spend time with u since u have only been together a month i say hes probably a player becareful dont get to caught up your gonna get hurt
2007-02-22 15:33:03 · answer #4 · answered by lilshorty5366 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say give it some time and let him figure out what he wants guys dont like girls who nag them alot so just be patient good luck
2007-02-22 15:32:01 · answer #5 · answered by ashley_davis957 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he ain't too serious about you.
2007-02-22 15:32:23 · answer #6 · answered by H.B.K. 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't I see this question already?
2007-02-22 15:30:32 · answer #7 · answered by nikkid6910705 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should devolp more in your realatetionship so you can call him and tell how you feel about this.
2007-02-22 15:31:07 · answer #8 · answered by greenday girl/ rock angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋